06/07/2025
Please advice her responsibly
Good evening ma
Please ma post for me so that cuz I need advice right now and I don't know what to do. I'm a young girl who got engaged early last year, I've a baby girl who is one year old now. When I was pregnant my baby daddy stopped me from working promising he's going to provide everything and give me money to get whatever I want, honestly I wasn't comfortable with the idea so I talked to him several times that he should open up a little business for me or give me 1k every day to be saving for myself but he refuge saying after childbirth he will look for something for me to do.
Fast forward to our child dedication ma can you believe that this man collected all the money they gave us in the church and the ones his club gave me without giving me a dime. Now he promised to open a shop for me May this year, May has passed, he promised June now June has passed and we're in July, I asked him if there's money for me to start up the business he said yes that the money is in his savings account, so I had to tell him to give me the money to keep so that he won't use the money but he refused. My problem now is; whenever I asked him about me doing something he will start bringing one problem or the other to a point I couldn't take it anymore I had to report him to his mom. This man told me that reporting him to his mom will never change anything, this man doesn't provide for me, Everytime I ask him for money he will tell me he doesn't have but he buys clothes for himself anytime he wants. The most annoying part is he has a big bar and I told him I want to start selling food in the bar but he refused and put another woman there to be cooking and making money while I sit at home everyday. I found out he ch€at not only with single girls but with married women old enough to be my mother. This morning I checked his phone to see that this man has been chatting with his ex wife, they've reconcile. He has been sending her money for food, house rent and other things, even sees her the last time he traveled to pH. This man has the mind to tell his ex wife that he's sorry for everything he has done to her and for hur$ting her so bad, that I was overzealous and that he has made it clear to me that he won't compromise anything that concerns her. When I confronted him he denied everything. This man is someone that thr€atened me with this marriage whenever we have issues, he will starve me for days his mom will be the one to give me money to cook. I've complained but no one seems to understand me.. he has never for once admit that he's wrong, even when I tried having a peaceful conversation with him he will tell me that I don't have anything important to say and walkaway. I'm tired 😩 I don't have savings because of this man, he body shame me and compared me to other married women saying I put on cheap clothes that I don't dress like a married woman but when I asked him for money to get those expensive clothes he will tell me he doesn't have money. He compares me to the girls he sees on Facebook and that really made me sad 😭 sometimes I look myself in the mirror and feel very discouraged. Please I need your help before I will make decisions that I will regret afterwards.
