13/12/2025
“MY MARRIAGE THAT LASTED ONLY 7 DAYS”
(And the Superstition That Ended It Before It Began)
Hmmm… how time flies.
Here’s an old picture of myself and my lovely wife after our wedding—this was 11 years ago.
If not for the devil… or should I say some people’s superstitious beliefs, I would be celebrating my 11th wedding anniversary today.
Yes, ladies and gentlemen…
My marriage expired faster than pure water in hot sun.
It lasted just one week.
THE DAY EVERYTHING SCATTERED
I cried that period ehn…
Even onions could not make someone cry the way I cried when my wife left me for one very unbelievable reason.
Till today, my eyes and ears still refuse to forgive me for witnessing that kind of drama.
She had stepped out to buy something from the market.
I was outside when she left.
Just a few minutes later—only God knows the speed she used—I saw her coming back.
I knew she hadn’t reached the market, so I asked:
“What happened? Why did you return?”
She said:
“I hit my left foot on a stone.
It’s a bad omen.
Our people say if your left foot hits a stone while going somewhere, you must not go again.”
😳😳😳
At that moment my spirit just said, “My brother, brace yourself… more episodes are coming.”
Before I could ask another question, her phone rang.
After the call she told me:
“My mother says I should come for family meeting. It’s urgent.”
She rushed inside, dressed up, and said:
“Let me go and hear why they are calling me.”
I just replied, “Okay o… till you come back.”
I waited.
Ah, I waited like Nigerians waiting for NEPA to restore light when they are watching the national team playing a world cup match.
THE NEWS THAT BROKE MY HEART
She came back and told me the “breaking news”:
Her father had gone to one shrine like that…
And the baba there said:
I am not the right husband for her
Our marriage will be full of trauma and violence
And she must divorce me immediately with speed
I asked her again:
“Are you sure of what you’re saying?”
She said yes, confidently. And that even hitting her left foot on the stone while going to the market was a sign. Moreover, when she told her Dad about it - he confirmed that it was exactly one of the signs!
I begged that we should sit, reason, talk like adults…
She said:
“You’re wasting my time.”
At that point, what else could I do?
I stepped aside and allowed her to pack her things and go.
And just like that…
MARRIAGE: 7 DAYS
SUPERSTITION: 1
ME: 0
THE DECISION I MADE
From that day, I told myself the truth:
“I can’t marry a Nigerian woman again.”
The fear of superstition became the beginning of wisdom for me.
As I’m like this now…
I’m waiting for one WHITE lady that will not wake up one morning and tell me: 🚶🚶🚶
“Baba in the village saw something.”
MORAL LESSONS
1. Superstition has destroyed more relationships than actual problems.
Sometimes people don’t break up because of issues—
They break up because someone in the village “dreamt nonsense.”
2. Communication saves marriages; fear and suspicion destroy them.
3. Marriage is between two adults—not two families, two prophets, or two shrines.
4. Know who you’re marrying. Some people’s minds are controlled by whatever anyone tells them.
Victor Atiku Embaga
