01/06/2026
It's been 2 years in marriage. My wife came with her 2 kids from her previous marriage, aged 4 & 6. Her late husband passed away
while she was pregnant with her last child. Actually, before her late husband diãd, he willed everything to the kids & kept her incharge while the kids grow up to a certain adult age, able to manage the properties.
She had been a widow for 4 years. I never wanted to have anything to do with a baby mama, let alone a widow. But I still decided to give her a good life so she could feel like any other normal woman who deserves to be loved, & also enjoy life despite being a baby mama & a widow. So, I proposed to her after 6 months of dating coz I believed we're 2 very grown, elderly, & mature people who know exactly what we want in life. I also accepted the kids.
After we got married, my wife decided to leave the very big, well-furnished house that she was living in with her late husband & 2 kids to come join me in the small place I was renting & managing, just 2 rooms & a parlour, not even well-furnished. This was a shock & already a red flag to me, but I decided to keep calm. I have a very small shop where I sell electronics; my business hasn't been doing so well, even before I married her. On several occasions, I've tried to explain things to her to make her understand that I need her financial support for my business.
I mean, her husband died leaving her with several pieces of very large hectares of land. Just one of those lands sold could change my business to better forever. Instead but instead most times when I bring the topic up, the only thing she says is that the properties & everything belong to her kids, that their father left it for them, & she wants to respect that, & only they can decide what to do with it when they come of age. Plz What has has a ded man got to do with the living? coz it doesn't make any sense to me, aside she's just being stingy & greedy
This very statement has always been annoying. These are the same kids that live under my own roof. I'm the one paying bills &, the TV they're watching & enjoying is from my money. So, what's the point? What's in it for me if I can't get a share of what their father left for them, at least as their guardian, for marrying their mom & accepting to play a father figure in their lives? They're so many kids out there without a father but now they have me as one.
This woman is swimming in money, controlling her husband's businesses, but the only thing she supports at home with is buying food for the family & paying the children's fees. I have just one child with her, & I don't even eat much, which means literally, she isn't benefiting me in any way. For the past 2 years of marriage, I've continuously begged that even if she can't support me with anything, we now have a son, let her pass at least one of those houses or even 1 piece of land in our son's name, since her late husband diàd leaving behind more than 5 very large apartments. From there, we can move into the house, which is now owned by our son. But She still refuses,
Instead, she choosing to give out those houses for rent while we're here in a small apartment, & I'm wasting money on rent. So, what's my gain in the marriage? Coz we all know nothing is as bad as marrying a baby mama, worse a widow. I've never had such plans, but love pushed me to her, but these days, I feel I made the greatest mistake of my life."
