Chinwe Writes, Afikpo (2025)

18/08/2025

Take charge of your life!

No one is coming to do it for you.

You are your responsibility.

The day you accept this truth is the day you stop waiting, stop blaming, and start living.

Know this… and know peace.

16/08/2025

Always a Teacher !

Morning folks ❤️

15/08/2025

And she begins ❤️

15/08/2025

Kodo!

See ehn, I’ve been minding my business on this coach… or so I thought. But for the past two hours, my eyes have been conducting deep research on bald heads. 🤣

Why do they shine like that? Is there a special “kodo oil” I don’t know about? Because these ones are glistening!

I’ve seen round ones, oval ones, even some with that proud mountain peak in the middle. My mind is quietly ranking them based on shape, symmetry and reflectiveness.

And just now, another kodo has relocated to the row right in front of me. At this point, it’s not a coach anymore , it’s a Kodo Convention. 😅

15/08/2025

Road trips… oh, how they feed my soul.

The quiet stretches of road, the long silences that somehow speak the loudest, the podcasts that feel like secret conversations, the soft hum of meditation, and the trees swaying like loyal travel companions keeping pace with me. My inner child beams ,she’s on cloud nine.

The only thing missing is my co-pilot in love and in life… but he’ll be fine. For now, it’s just me, the open road, and the gentle joy of being fully present.

There’s something about road trips they’re not just journeys, they’re little love letters to yourself.

14/08/2025

You see this holiday ehn… I thought the plan was simple: extra lessons in the day, laptop only when it’s allowed. Everybody happy.

But no… the Nwa oke in my house had other plans.

Apparently, while I was peacefully sleeping one night, dreaming of my village compound, my son decided to transform into an undercover agent.
Mission: Steal Laptop.

Code name: Operation Mummy Won’t Know.

So what did he do?
Crawled yes, crawled out of his room like a soldier in training, tiptoed into the sitting room, and started playing on his laptop like he had paid rent.

What he forgot is that… I’m not just Mummy, I’m Nurse Mummy.

Years of night duty have trained me to hear a mosquito’s cough two streets away.

I have ears behind my head and eyes that work even when my eyes are closed.

I came downstairs quietly.
He was so deep in his game, he didn’t notice.
I just tapped his shoulder.

The way he jumped, ehn even Spiderman would clap for him.

These kids think they are smarter than us, but they forget we wrote the textbook on “I know what you’re doing before you do it.”

Na only me waka come? Because I don see shege this holiday. 🤣

14/08/2025

Nice Girls Don’t Get Rich ,Let’s Talk About It!

When I first heard the phrase “Nice girls don’t get rich”, I rolled my eyes. I thought, “Abeg, who wrote this nonsense? Is it a crime to be nice?”

But let me gist you… Life taught me that there’s “nice” and then there’s too nice. I don’t even believe in being nice anymore, I’m kind but not nice

Nice/ Too nice is when you:

Work overtime but never ask for a raise because you “don’t want to cause wahala.”

Lend money you can’t afford to lose because “they will think I’m wicked if I say no.”

Say yes to every favour, every invitation, every “can you just…” until your own dreams are starving.

Stay quiet when you deserve to speak because you don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable except yourself.

Let me tell you, the world rewards value, not victimhood. Being kind is beautiful. But being a doormat? That’s a career in poverty.

Rich women and I’m not just talking money, I mean rich in influence, options, peace know how to say:

No. Without guilt.
Pay me. Without stuttering.
I deserve better. Without apology.

The problem is… we were raised to think that being “good” means being agreeable at all times.
But guess what?

You can be good and still have boundaries.

You can be warm and still have a backbone. You can be kind and still send your invoice.

So yes ,Nice girls don’t get rich.

Smart, kind, boundaried girls do.

And we’re allowed to be that.

Tell me are you still playing “nice” or are you learning the art of “polite power”?

14/08/2025

Throwback Thursday

You see ehn… when I first came here, Lots of things were new , My eyes were still big with excitement… until I met The Enemy , the industrial washing machine and dryer .

In Naija, my washing machine na something wey you just press button and walk away, But this one?

This one came with plenty English instructions and a face like it was ready to fight.

Day one, I said, “How hard can it be?” I put in my clothes, poured Omo, pressed something that looked like start.

Next thing the machine started spinning like it was auditioning for a dance video. Clothes knocking from left to right.

I panicked. I thought, “Ah! This thing wan disgrace me and I lived in a massive university student’s complex, small small pikin them go pass look me, smile.

I tried to open it mid-spin. The machine said, “Not today, Chynwe.” Locked. Tight.

The more I pressed buttons, the more it hissed and shook. I sat down in front of it like I was doing night vigil.

After 2 hours, it finally stopped… only for me to realize I had set it to the “Intensive Heavy Duty Super Long” cycle meant for carpets and thick blankets.

There was instructions on how to use written oo, chynwe kuku did not read.

My clothes came out hot like freshly baked bread.

Life abroad will humble you in the smallest ways.

Don’t be too proud to read the manual , for machines and for life, same applies to work, read policies like your life depends on it.

So tell me what’s one “small thing” that humbled you because you refused to read.

13/08/2025

Margarine? Leave It Alone!

You see that yellow spread you’re happily slathering on bread?

Ehn… pause and think about it. Margarine is literally one ingredient away from petrol. Yes, you read that right PETROL.

History gist: during the war, when real butter was scarce, margarine was created to fatten people up cheaply. It wasn’t born out of love for your health, my dear.

So if you must indulge, take the natural route ,a little butter here and there. At least your body knows what to do with it.

Your body is not a dumping ground. Feed it well, treat it kindly, and it will serve you for years.

💜

because health is the real luxury

13/08/2025

When Eating Stops Being About Hunger…”

We’ve all had those days when the ice cream tub mysteriously empties itself… or the chin-chin disappears before the guests arrive.

But Binge Eating Disorder is not about the occasional overindulgence at Christmas or that Saturday jollof rice.

It’s a serious eating disorder where someone eats unusually large amounts of food in one sitting and feels completely out of control while doing it.

No purging, no throwing up afterward… just an overwhelming wave of guilt, shame, and discomfort once it’s over.

What It Looks Like:
Eating very quickly, even when not hungry.

Eating until painfully full.

Eating alone to hide the quantity.

Feeling disgusted or depressed after eating.

A constant cycle of “I’ll start my diet tomorrow” that never really starts.

Why It’s Not Just About Willpower:

BED isn’t solved by “just eat less.”
It’s linked to emotions, stress, trauma, or using food as a coping tool.

The body suffers with risks like obesity, diabetes, high blood pressure, and heart problems but the mind suffers too, with self-esteem taking daily punches.

How to Help (Yourself or Someone Else):
Seek professional support therapists, dietitians, or support groups.

Avoid food shaming. It makes things worse.

Focus on emotional healing, not just calorie counting.

Encourage balanced eating and mindful habits without pressure.

Food should be a source of nourishment and joy, not a source of punishment.

If you recognise yourself in this, you’re not alone and recovery is possible.

12/08/2025

When Food Becomes a Cycle of Guilt…”

Some people eat when they’re happy.
Some eat when they’re sad.

But for someone living with Bulimia Nervosa, food is both a friend and an enemy ,all in the same hour.

Bulimia isn’t “overeating” or “no self-control.”
It’s a serious eating disorder where a person has episodes of eating large amounts of food (binging) and then tries to “undo” it by making themselves vomit, taking laxatives, fasting, or exercising excessively (purging).

It’s not about greed it’s about an emotional struggle with food, body image, and self-worth.

From the outside, the person might look perfectly healthy which is why it often goes unnoticed.

Signs you might see

Frequent trips to the bathroom after meals.

Swollen cheeks or jaw (from repeated vomiting).

Constant weight fluctuations.

Obsession with dieting or body shape.

Hiding food or eating in secret.

Calluses on fingers from self-induced vomiting.

Why it’s dangerous:

Bulimia can damage teeth, harm the digestive system, throw the body’s electrolytes off balance, and even cause heart problems.

How to help:

Don’t shame. Don’t joke about it.

Listen. Support. Encourage professional help.

Because healing from bulimia isn’t about just eating right it’s about untangling years of emotional and mental pain tied to food.

Food is meant to nourish, not punish. If you or someone you know is caught in this cycle, there’s hope and help available.

12/08/2025

Our Relationship With Food Can Be Complicated…”

For some, food is comfort.
For others, it’s a celebration.
But for too many, food slowly becomes the enemy.

An eating disorder is not just “being picky” or “trying to stay slim.” It’s a serious mental health condition that affects how someone thinks, feels, and behaves around food and their body. And yes ,it can be life-threatening.

There are many types

Anorexia nervosa,

Bulimia nervosa,

Binge eating disorder,

ARFID- Avoidant restrictive food intake disorder

OSFED- other specified feeding or eating disorder

Rumination disorder

and Pica

Today, let’s talk about Anorexia Nervosa.

Anorexia nervosa isn’t simply “not eating.”
It’s a deep, persistent fear of gaining weight, paired with a distorted body image.

Someone with anorexia may be dangerously underweight but still look in the mirror and think, “I’m fat.”

They may severely limit their food, exercise excessively, or avoid eating in front of others.

How to Identify Possible Signs of Anorexia Nervosa:
(Remember , these signs may vary, but they’re worth noticing)

Dramatic weight loss over a short period.

Obsession with calories, dieting, and food rules.

Skipping meals or eating tiny portions.

Wearing baggy clothes to hide weight loss.

Excessive exercise, even when tired or injured.

Refusing to eat in public or with others.

Complaints about “feeling fat” despite being very thin.

Preoccupation with body shape and size.

How You Can Help Someone Struggling:

Approach with empathy, not judgment.

Avoid comments about their weight focus on their well-being.

Open the conversation gently.
“I’ve noticed you’ve been skipping meals… how are you feeling lately?” works better than “You’re too thin!”

Encourage professional help.
Eating disorders are medical and psychological treatment often needs both doctors and therapists.

Be patient.
Recovery takes time. Your role is to support, not to force.

Educate yourself.
The more you understand the disorder, the better you can offer real help instead of harmful comments.

Remember: Eating disorders thrive in silence and shame.

Your kindness and awareness could be the lifeline someone needs to step into recovery.

Because sometimes, saving a life starts with noticing what’s missing… on their plate and in their smile.

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