13/03/2026
Marriage Will Unconsciously Change You
Marriage has a funny way of changing you into your partner without you even realizing it. It’s amazing how two people begin to rub off on each other effortlessly.
Before I got married, my eating routine was completely different. I could take breakfast by 11 a.m., and sometimes it would even turn into brunch. As for dinner, if it wasn’t 10 p.m. yet, I wasn’t even thinking about food.
While we were courting, my husband always tried to correct me. He would monitor my eating habits and even explain the medical implications, but honestly, it didn’t really enter my ears...for my husband, he can take dinner as early as 6pm lolzzz...
Then boom, after marriage, something changed.
Now I unconsciously take breakfast around 8 a.m. and dinner between 7 and 8 p.m., with bedtime around 8:45 p.m. Sometimes I’m even the one telling my husband that I want to go and sleep, as early as 8 p.m., which is so unlike the old me.
The same thing happened with food temperature. I never liked eating cold food. But my husband? If the food isn’t extremely cold, Baba won’t even taste it, let alone eat it.
Funny enough, a few weeks ago I noticed something surprising I wasn’t enjoying my food unless it was cold. When I told my husband, he laughed so hard.
On the other hand, my husband has changed too. If you knew him very well before, you’d know the words “please” and “sorry” were almost nonexistent in his vocabulary. But now, he uses them naturally. Those words have become a part of him.
I remember during our courtship, I would always tell him, “Say please… say sorry.” He used to believe that saying those words wasn’t necessary unless he truly felt he had done something wrong.
But look at him now.
The bottom line is this: when both partners are not rigid and are intentional about building a peaceful and godly home, you will naturally start rubbing off on each other without even knowing it. Your lives truly become one, and both of you begin to shift grounds, sometimes unconsciously.
And that’s one of the beautiful parts of marriage.
See you later.
— The Babs