26/10/2025
SOCIAL MEDIA POLLUTION
No come here come the pollute people's minds negatively about marriage ooo. Not all marriages are regrettable. A lot of people enjoy marriage because they are married right.
From your relationship, you saw at least one warning signal, instead of quitting the relationship, you went ahead because love dey shark your brain. Many toxic marriages today, in one way or the other you saw red flags but we waved it. Especially ladies when they're in love , if you like carry hot knife to correct them, they won't listen until reality happens to them and their eyes go clear.
I had to leave many relationships which I have made an introduction because little signals people may call it common. But today I am happily married and we are enjoying our marriage.
I am not saying both of us are perfect but there are some things that need to be addressed before Marriage.
1. Know the Do and Don't in the life of your partner. Categorically define your relationship by opening what you like and what you don't like. While in relationship and you seeing your partner going against what you don't like often and not ready to be corrected, if try and error method enters marriage your tears go full bucket everyday.
2. Have a vision: it will be a smooth journey if both partners have concrete vision and alignment. If you're going to Lagos and your partner is going to Kano, the journey won't arrive at the same destination. They must be similarities in views, actions and purposes.
3. Do background check before marriage. Go behind and ask about the family of your partner. Some may have mental health issues and there's every possiblity of inherit that . Some are violent in nature. Check very we.
4. Don't marry out of sympathy
5. Don't marry out of match making without checking characters
6. Don't come Empty: many people entered into relationships with empty without input. Any relationship without an input can never give you an output.
Relationship is like a bank account which requires deposits of currency failure to deposit makes your account dormant. The same thing is applicable to relationships, if you fail to input positively you get a negative output. Input into your relationship with the following
a. Love
b. Peace
c. Quality time
d. Quality Prayers
e. Sacrifice in time and resources. Women financial commitment is not for only men. But men never depend on women's wealth to build a home. Women are designed to only support willingly sometimes because you are the head. You will be more respected if you provide your family bills. It is only ungrateful women that don't appreciate the effort of their husband.
f. Commitment
g. Listen to your partner. Both genders
h. Understand gender Differences
i. Be transparent to your partner both your past relationships and money. Don't hide the inflow of income in account to your spouse or partner.
j. Value and respect each other and everyone associated to your partner.
k. Women control your mouths
l. Men control your anger and actions. Walk away when she's running her mouth. Women are designed to run mouth but understand their nature.
m. Support each other carrier, vision and profession.
There's no perfect relationship or marriage on earth but you make it the best with your positive actions, words, love, peace and commitment.
Please marriage is good when you married a good partner.
David Ocheni
