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Love, Relationship and Marriage Counsellor, Asokoro (2025)

27/08/2025

When Pretence Meets Karma 🙆
There’s an old saying: “When breeze blow, fowl yansh go show.” In simple terms, no matter how long you pretend, truth will always reveal itself.

For years, Yul and Judy packaged their union as love. Dancing on social media, acting as though they were the happiest couple alive, painting pictures of a peaceful paradise.

But deep down, many knew it was nothing but a façade—an attempt to cover shame and avoid public ridicule. Now, the cracks are beginning to show.

Yul no longer posts about Judy. The endless dancing and exaggerated show of affection have suddenly gone silent. Even their conversations, when leaked, tell a story of turbulence, not romance.
As Very Dark Man once said in his videos, “Pretense no dey last forever.” that the both of them are only pretending. And now, it is playing out live. Their so-called heaven is gradually turning into a battlefield. This is the true meaning of karma knows your address.

You can run, you can act, you can pretend—but you cannot escape the consequences of actions built on deceit, betrayal, and falsehood. Watch the video. I know some OLODOS will say its doctored. Dear side chicks! Leave people's husbands alone🙄😂🚶‍♂️. Chizobam Lucy Durugo Edi ✍️ CLED 🤣

27/08/2025

💎 Dear Married Women: Secure Your Future, Secure Your Name! 💎

This generation is not like that of our forefathers where women blindly trusted without securing themselves. Times have changed, and wisdom demands that you must secure your name and your future.

✅ On Property Documents
Don’t just allow your name to appear as “Mr. & Mrs Desmond Chidi Nwachukwu .” That title "Mrs" is generic. Any woman can be called “Mrs.” Instead, insist that your full names be boldly written: “Mr. Desmond Chidi Nwachukwu and Mrs. Chioma Veronica Nwachukwu.” That way, nobody can erase your identity or question your place.

✅ When He Buys Alone
If your husband acquires property singlehandedly and refuses to include your name, don’t fight him. It is his choice. Respect it. But let that be your signal to hustle, work hard, and acquire yours too and avoid his name. Because there is no law on earth that forbids a woman from buying or owning property in her own name.

✅ When You Buy
If you acquire a property before him or even during the marriage, write your full name on it as well. Ownership should be clear and direct. Do not hide behind tradition, beliefs or sentiments.

✅ Why It Matters
I’ve seen men who buy properties and deliberately exclude their wives. Some even transfer them secretly to relatives especially their mums. Tomorrow, when life happens, the woman and children are left stranded and to suffer . Don’t wait to be a victim. Build and Secure yourself while building with him.
Some genuine men who truly loves you will invest in you and support you in building yourself, cherish those few but there are some who won't because they feel insecured.

✅ The Call to Women
Ladies, the truth is simple: Do not be a liability. Relying 100% on a man is risky in this generation. Many women today are doing even better than men because they embraced independence. Step up, embrace the call of endless possibilities, build your worth, and create value for yourself and your family.

✨ Marriage is partnership, not slavery. Love is beautiful, but wisdom sustains it. Build together if possible, but if not, build yourself regardless.
Chizobam Lucy Durugo Edi ✍️ CLED

"Truth over lies"
Do you agree with this? Pls share your thoughts on the comment section.

18/08/2025

A Generation Losing Its Way: Where Did We Fail?

This is the reality of many young ladies today. What used to be done in secret is now flaunted openly. Some even see it as a badge of honor. The saddest part is that many of these girls are lured into dangerous traps, only to end up in the hands of ritualists. Families are left to mourn because a daughter chose the fast lane.

Not long ago, a young lady was trending on social media. She openly bragged about how she sleeps with men just to maintain her lifestyle—bags, wigs, phones, and trips. When people criticized her, she boldly said, “Decency doesn’t pay bills.”

Our young men are not left behind either. Yahoo scams and ritual killings have now become the “new hustle.” A boy who works hard and earns little is mocked as a failure, while fraudsters and ritualists are celebrated as role models. Many of them flaunt flashy cars and expensive clothes, but behind it is blood, tears, and pain.

So I ask again: Where did we get it wrong?
👉 Did parents fail in raising their children with values and discipline?
👉 Is it the peer pressure and desperate need for validation in a world controlled by social media likes and fake lifestyles?
👉 Or is it simply the insatiable love of money that has blinded this generation?

One thing is certain: we are fast losing the very fabric of our society—decency, morals, and the dignity of labor. And if nothing is done, the future looks even darker.

The truth is bitter, but it must be said: Not every fast lane leads to success. Some lead straight to destruction.

💭 What’s your honest opinion—who do we blame, and how do we fix this?

Love, Relationship and Marriage Counsellor ... ✍️ LRMC.

ᩣシ

15/08/2025

🚨 When Clout Becomes Colder Than a Hospital Ward 🚨

Uche Maduagwu, this isn’t about Phyna changing her father’s name.
It’s about her sister lying in a hospital bed — one leg gone, the other hanging by a thread.
And instead of showing sympathy, you chose to drag in irrelevant drama for clicks and clout.

This isn’t “keeping it real,” it’s losing your humanity.
Some moments aren’t for content — they’re for compassion.
Learn the difference.

Not every trending tragedy is a stage for you to perform on, Uche. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say… is nothing.
ᩣシ

11/08/2025

One content creator I deeply respect in this space is Nkubi and his family. It takes incredible emotional strength and thick skin to create content for a toxic Nigerian audience that can spew vile comments without a second thought.

Just take a look at his comment section—it’s a war zone. Yet, day after day, he shows up proudly with his lovely wife, and that has taught me so much.

They’ve insulted his wife and even his daughter, calling them unprintable names. What’s most annoying is that many of these attacks come from women—some trapped in unhappy marriages, others unmarried with no idea what the future holds. Why not leave them alone and face your own problems?

The irony is, if Nkubi had been begging for alms or feeling inferior because of his physical condition, these same people would have looked down on him with disdain. The trolling once targeted Keke Nolly, and when they got tired, they moved on to Nkubi. Can we just let this man, his wife, and daughter breathe?

I’m glad Nkubi didn’t listen to the trolls. Instead, he turned their noise into fortune.

In this game of life, you have to be dogged and shrewd to win. There’s no space for shyness or excuses. Show up as your authentic self, and your tribe will find you.

When I hear men say they can’t marry “because of money,” I know they’re not serious. There are women willing to build with you from scratch—unless you are the one not ready.

Many accused Nkubi’s wife of marrying him for money or fame, but she shocked everyone when she posted their old photos and revealed they’ve been together since 2015—long before the fame. This woman genuinely loves him. She made a choice many of you wouldn’t, so why not let her enjoy her marriage in peace?

Nkubi is living proof that in this life, no one is coming to save you—you have to save yourself.
ᩣシ

11/08/2025

Never Give Up in Life

Life is a journey filled with twists, turns, and unexpected detours. At times, it feels like a smooth road under the warm sun, and other times it feels like a steep climb in the dark with no torch in hand. But no matter how uncertain, painful, or slow the journey gets, one truth must remain at the core of our hearts: Never give up in life.

Challenges will always come. They are not signs that we are failing; they are proof that we are alive and growing. Even the strongest trees have weathered storms before standing tall. Every great inventor faced moments of doubt. Every successful person you admire today had nights they cried in silence, mornings they woke up tired of trying, and moments they almost quit. But the reason their names shine today is because they pushed forward when it felt impossible.

Giving up might look like the easiest escape, but it always robs you of the blessings waiting just beyond the struggle. The seed buried in darkness may think it’s the end, but in truth, it’s only the beginning of growth. In the same way, the challenges you face now are not to destroy you, but to prepare you for your harvest.

When you feel tired, rest—don’t quit. When doors close, knock on new ones. When your plans fail, make new plans. Every setback is a setup for a comeback, and every delay hides a lesson or a blessing. Life rewards those who keep showing up, even with trembling hands and a wounded heart.

So, hold on. Pray if you believe. Work if you can. Wait if you must. But never give up. Your story is still unfolding, and the best chapters are yet to be written.
Chizobam Lucy Durugo Edi ✍️. [CLED] 10th August 2025.

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11/08/2025

When Greed Entered the House of God

Beloved, it is a grievous thing when the place that should be a refuge for the weary becomes a market for sin. The house of God is meant to be a sanctuary of prayer, a fountain of righteousness, a dwelling where broken lives are mended. Yet, when greed creeps in, when the lust for wealth takes the throne, the altar becomes polluted, and the pulpit turns into a platform for iniquity.

How tragic it is to see a shepherd abandon his calling to become a merchant of death! Imagine — a man once called “Prophet” using his position not to feed the sheep, but to traffic the very poison destroying souls. He stands in robes on Sunday morning, but behind closed doors, his hands are stained with the dust of cannabis and the residue of opioids. Such is the story that has shaken our land — the arrest of one who called himself “General Overseer” yet was a general in the army of darkness.

The National Drug Law Enforcement Agency (NDLEA), through tireless pursuit, pulled back the curtain on his double life. While the congregation prayed, their pastor plotted. While the faithful lifted hymns, he ferried tonnes of “Ghana Loud” from foreign shores. And though he twice slipped the net and fled to Ghana, the long arm of justice caught him at the very door of the church he defiled.

But his story is not alone. Across Lagos, Kano, Gombe, Nasarawa, and Edo, the same venom flows — tonnes of Skunk, Colorado, and Loud; hundreds of thousands of opioid pills hidden in bags, buses, and even private apartments. Men and women given over to greed, trading the future of our youths for fleeting riches.

Beloved, what shall we say to these things? Judgment may be delayed, but it is never denied. A man may hide from men, but he cannot hide from the eyes of Him who sees all. The wages of sin remain the same, no matter the title before your name.

Let this be a warning: the anointing is not a license for evil, and the cassock cannot cover a corrupt heart. When a minister of the Gospel becomes a minister of destruction, the fall is not only his but a wound to the faith of many.

May the Lord raise true shepherds who will guard the flock, not exploit it. May He cleanse His house from every defilement, and may those who trade in death find no rest until they turn from their wicked ways. For the Church must remain holy, and the altar must not be a staging ground for hell.

ᩣシ

10/08/2025

Hmmmmmm..... empty promises

10/08/2025

I married a single mother and I'm beginning to regret it 😰😭😭😭

I met my wife at her friend's wedding. She told me she was a mother of two children and showed me her two children who were at the wedding (a 13 year old boy and a 16 year old girl). I told her l have a child too although my daughter and her mother were outside the country 🫶🙁

We hit it off and soon we started dating. A year into our relationship we got married. Things were good while we were dating. Her kids were respectful to me and we all had a cordial
relationship although not as close as l'a like it to be
They moved In with me after the wedding. At first things were good but soon issues started creeping in slowly. Their biolog!cal father and mother were in a relationship since secondary school and they had the daughter while she was in the university and the son after she graduated. They broke up due to some reason and just co parent their kids now….😩

Our pr0blems started with the fact that their father is too involved in their lives. He attends every open day competition event etc that requires his presence. I married my wife and in that moment it meant that I decided to step up and be a father to those children but they wouldn't let me….💁

I told my wife to ask him to cut down on his involvement in their lives since I was now in the picture but she told me not to worry. Coupled with this is the fact that they refused to call me Dad. They refer to me as sir or Mr. I have told my wife severally to ask them to refer to me as Dad but they refuse to do so…..😰😰

Also despite the fact that they live under my roof they look to their father for validation for everything. If he says go they will go and if he says don't go they won't go even if l have a
contrary opinion. This has had a toll on me as I feel I have no contr0l over my own home. I have no control over my familyy

My story comes to a headway when her daughter l0st her phone recently which was an iPhone 8plus. I promised to change the phone and the next day I'came home with an iPhone 11 pro max for her only to meet her holding an iPhone 11. She said her father got it for her and dropped it off that evening while I was still at work…..😳😳

I showed her the one l got but she said she'd rather stick to the one her father got for her. She hugged and thanked me and told me she appreciated me for getting her the phone. I called my wife to the side and asked her why she allowed him get the phone when I had already told her I was going to replace her phone the previous night…..🤭

My wife told me it wasn't a big deal and thanked me for buying the phone anyways. She told me l could return the phone or we could give it to anyone we knew In need of a phone. I l0st it at that moment and although I could have handled things better, I lashed out and yelled at them…. I can’t take it anymore

In summary,I told them if their Daddy was so important and perfect and they didn't need me why then don't they just go live With him and stay away from my house. My step daughter burst into tears and ran upstairs. She came back down with a bag and left for her Dad's house. Her mum tried stopping her but she refused and got into a ride and left the house…..hmmm

She has refused to come home and my wife has tried everything. Her father said he wasn't going to for

07/08/2025

2027: Jonathan Set to Run for Presidency, Says PDP Ally

Former President Goodluck Jonathan is preparing to contest the 2027 presidential election, a close ally within the People’s Democratic Party (PDP) has revealed.

According to the source, the plan to draft the Bayelsa-born former leader back into the race is already well advanced, and Jonathan has agreed to run under the PDP platform. The move, the ally said, is being championed by influential political figures and elder statesmen who believe Jonathan’s return could help tackle rising p%verty, economic hardship, and widespread s¥ffering across the country.

Supporters of the initiative argue that Jonathan brought stability and economic progress during his six years in office, and believe his return offers a chance to rescue Nigeria from its current challenges. They are also reportedly positioning his candidacy as a transitional option, since Jonathan can legally serve only one more four-year term. This, they believe, would pave the way for power to return to the North in 2031, potentially allowing an uninterrupted eight-year northern presidency.

The source disclosed that Jonathan has already held private consultations with prominent national figures, both within and outside the PDP. Notably, he recently met with former military President Ibrahim Babangida at his Minna residence to discuss his plans. Although Babangida’s response was not disclosed, the ally expressed confidence that the proposal has gained traction in the North.

Meanwhile, Jonathan is said to be actively engaging political stakeholders in the South-South region, seeking their endorsement and backing ahead of a formal announcement.

If confirmed, Jonathan’s return would set the stage for a high-profile rematch against President Bola Tinubu in the next general election.

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04/08/2025

INTENTIONAL MEN.

One of my deepest life missions is to build a community of intentional men — especially when it comes to family.

I envision a circle of men who don’t cheat on their wives, who don’t neglect their homes, and who see family as a priority, not a burden.

Too often, I’ve seen how many men bond over alcohol, side chicks, or business. Business is great, no doubt — but why isn’t family part of that bonding?

I want us to change that narrative.
Even if I fall short, let it be said that I tried.

I’m not claiming perfection. Far from it.
But every day, I wake up striving to be a better man — for myself, for my family, and for those around me.

So here’s my call to the intentional men out there:
Can we build a real brotherhood — one rooted in family values?

🔹 A circle where men show up for each other
🔹 Men who honor their marriages
🔹 Friends who don’t just talk business, but talk about building their homes
🔹 Men who genuinely love their wives
🔹 Men who never joke with their responsibilities as fathers
🔹 Fathers who are present, no matter what
🔹 Men who can boldly say, “I’ve never laid a hand on my wife”
🔹 Men who carry their families with pride
🔹 Men who go out on family dates
🔹 Men who plan group vacations with their wives and kids

Because if we get it right today, generations after us will grow up seeing this as the standard, not the exception.

The world has normalized cheating, abandonment, and indifference. But we can choose a better way — and change the story.

So this morning, I’m starting something new — and I hope it spreads.

If you’re a proud dad, a loving husband, a committed family man… post a picture with your family.
Let the world see: men like us still exist.

And if you’re not yet a father or husband, you’re still welcome. This path is for anyone ready to walk it.

The choice is yours.
Let’s raise the standard — together. ✊🏽
ᩣシ

30/07/2025

I am married 3 years of marriage. I had a small issue with my husband, and he b@eat me. I told my mum and my mother told my father. My father came with his brother and bundled me back because I refused to follow them.

Before they came, my husband apologized, and when my father came, he saw that I had wounds on my neck and leg. He quarreled with my husband, and it got out of control because my mother inlaw was cursing my dad. That he came to fi/ght a small boy, etc.

I was dragged into the car. It's over 2 weeks since I left my husband's house. My husband just called 4 times and stopped calling. I am expecting 8 months gone, and my baby things are at home. My mum went to market yesterday to purchase everything on my list again, and she registered me in another hospital close to our house. I don't know what my father is planning?

I don't want to divorce my husband. We love ourselves very much. Even before he hi/t me, I cursed him badly, and we spoke badly to each other.

I don't want to answer divorced or give birth in my father's house.

What should I do?
Pls advise me
ᩣシ .
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