03/01/2026
“I left my job and followed my wife because she made more money than me.
I was a primary school teacher earning about ₦60,000 when I decided to marry my wife.
A few months before our wedding, she got a job in another state, a very good and well paying job.
That created a dilemma for us.
Which one of us would quit their job so we could live in the same state?
We did not want a long distance marriage.
After the wedding, I decided to quit my job as a primary school teacher and follow my wife to the state where she was working.
It was not an easy decision because of the cultural belief that women should be the ones to follow their husbands.
But I did not let culture or ego stop me. I followed her.
I became the house husband 😆
I woke up to clean the house, cook the food, and do all the house chores while my wife went to work.
I made sure she never felt the stress of working because I was always there to help.
She gave me the ATM card to her account and I handled her salary.
As the husband, I handled our finances even though she was the one earning.
From that same money, I gave her allowance for her upkeep and took care of everything she needed.
She never complained or made me feel bad for not working or earning at that time.
A few months later, through her connections, she helped me secure business deals, one of them even paid more than her salary.
From there, I was able to get a job, and that was how our lives changed.
Today, I do not just lead as a husband, I also lead financially 😆
All of this happened because I did not let my ego get in the way.
I did not allow the cultural belief that ‘the wife must follow the husband’ to stop me from making the best decision for our future.
I did not allow pride to take over. I helped at home because I had the time.
And yes, I married a good wife who never disrespected me just because she earned more.
Whoever earns the most money does not matter. What matters is that money is being made.
