18/08/2025
10 Reasons Why You Should Not Deny Your Spouse of S*x
S*x in marriage is not just a physical act, it is connection, healing, bonding and covenant renewal. Sadly, many couples turn it into punishment or weapon, not knowing they are gradually destroying the very foundation of their home. When you deny your spouse, you don’t just deny the body, you deny the heart.
Below are 10 deep and emotional reasons why you must never deny your spouse of s*x:
1. It Creates Emotional Distance
S*x is not just body to body, it is heart to heart. Whenever a spouse is constantly denied, they begin to feel rejected and unwanted. The warmth between you disappears, replaced with silence and emotional distance. Two people in the same room, but miles apart in the heart.
2. It Opens the Door to Temptation
A hungry person will start noticing food everywhere. When a husband or wife is starved in marriage, the devil quickly arranges someone outside who is willing. Not because they want to sin, but because they feel lonely and ignored. Don't give Satan keys to your bedroom.
3. It Breeds Resentment
When you deny your spouse frequently, bitterness begins to grow. They may not say it out loud, but inside they feel anger and pain. That resentment will soon appear in their attitude, their tone, and even their willingness to help you. Unmet needs lead to silent anger.
4. It Kills Communication and Joy
A couple that no longer connects s*xually will find it difficult to laugh together. Small issues become big fights. S*x is like oil in the engine of marriage — without it, everything starts making noise. Happiness reduces, and the home becomes dry.
5. It Makes Marriage Look Like Punishment
Marriage should be sweet and joyful. But when one spouse is denied, marriage begins to feel like prison—full of rules, anger, and punishment. This is why some men dread coming home, and why some women cry silently at night. Don't turn the covenant of love into a cage of frustration.
6. It Hurts Self-Esteem
S*xual denial makes a man feel unattractive and makes a woman feel undesired. They start asking themselves, “Am I not good enough?” It attacks their confidence and identity as a spouse. A simple ‘no’ in the bedroom can echo loudly in their mind for days.
7. It Steals Intimacy and Trust
S*x builds deep trust and vulnerability between couples. When it is denied, that vulnerability disappears. The spouse starts to hide their feelings and needs because they expect rejection. That secrecy kills transparency and trust, and before long, secrets grow.
8. It Becomes a Bad Example for Children
Children can sense tension even without seeing what is happening in the bedroom. When you deny your spouse and walk around angry and cold, the children notice. They grow up thinking marriage is full of unhappiness and emotional starvation. You may be teaching your children to neglect their own spouses in the future.
9. It Breaks the Covenant of Companionship
S*x is part of the covenant God gave for marriage. When you got married, you became one flesh. Denying s*x is like tearing that oneness apart. It is a violation of the companionship God commanded. You are not just denying a body; you are breaking a God-given covenant.
10. It Blocks the Flow of Love and Healing
S*x in marriage releases hormones that build peace, love and healing. It softens the heart and washes away stress. Couples who make love regularly are happier, more forgiving, and more emotionally stable. Denying s*x blocks that healing process and keeps your home tense and dry.
Final Words
My beloved, denying your spouse is not just “saying no” to s*x — it is saying no to intimacy, companionship, peace and trust. Even if you are tired or angry, learn to communicate with love. Let the bedroom remain a place of connection, not punishment. S*x is not just a physical activity — it is ministry to your spouse.
Let your marriage bed be filled with love, playfulness, connection and joy. When you freely give yourself to your husband or wife, you are watering your own garden. Don’t wait until the garden dries up completely.
