18/05/2025
This poor spider tumbled into a glass cup by accident and could not escape.
In an attempt to escape its predicament, or should I say “solve the problem, “ the spider decided to use its resources.
But no matter how hard he tried to weave and spin his web to escape from the cup... the more difficult it became... the more draining it became. Till it died.
This post went viral on Reddit … I think last week … I took this screenshot …. Kept looking at it and got sunk into despair for a bit.
You may ask why?
The below write-ups might be lengthy, so I advise you stop reading here if you have a TikTok attention span
I don’t write this to preach a red pill
I am not writing this to push any agenda
I am not writing this for any reason whatsoever
Rather, I write to let a hook off my throat.
A hook that has been discomforting me for the last two years
I had a friend …a very real friend who died two years January. This was a year after he married
I didn’t go to his burial, I didn’t get to wish his wife or little daughter condolences.
Chiboy was my mannest man. I’ll cut this story short
But before he got married .. I would go to his place to play a game chill and eat . We would talk about stuffs ,women .. future goals .. business plans and some next level s**t
He was very f@t and hated working out, but I pushed him into joining me, irrespective of our busy schedule
Chiboy wasn’t my peer. He was above me on every level
He would connect me, put me-on in illegal fights, and then to make money on the side
He hooked me up to celebrities that had shows and concerts ..
I meet with NeYo
I met with Davido
I worked with Evra, Steve Harvey, Ryan Reynolds, some basket ballers legends, I do not even know their names
I got a free pass to big concert, tickets to events and back stages ..all this was possible cos of chiboy
But one thing I loved about him the most was that he treated me like his peer and with utmost respect ( and took my advice very seriously )
He was often in my very first Facebook account, cheering me up whenever I dropped a red pill gospel.
Chiboy introduced me to his girlfriend, whom he wanted to marry, and asked for my opinion
Damn … the girl wasn’t good ( she broke every law of things I preached about vvomen )
I for one knew that my guy was madly in love.. and that whatever advice I give him
… he would tell the girl tomorrow about it. And Dey would most likely use me and settle. So I ignored him
One day, I was at his place as usual. We were jesting and gaming .. the babe was there … and he asked me the same questions again
“Famous .. na you go be my best man o …. Hope say this our wife make sense “
Winking at his babe
On my own I was like
Damn .. how did I get dragged into this … I giggled and told him …
“Chiboy … you dey follow me for Facebook na .. you dey see my teachings … if you are confused about anything … refer back to my teachings “
We laughed it off ..
That evening, I got a notification that my friend, Babe, followed me on Facebook (that’s chiboy’s girlfriend)
The next week, Chiboy and Babe started to give me attitude if I visit
The upper week … Chiboy won’t even join my game if I invite him to play from my own home
…. Our friendship dwindled to the point where Chiboy reminded me of the age gap between us
I tried to hold onto our friendship … but he started skipping working out with me ( even tho I was his trainer )
It clicked on me … “I don’t see his comments no more on my post “
I checked
He unfollowed and unfriended me on Facebook.
Some months later
Eminem came for a show in Abu Dhabi …. I didn’t ask him for a ticket… I never did for other ones, but he clearly knows that I am Eminem's biggest fan.
But I didn’t get any invite or ticket, or backstage invitation.
And his babe would proceed post on her WhatsApp status about having the Eminem ticket and not having anyone who they know that liked to see it go to a rapper Eminem show
Damn! ( how would Chiboy forget I love Eminem )
Well .. over time
Replies started becoming slow on WhatsApp ( we weren’t vibing like befor )…
He wouldn’t return my call.
I traveled twice for exhibition and told him .. he never followed up
Went on vacation and asked if he needed anything (Nigerian food stuffs ), he never responded
Came back .. brought yam for him.. gave his babe, who has now abandoned her job to live with chiboy permanently, like a housewife
But the girl stood at the door and said I should bring it back for him personally when he returned
Imagine me … yeah your guy is that big . But I am not small .. and you know it .. but you disrespect me like that
Okay
At that moment, I knew I had tried. I had to let go of that friendship
He finally got married to this lady, and I wasn’t told
I wasn’t invited
The lady got pregnant and had a baby .. I was not invited to the naming .. I wasn’t told
A few months later … I do not know what happened … he went into a big financial mess that involved the police.
He ran out of town with tons of debt … he was living and using the resources he had to stay afloat in owerri .
but it wasn’t getting any easier cos nigeria was making it worser
His family started to fall apart … he tried so much to get himself out of the problem, but he was running out of resources
And he was doing it alone …
I kept an open door, hoping he would come knocking … but nothing
In an attempt to see if he would reach out, I remember chatting with him and asking
“Guy, what’s up with you .. what’s going on .. Hope you're good “
Yet I was blanked again.
Later, I heard he died. … CHIBOY was walking up the stairs and slumped. On getting to the hospital, he was pronounced dead as a result of a heart attack
I couldn’t get myself to cry
I couldn’t get myself to tell the wife, “My condolences. “
I didn’t make the funeral
I couldn’t even upload his photo to say “Rip bro. “
While I looked at this screenshot I uploaded… all I could ponder was …this spider being in that cup is not its fault …. Despite its effort alone to come out .. if only the spider had a little help
If only the cup were shorter.
If only he didn’t fall into that cup
If only its webs were plentiful enough to get him out
Maybe .. just maybe it would be alive out there today
I squash bugs daily ..
But this spider in a cup reminded me so much of my late friend.
REST IN PEACE 🪦 CHI BOY.
