26/09/2025
your Environment is not your problem but your mindset add value to your self and people from high places will come for you.
In this recent argument of people living in rich areas before they will connect with the rich and be motivated. I think that's the mindset of the leeches and those who live by nsakụ and looking for who to leech on , a.k.a Social climbers
The big men you want to stay around know that, that's why they will never make themselves available to allow you into their circle. You know why? You don't have a value they seek. You are a social climber.
Here is the receipt of my first rent in Abuja. The price was 130k. A new room self-con in a developing outskirt of Abuja. Dutse Alhaji to precisely.
We were in Ibeto Hotel, Gudu for about a week. I was eating buffet all through. My room was wide and over beautiful. I didn't pay a dime. It was training that brought me to Abuja. I only applied for something, attended an interview and laced it.
Next, I was seeing senators, House of Reps members, INEC commissioners, Seargent-at-Arms of the National Assembly training us.
While I was enjoying all this things, I knew I should plan for plan B. Yes, some colleagues were politicians children mostly from the north. They were trained abroad and live in their father's properties, and drive all kinds of cars.
My reality and theirs are not the same. I am happy for them, and not jealous of them. I also don't want to be like them, but perhaps, I want to be like their fathers. Even more than their fathers.
I left one day during lunch and hit road to Dutse Alhaji. I haven't been to anywhere called Dutse but I knew Kubwa.
When I got to Dutse, I met an agent who took me to places for house. I told him I don't like any of those places.
He said, "there is this place but it's inside. I don't think you will like it. The road is not good."
"You never can tell. Let's go."
He took me there. Obasanjo Road. We entered through Tipper Garage. The road was a mess but I loved the new structures there and the quietness of the area.
When I got to my house and saw the landlord, I asked: "is this young man the landlord?"
They said yes. I said "I will stay here. I don't care how far it is to anywhere." I was inspired that someone who looked younger was my landlord. He newly got married then.
I collected their account number. Everything was 130k— I transferred the money and went back to my hotel room at Ibeto to continue my training.
After a week of buffet and sleeping in expensive hotel rooms paid for by the organization that brought me to Abuja, reality hits. My own reality. I went back to my apartment in Dutse. I bought a foam. No bedframe. But a high and big bed. Placed it on the floor. I bought a few things I needed and was happy.
The game is to work hard and be happy. Remember, I could afford the towns at the time. I was intentional.
While my colleagues drove to our weekly meeting in Guzape, I flown on bike from SARS office. In their presence I would pay the bike guy N50 and happily greet them.
I think this made those guys admired me, especially the northern ones. Some of the babes would offer to drive me after closing hours. I remember one from Kaduna driving me one day and said she loved the way I carried myself. I will share the story later.
I don't care. I live my life by my own terms and whatever you have is not my business. I don't even want to have what you have. Have yours while I have mine. You drive in Benz, I climb bike. We get to the same destination. Sit together in office as colleagues.
From this self con, I was going to National Assembly where I was working at the time. In my office, my boss loved me because no matter how technical a problem was at the office, I had solutions for them.
After office, my ọga would drive me to Eagle Square where I would board either office bus going to Bwari and stop at Tipper Garage or I would enter normal along or workers going home with their private cars.
Imagine your boss driving you after work, everyday. That kind of relationship. Not because someone connected you to them, but your skills and the way you carry yourself made that possible.
There was an event we had, my ọga from House Committee on Financial Crime, Federal House of Representatives came because of me. My colleagues were asking me how did I pull it. Maintaining good relationships.
I remember in 2019 some house of representatives were selected to represent Nigeria in Legislative Conference held at Doha, Qatar, I was given the privilege to collect their passports of the four house of reps and do the registration on their behalf. I could walk into any office and see reps excited to give me their passport, and also excited they were attending conferences.
The day EFCC defended their budget through house committee on financial crime and the appropriation committee, the chairman of the committee with over 30 house of reps members under saw me with my boss and asked who I was.
I remember after the introduction, he took me to where I never believed I could go in this life. "Out of bound for non distinguished senators and members federal house of representatives." He said I should come with him. We headed into the office of the senator president, Lawan.
It was still inside that one room in faraway Dutse where I didn't even want anyone to know me.
From there, I was being hosted to different places.
I remember getting an invite by Dr. Laz Ude Eze . The first day we met, I began to tell him about sign language. He was like "I have a program at AIT, you could come and sign."
That was it. From the first day we met, I was able to sell what I had to offer.
I started signing for his Health program on AIT. From there, I got a call that an event was coming up and I was to sign. The person who called had saw me on TV and was asking questions. That event was African Economic Congress 2020 where I had to interpret 42 speeches in 3 days— ranging from 4 ambassadors of African countries, CBN Governor, Hope Ụzọdị́ma, two former presidents of African countries, etc.
I was leaving my one room in Dutse Alhaji to attend to all the events.
While some would visit and mock me that I was living in a room. I have heard things like :"someone will see your post on Facebook and assume you have money. They don't know you live in a room self-con."
I never told anyone I had money. While some build the process, the structure, others only see money as accomplishment. I only cut some people off because their essence of coming to you is to seize you if you measured up with their imagination. The real rich people don't care but the content is what they are after. Always the struggling ones with leeches mindset.
To cut the long story short. It's inside this room I started paying 130k I received calls of House of Reps members, and mostly turned down their offers when they are against my conviction. Inside this room I started with 130k in Abuja I built a house just after a year I lived inside it. So, while some people visit probably because they met me on Facebook, then mock me for living in a village, none knew I was building a house elsewhere.
I remember getting an invitation by one big shot in Transcorp. I can't disclose his name. It got to a point he asked me: "is there anything you need money can solve, let me know."
I told him absolutely nothing. Even if I needed anything, it could be a project, something worthwhile, and not just money.
From this room, I built Igbotic dot net website. From this room I translated works for National Bureau of Statistics, IPSOS research agency, World Bank, etc. I got contracts from people who only heard my name of googled my name. Nobody ever asked about where I lived. Where you live is nobody's business.
From this room, I wrote Fiziksi in Igbo language. From this room I conceived the idea of D**e Fashion World and launched it. From this same room, I travelled to the United States.
Getting here, I moved into a luxury apartment because I prepared for it and could afford it in my own terms.
I always believe that even if you are inside the hole, the world will find you. Just have something they need.
If you like, go borrow money, live a depressive life because you want to mimick lifestyles of the rich. Nobody is interested in sycophants and leeches. Wealth and accomplishment are not air transmitted neither are they sexually transmitted
The people you want to get into their circle know your motives. They will never rate you or open doors for you.
The idea is, add value to yourself anywhere you find yourself. You cannot be motivated if you don't want to motivate yourself. Your problem is not your environment but you. And you don't need to live where you can afford because you want to connect with rich people. Life is not Bluetooth or infrared.
I paused!
