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The Babs Couple ᴛᴡᴏ ʜᴇᴀʀᴛꜱ, ᴏɴᴇ ʜᴏᴍᴇ, ᴄᴏᴜɴᴛʟᴇꜱꜱ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴀꜰꜰᴀɪʀꜱ ᴡɪᴛʜ ɢᴏᴅ ᴀɴᴅ ᴇᴀᴄʜ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀ!...

01/09/2026

Happy New Month of September from this side!

DON'T RUSH THROUGH COURTSHIP People often say, "No matter how long you court, you can never completely know your partner...
20/08/2026

DON'T RUSH THROUGH COURTSHIP

People often say, "No matter how long you court, you can never completely know your partner." I agree to a large extent. Marriage will always reveal new sides of your spouse that courtship cannot.

However, that doesn't mean proper courtship is unnecessary. Far from it.

A well-spent courtship is one of the best investments you can make in your future marriage. It is a season to intentionally know each other better, not just emotionally, but spiritually, mentally, and socially.

By proper courtship, I mean a relationship that creates room for prayer, Bible study, honest conversations, family interactions, and healthy social activities. And yes, Christian brothers, please take your sisters on decent dates. Spend quality time together. Learn each other's strengths, weaknesses, and perspectives. These moments matter.

Am I saying every courtship must be long? No.

Every relationship is different, and God's timing is not the same for everyone. Some couples may have a shorter courtship, while others may have a longer one. The length is not the issue, intentionality is.

My point is simple: if God gives you the opportunity, don't rush through courtship. Use that season wisely. A proper and intentional courtship lays a stronger foundation for a healthy, God-honouring marriage.

Courtship may not reveal everything about your future spouse, but it can reveal enough to help you build your home with wisdom.

Does a longer, intentional courtship better prepare couples for marriage? What do you think?

©️THE BABS

My last post to courting couples reminded me of an incident that happened while I was courting my husband.I had a movie ...
03/08/2026

My last post to courting couples reminded me of an incident that happened while I was courting my husband.

I had a movie location in Ibadan, so of course, after the shoot, I decided to stop by and say hello to my in-laws.
Trust me, they have always been happy to have me around, and that hasn't changed one bit. Anytime they hear that IT is coming, everyone gets excited.

Back to the story...

I had called earlier that morning to let them know that after my last scene, I would be coming over. Since everyone had plans to be out, they told me where they would leave the key.

When I got to the house, I took my bath and headed straight to the kitchen. I found soup, and there was ewedu too. Ah! I quickly carried garri and made a correct eba. My mother-in-law's soup was so delicious! After eating to my satisfaction, I went to rest.

A little while later, our old man called. He was concerned and asked, "What will you eat now that everyone is out?"
I just laughed and replied, "Emi ti tẹ eba o. I've already prepared eba and eaten. I'm okay."

Old man burst into laughter and said, "That's my girl!"
He later narrated the story to my mother-in-law, and the two of them couldn't stop laughing.

When I say be yourself, I truly mean it—for your own good. I didn't have to pretend or wait for them to return before eating just to create a certain impression.

My dear, nothing beats authenticity. The right people will appreciate you for who you genuinely are.

This incident reminds me that being real is far better than trying to impress.

Authenticity may not attract everyone, but it will always attract the people who truly matter.

THE BABS

Come Closer, Courting PartnersSome years ago, while I was still courting my husband, my father-in-law called me and aske...
30/07/2026

Come Closer, Courting Partners

Some years ago, while I was still courting my husband, my father-in-law called me and asked a question that made me laugh. He simply wanted to know if this was truly who I was.

Let me tell you a little about our old man (that's what we fondly call my father-in-law). He's a missionary who has travelled far and wide, so he has seen and experienced a lot. He has met people who presented themselves as "A" during courtship but turned out to be "B" after marriage. He has witnessed enough to know that not everything is as it seems, so I couldn't blame him for asking.

I laughed and told him, "Just give it time. Nobody can pretend forever. After all, time is the true test of authenticity."

He simply replied, "Okay o."

It's been over five years since the old man got to know me, and he still knows me as the same young lady who first came into their family all those years ago with her same style of living and characters.

Why am I sharing this story?

To offer a little unsolicited advice to those who are courting.

Come closer, courting partners.

Why are you pretending to be someone you're not just to impress your spouse-to-be or your future in-laws?

Pretence is exhausting.

It is stressful trying to maintain a version of yourself that isn't real.

Many people act like Mr Perfect or Miss Perfect throughout courtship, only for reality to set in immediately after the wedding. Then everyone begins to wonder what changed.

Over the years, I've learnt that nothing beats authenticity. Nothing beats sincerity.

I won't put on a show just to please anyone. I choose to be myself, and trust me, people notice. They may not always say it to your face, but they know.

If authenticity matters in everyday relationships, how much more with someone you intend to spend the rest of your life with?

Be real. Be sincere. The right person will appreciate the real you, and the foundation you build on authenticity will always be stronger than one built on pretence.

Ire óò.

THE BABS

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Being “in the spirit” does not signify that we are in a certain mood or that we are being carried along with the emotion...
17/07/2026

Being “in the spirit” does not signify that we are in a certain mood or that we are being carried along with the emotion of a particular situation or event.

It does not necessarily mean that our feelings are aroused or that we are somehow stimulated by our surroundings or by being together with a group.

It does not imply that we are simply in harmony with others around us or with our environment. This experience may or may not come with any specific sensations or feelings.

Primarily, to be in the Spirit is living under the influence, guidance, and fellowship of the Holy Spirit, rather than simply having an emotional or mystical experience.

THE BABS

To the man who loves me just as Christ loves the Church.To the man whose life keeps teaching me every single day.My husb...
09/07/2026

To the man who loves me just as Christ loves the Church.

To the man whose life keeps teaching me every single day.

My husband always reminds me to remember the golden rule and act accordingly. He constantly teaches me that it is not enough to hear the Word of God, what truly matters is living it out.

The list is endless because your life never stops teaching me. You are a man filled with wisdom from above, and I thank God for the privilege of learning from you.

Thank you for leading our home with so much grace, love, and kindness. I will forever be grateful to God for giving me the grace to do life with you.

Today is your birthday, and I am super excited to celebrate you!

Happy Birthday, Treasure mi. ❤️

Welcome to a new season of grace, greater glory, and newness. I love you dearly, baby.

May God continue to strengthen you, increase your wisdom, and fulfill every good purpose He has ordained for your life.

THE BABS

Happy New Month! July is here, and we are stepping into it with renewed energy, big dreams, and so much gratitude. May y...
01/07/2026

Happy New Month!

July is here, and we are stepping into it with renewed energy, big dreams, and so much gratitude.

May your July be filled with progress, laughter, and everything you’ve been working towards!

©️THE BABS

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The Christian home is the foundation and smallest unit of the Church. Before there is a local assembly or congregation, ...
01/07/2026

The Christian home is the foundation and smallest unit of the Church. Before there is a local assembly or congregation, there are families committed to following Christ. God's design is that Christian homes become places where faith is nurtured, God's Word is taught, prayers are offered, and Christ-like character is developed. Strong local churches are built upon strong Christian homes.

A healthy local church is therefore the product of healthy Christian families. Homes that cultivate daily prayer, Bible study, love, hospitality, and godly discipline produce believers who actively contribute to the growth and unity of the church. As families gather to worship God and live according to His Word, they strengthen the larger body of Christ.

The Christian home is the training ground for discipleship, spiritual growth, and Christian service. When homes are established on Christ and His Word, they become the building blocks of vibrant local assemblies that glorify God and impact their communities.

Happy New Month of July!!!

©️THE BABS

27/06/2026

If you can just take a pause and look within, you will see how God has been showing you mercy.

That father is such a merciful father.

Thank you Jesus.



07/06/2026

Finally, finally, I visited my husband's hometown, and trust me, I had an amazing time soaking in the local vibe. The highlight? A steaming bowl of mọrọgbọ soup loaded with plenty of bush meat. At this point, I was seriously considering extending my stay and applying for honorary indigene status! 😋 And yes, I danced my dance óò, who forming help. I fully embraced the moment and enjoyed every bit of it.

As I reflected on the trip, I realized something important: one reason I could enjoy myself so freely was because I felt comfortable, accepted, and at peace. One thing Mr. Babs will never do is to stop me from being myself, whether at home or anywhere else. That kind of freedom and peace is something every healthy relationship should offer. Which brings me to today's conversation with singles...

Love is often celebrated as a beautiful feeling, but genuine love should also bring peace. When a relationship is filled with constant anxiety, confusion, fear, distrust, and emotional turmoil, it is important to pause and evaluate what is truly happening.

Peace does not mean the absence of disagreements. Every healthy relationship experiences challenges. However, even in difficult moments, there should be a sense of security, respect, understanding, and emotional safety. A relationship that constantly drains your energy, steals your joy, and leaves you emotionally exhausted may be a sign that something is wrong.

True love should inspire growth, comfort, and stability. It should not leave you walking on eggshells or questioning your worth every day. If your love life lacks peace, it deserves careful examination before you finally tie the knot with your love partner, because healthy love and inner peace are meant to coexist.

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