01/08/2025
"The Sacred Journey (Part 2):
How to Keep Love Alive and Protect Your Marriage"
Marriage isn’t something you just enter. It’s something you nurture daily.
Like a garden, if you stop watering it, weeds will grow.
So how do you keep your marriage sacred, rich, and life-giving — even when life gets hard?
❤️ 1. Never Stop Dating Each Other
Marriage doesn’t mean the end of romance — it’s the beginning of intentional love.
Send sweet texts again.
Surprise each other.
Dress up for your spouse like you did when you were still “toasting.”
Step out and share roasted corn together under the Lagos or Enugu evening sun.
Remind yourselves why you started.
Marriage is not a cage. It’s a garden but only if you tend it.
🙏🏽 2. Build Your Marriage on God, Not Emotions
Feelings will rise and fall. But God remains.
A marriage that prays together will endure storms better than a marriage that only parties together.
Wake up and say, “Let’s pray.”
Don’t wait until problems come before you remember God.
When conflict arises, don’t call outsiders first call God.
Marriage isn’t just physical. It’s spiritual. Protect it with prayer.
🗣️ 3. Communicate, Don’t Accuse
Silence can be louder than shouting. And assumptions kill love faster than distance.
Say what’s hurting you but say it kindly.
Don’t bottle emotions. Don’t nag. Speak from your heart, not from your wound.
Listen not just to reply, but to understand.
Real love communicates, even through anger and tears.
🧍🏽‍♂️🧍🏽‍♀️ 4. Understand Your Roles Without Ego
In today’s Nigeria, the lines between gender roles are blurry. But understanding is key:
A husband must lead with love, not force.
A wife must support with strength, not silence.
Submission is not slavery. Headship is not dictatorship.
Both are sacrificial service to each other.
Love without respect becomes controlling. Respect without love becomes cold.
🛡️ 5. Protect Your Marriage Like a Treasure
Your marriage is not public property.
Don’t compare your husband or wife to anyone.
Don’t allow friends or in-laws to sow seeds of suspicion.
Keep your intimacy sacred not everything belongs on Facebook or Instagram.
Don’t bring your problems to people who want your downfall.
What you protect will prosper.
🤍 6. Learn to Forgive — Even When It Hurts
There’s no lasting marriage without forgiveness.
You will both make mistakes. You will both offend each other.
But love says: “I choose to stay, I choose to forgive, I choose to heal with you.”
Forgiveness is a gift you give your marriage — not because they’re always right, but because the union is worth fighting for.
🌻 7. Enjoy the Simple Things
Love doesn’t always need fancy dinner or Dubai vacations.
Sometimes it’s:
Sharing corn by the roadside
Laughing at silly jokes
Holding hands in the market
Bathing the kids together
Sitting in quiet peace after a long day
Don’t wait for big moments to love. Learn to celebrate small victories
💌 The Journey Continues…
The sacred journey is not a straight road.
It has curves, potholes, beautiful sunsets, and sometimes, painful rain.
But if you keep walking together… if you keep growing, keep forgiving, keep praying…
You’ll look back someday and say:
"It wasn’t perfect, but it was real… and it was worth it."