23/04/2025
HERE’S THE RIGHT WAY TO HANDLE DISAGREEMENT WITH YOUR PASTOR.
"Have you ever sat in church and thought, 'Wait… I don’t agree with that'? Maybe it was a sermon, a decision, or even a personal interaction. And now you’re wondering... what do I do? Do I just leave? Do I confront them? Do I stay silent? Let’s break it down biblically, because how you handle this moment could either strengthen your faith or shake it!"
1. Seek Understanding Before Judgment... "Proverbs 4 verse 7 says, 'Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.' Before you react, take a step back and ask: Did I misunderstand? Is there more context I need? Many times, disagreements happen because we see only a part of the picture. Pray for discernment before jumping to conclusions."
2. Go to the Word, Not Just Your Feelings...
"2nd Timothy 3 verse 16 reminds us that ‘All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.’ Before confronting your pastor, check if your disagreement is based on personal preference or a biblical issue. The Word of God must always be our foundation!"
3. Pray Before You Speak...
"James 1 verse 19 teaches us, ‘Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.’ Don’t let emotions lead the conversation. Instead, pray for wisdom and a heart of humility. Ask God for the right words and the right timing, because how you say something is just as important as what you say."
4. Have a Respectful, Private Conversation...
"Matthew 18 verse 15 gives us clear guidance: ‘Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.’ Many church conflicts could be avoided if people spoke with each other instead of about each other. Approach your pastor with respect and a heart ready to listen, not just to prove your point."
5. If Needed, Seek Wise Counsel...
"Proverbs 11 verse 14 tells us, ‘Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.’ If your disagreement remains unresolved, seek guidance from mature, godly believers. The goal isn’t division—it’s clarity, wisdom, and peace."
6. Know When to Stay and When to Leave...
"Not every disagreement is a reason to leave a church. If it’s a minor issue, practice grace. But if it’s a matter of doctrinal error, spiritual abuse, or compromising God’s truth, then you may need to seek a new place of worship where the Word is rightly preached."
In Conclusion:
"Disagreements will happen in church, but how you handle them reveals your spiritual maturity. Will you let offense take root, or will you seek wisdom, truth, and unity? Remember, church is not about personalities... t’s about Christ. So before you walk away, ask yourself: Am I being led by offense or by truth? Because one leads to division, but the other leads to growth."
"If this message spoke to you, share it with someone who needs to hear it! Let’s grow in wisdom together.
Comment below... have you ever disagreed with a pastor? How did you handle it? And if you haven’t yet, save this for the future… because one day, you might need it!
