12/05/2024
I have something bothering me and I don't know if it's right. My guy is presently not in the country. He is in Ghana and I am in nigeria working. He has introduced me to his mother and the mother accepts me. I am working but there is something the mother is doing that I don't like. In December last year she sent me a list of things to buy for her. She wrote two bags of rice. One for her and one for her sister. Provisions and 5 cartons of noodles and a cash of 50k to buy her Christmas clothes.
So I asked her if the list is for her son, and she said her son doesn't have money yet, that I should buy them. For peace to reign o, I bought the things for her. Something I did not even do for my own mother, I was doing it for another woman. Later again around February she requested for 200k to start palm oil business.
When I told her I don't have, she should ask her son and she said, hope I know my fate is in her hand. That she has the power to make her son not to marry me again. So I sent the money to her. A month later again, she told me her daughter's phone was stolen and that she needs to buy a new phone. So I sent 50k to her and she said the money is not enough that she is using phone of 250k. That I should send extra 200k to her.
And that was when I said no. Enough. I told my fiancΓ©e about it and he said does it mean I will not take care of his family when he marries me? I had to tell him that I don't have such amount of money they are demanding. I only earn 80k from my work. And his family is trying to exhaust my savings. I don't have. And he said I should look for a way to give the sister the remaining 200k or I should forget about the marriage.
I have been crying since he told me this. I don't have 200k with me. The only money in my savings is 102K. I don't know what to do. He is so serious about breaking up with me, if I don't give the sister the money.
Help me I need advice on how to solve this. I am afraid of losing him.