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When it comes to healing from the scars of trauma, it is not a journey you do alone. You’ll need to have a trusted thera...
23/04/2024

When it comes to healing from the scars of trauma, it is not a journey you do alone.

You’ll need to have a trusted therapist who can provide you with the tools, skills, and support system you need in order to achieve your desired results and that’s what “ The Thrivers’ Haven” is all about.

At THE THRIVERS HAVEN, you’ll have access to these resources to help you understand your trauma history and embark on your journey to healing.

Click on the link in the comment section to join.




Acknowledging childhood trauma can be tough, not to mention addressing it. Most times we wish that the effects of events...
12/04/2024

Acknowledging childhood trauma can be tough, not to mention addressing it. Most times we wish that the effects of events from the past didn't resurface during adulthood but the truth is, if it is not resolved, childhood trauma may persist into adulthood and affect your parenting, work-life, and relationship with others.

So,

Are you at a crossroads and weighed down by the shackles of your past trauma?

Are you fed up with the "normal" things in your life that are dysfunctional?


Are you seeking where to bare your mind and unashamedly tell your story?

Do you want to be in a place where you are not judged or criticised but supported?

Do you earnestly need to exchange your burdens for healing?

Do you want to create boundaries that release you from resentment?

Do you want to intentionally forgive yourself for what you did in survival mode?

Do you want to validate your reality even when it clashes with another person's perspective?

Do you want to honour your own needs and seek to meet them even if you have been conditioned not to?

Search no further, THE THRIVERS' is it!

The Thrivers' is a faith-based supportive platform created for individuals who are in dire need of healing from childhood trauma to restore the original plan of God for their lives and flourish but do not know where to start.

This platform will give you;

📌 The opportunity to recognise your trauma history,

📌 Assess the impact of trauma in your life, and,

📌 Create external anchors in the face of adversity.

You do not need to pay a dime to join. Just click on the link and join.

https://chat.whatsapp.com/LmFh5TWAoFzGiVRPeZ5ghv



I've encountered a lot of adults who have experienced excessive behaviours as children, mostly from narcissistic parents...
07/04/2024

I've encountered a lot of adults who have experienced excessive behaviours as children, mostly from narcissistic parents which in turn, affect their view of themselves and the world.

I want to let you know that nothing has ever been wrong with you or is still wrong with you. You are not the problem but the only way you were treated is the problem.

It wasn't your fault that your parents used destructive criticism against you and judged you poorly. They criticised and judged you so because they have unhealed trauma from how they were raised thereby using the same structure.

They hold very harsh judgments against themselves and project their unresolved pain on you. Their pain isn't yours to carry.

Next step? Heal!

As you heal, you begin to feel more confident with yourself, in who you are and the value you bring to the table.

The “real you” emerges fully and freely. You get inspired to do more in life and pursue things that you love to have rather than holding yourself back.

Dare To Heal.



ARE YOU LIVING A TRAUMA-INFORMED LIFE?Someone may ask, “ What is trauma-informed living? This is an intentional way of a...
02/04/2024

ARE YOU LIVING A TRAUMA-INFORMED LIFE?

Someone may ask, “ What is trauma-informed living? This is an intentional way of approaching everyday interactions and activities with an awareness and understanding of the possible effects or consequences of trauma.

It is living empathically bearing in mind that your spouse, children, colleagues, friends, and neighbours can be having difficulties based on their past hurtful experiences.

It is about consciously viewing others through the lens of empathy knowing fully well that their problems with controlling emotions have a root cause.

When you are trauma-informed, you'll:

📌 Ensure the physical and emotional safety of others.

📌 Build trust and establish clear communication and reliability.

📌 Not impose when it comes to allowing others to make decisions.

📌 Work together with individuals to understand their needs and preferences.

📌 Support other individuals' strengths and resilience to promote healing.

📌 Recognize and respect different cultural backgrounds and experiences.

When we live consciously with these 👆👆, we become mindful of how we react and respond to people.

However, for us to achieve them, we need to, first of all, heal from our traumas. Healing is a game-changer!

Dare To Heal.



25/03/2024

One of the things trauma does is that it takes your authenticity and prototype away.

21/03/2024

Ma’am, I got married just to leave my father's house. I was depressed due to emotional abuse from them. Hmmm

Common Irrational Beliefs That Affect Your Healing.❗ It is an urgent necessity to be loved and approved of by everyone.❗...
19/03/2024

Common Irrational Beliefs That Affect Your Healing.

❗ It is an urgent necessity to be loved and approved of by everyone.

❗ You must be thoroughly qualified, acceptable, and achieving to be an important human being.

❗It is a disaster when things do not go the way you intended.

❗Your happiness is controlled by external forces.

❗You ought to worry about things regardless of your ability to control them.

❗️Avoidance is easier than facing conflict and challenge.

❗You should always depend on people who are more competent and stronger than you.

❗There is always a right and exact way to handle everything.

❗Your past defines who you are in the present moment.

Your core wounds do not need to guide your narratives.

You have the authority to reframe your reality. Let your past be in the past and not in the present.

Dare To Heal.



I love watching Crime and Investigation Channel, DIS ID, Cold Case, My 600lb life, etc. A lot has asked me why I find su...
15/03/2024

I love watching Crime and Investigation Channel, DIS ID, Cold Case, My 600lb life, etc. A lot has asked me why I find such channels and programmes interesting.

Here is the thing- I love to comprehend the motive behind someone's actions. When I'm being told a story, as I listen, I am at the same time trying to point out the root cause and not the immediate cause though the latter is important, the former helps to solve the problem most times.

So as I watch the police interview and all, 90 per cent of the time, the root cause of why the culprits do what they do stems from childhood trauma.

The painful part is that the recipients of the vicious attacks are themselves and their loved ones.

This is why we need to heal to help our children as parents and caregivers.

Trauma is real. It is subtle. It destroys.

Dare to heal



SOME OF THESE MISTAKES BY PARENTS LOWER THEIR CHILDREN'S SELF-CONFIDENCE AS A CHILD.❗ Being overly controlling. This hap...
08/03/2024

SOME OF THESE MISTAKES BY PARENTS LOWER THEIR CHILDREN'S SELF-CONFIDENCE AS A CHILD.

❗ Being overly controlling.
This happens when parents try to affirm a strong influence or domination over their children in various aspects of their lives. This act steals the kids' independence.

It can come in the form of micromanaging, imposing strict rules, not allowing the children freedom of choice or expression, or not respecting boundaries.

❗Comparing them all in the name of motivation.
This right here massacred my self-confidence as a child. Most parents think that they are helping their children but it is the reverse.
This is when parents assess their children's behaviour, achievement, or development with other children, especially siblings and family friends.

This damages a child's self-esteem and overall well-being.

❗Making them have a sense of being unworthy of your love because they made a mistake.
Mistakes are inevitable but most parents do not know or understand that. They always want to have the perfect beings as children.

Mistakes are part of our children's learning and development process.

❗ Negatively labelling the children.
This happens when parents ALWAYS describe or identify their children with negative behaviour and with words such as incompetent, lazy, fool, worthless, stupid, failure, idiot, animal, etc.
Using negative labelling contributes to the children's feelings of inadequacy or self-doubt.

❗Overprotecting them from failures or challenges.
When parents are over-involved, shelter, set unrealistic expectations, or lack of consequences, they tend to overprotect their children.

Children are not allowed to make decisions on their own or are not allowed to face the consequences of their actions just because their parents do not want them to "suffer".

These mistakes can be damaging to relationships and can lead to feelings of resentment, frustration, and lack of Independence. It is important to maintain a healthy balance and focus on your child's strengths and progress.

Encourage a supportive environment to help children thrive and develop confidence.

However, as a parent or a caregiver, you can achieve these if there are traces of unresolved trauma. Healing will give you the room to be aware and create a safe environment.

Dare To Heal

04/03/2024

… “There is nothing wrong with elders being the first to greet the children!!!”
What sort of values are some parents inculcating in kids today?

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