28/09/2025
When I was 35 Years Old, I Dated A Woman Who Was 45 Years old
She was divorced too but my reason for choosing an older and divorced woman was simple and straight to the point; I am at a point in my life that I needed less drama and more focus on putting my life to order.
I was creating my business and I needed to focus, so it was not a time to date a younger, foolish and entitled girl. I felt that experience would have helped an older woman to become mature and have lesser drama compared to these younger folks.
I did not want to be arguing about trivial matters as the following, which are common among younger girls.
Why I did not call 25 times a day.
Why I considered my business more important than her.
Why she was not the first I talked to when I woke up from bed.
Why I posted on my status before responding to her messages.
Why I did not answer the call the first time she called.
Why I had to talk to other women that I knew and did not ask out before I met her.
I considered dealing with all of these and many more, a waste of time - I am a business man at heart and at hand; it was at a time that I was creating one of my most important business ideas so I needed calmness, not spending time bickering over multitude of trivialities.
This woman came good in the first few months, but as time went on, everything changed. She started defeating the same reason I chose her over the younger women who wanted me - mental infantry (Narcissism).
I always told her that the reason I chose her over the younger girls, most of which obviously wanted me was mental maturity. At that age, I did not care about body shape, completion, age and all those things - I only wanted a peaceful companionship with maximum focus for productivity.
As time went on, she started to give the same kind of drama I avoided in younger women and left me wondering why I chose her over them. She ended the relationship three times in a year, usually after every disagreement caused by her drama. She would return again until she was too ashamed to keep returning.
When we talked about why it all ended recently, she said said she wanted a man who was commanding and would not be pushed around. She said she wanted an intelligent and ambitious man. That was me she was describing; the relationship ended because of those qualities she said she wanted. I had all of them and more.
She said one of the reasons she left was that I was too mature for her and I wanted her to be mature all the time. I expected that to be coming from a younger woman, not one 10 years older than me. It was at that time I realized again that women never grow up regardless of their age.
This woman left her husband because he lacked ambition but was very homely, she said she did not want a homely man. She found me, a super ambitious and intelligent and one who does not apologize for being a man. Guess one of her reasons for ending the relationship? I was not homely.
She left her husband for not having ambition, met a man with ambition and left him for not being homely. And trust me, till tomorrow, the problems are the men in her life. She's still looking for an ambitious man who is homely, yet she's not looking for a perfect man.
Do you know why women behave this way? The answer is simple - they suffer from narcissism. Narcissism is the sickness of the undeveloped people. Most women are never developed. They want to be treated like babies all their lives. I call it mental infancy.
Like a suckling, they want something, yet they don't want it; they want the man in their lives to know what they want and yet do not want. This narcissistic behavior is amiable and forgivable in babies, but disgusting in adults. Women need to know this! Adults should not be given a baby's treatment.
Grown women (women from age 18 and above) wanting baby treatment are simply looking for excuses to continue to be narcissistic and not be held accountable for it. This destroys their relationships. Narcissism makes them believe that while they may be adding no value to a man's live, they must be at the center of everything he does if he is dating them.
They overrate their input because they feel they should not be doing it at all. This is why when a woman helps a man financially for a short time, she feels she's unfortunate, starts looking for another man and begins to disrespect him. This happens because she feels she should not be helping a man financially at all.
It is hard living with a Narcissistic woman, but nearly all women are narcissistic. This is making me reconsider my decision to get married. I cannot spend my entire life trying to make sense to a woman who does not even know what she wants; a woman who is unwilling to grow and wants me to spend most of my life pleasing her. I will be too busy for that.
If you are a woman and this describes you, the worst thing you can do is to begin to defend it. Kindly just grab my book titled THE ENEMY OF THE LAST DAYS, and read it. Concentrate on the chapter on Narcissism in Romantic Relationships, and you may understand why most of your relationships ended badly🎊🎊🎊
