30/06/2025
He Left, But You Don’t Have to Leave Yourself Too
Breakups can do something strange to you.
You start to feel like you're the problem. You wonder if you were too much, too soft, too loyal, too emotional. You think about all the things you could’ve done differently, as if changing yourself would have made someone stay.
And suddenly, you don’t recognize yourself anymore.
You’re not alone. This is what heartbreak does. It makes you question your value. It shakes your confidence. It makes you forget how special you are.
I remember a friend, who went through a terrible breakup. One day, she was planning a future with her partner. The next, she found out through mutual friends that he had moved on without a word, without closure. For weeks, she kept checking his page, hoping for a sign that it wasn’t real. She stopped dressing up, stopped going out, lost her appetite, and started blaming herself.
But something shifted the day she looked in the mirror and said, “I can’t let someone’s decision erase who I am.”
That was the beginning of her healing.
She didn’t need fancy affirmations or a complete makeover. She needed to start showing up for herself again even in the smallest ways. She unfollowed his page. She got dressed and went out more often go have fun with friends . She called a friend just to talk. She prayed and cried and kept going. She ate the delicious food that she abandoned earlier. Slowly, she started to rebuild herself.
It’s not instant. It’s not easy. But it’s possible.
It’s letting go of people who couldn’t see your worth.
It’s reminding yourself that being soft is not a weakness.
It’s finding peace in your own presence.
It’s realizing that you are still whole, even if someone walked away.
So if someone let you go, don’t let that be the reason you give up on yourself.
They may have left, but you’re still here. And that’s more than enough to start again.
You are worthy of the love you were willing to give.
© Blooming You Hub
