31/07/2025
Earlier this year, I sat my younger brother down and told him, “It’s time to man up ooo out of the love i have for him.
He was sick and had to stay with me but he is now well , and yes, he was staying in our boys quarters.
A friend said, Just leave him there now, at least he’s not disturbing you.
But I said no because real love doesn’t enable stagnation. I will support him but not to disable him.
I told her, The best kind of love is the one that pushes you to rise.”
If I allow him to stay there, comfortable in his nothingness,
One day he will promise a woman heaven and earth with an empty pocket and no plan.
And that’s the problem we’re not talking about enough.
I didn’t realize how widespread this issue was until I posted yesterday.
So many grown mennn, doing absolutely nothing
Yet waking up daily, fully fed, clothed, and still somehow entitled.
How can a sane mannn be comfortable not doing anything?
And yes, I blame a lot of us women too.
We have become enablers in the name of love.
Cooking, feeding, funding, and housing grown menn who have no urgency to grow.
Then tomorrow, they say, I’m the man of the house.
How?
Having an erectionnnn is not the definition of manh00d now Being the head is not a title it’s a responsibility.
You wake up, stretch your legs, and eat what your wife provided.
Then do the same thing tomorrow. And next year.
No job, no business, you dont even put any efforts
And you’re still talking about submission?
Did I say you must be rich? No.
But at least be able to do the little things.
Buy tissue. Buy toothpaste.
Contribute to school fees. Fix small problems.
Be present. Be useful.
Even people with disabilities are building something for themselves today.
You have hands, legs, health and still do nothing?
Then tomorrow, you blame Tinubu.
No sir. Some troubles are not government-made.
They are man-made. You made them.
As a woman, don’t accept to marry a man who isn’t doing anything.
Marriage done this way will turn you to a bitterr
