03/02/2022
I keep my promises.
I told you, we are going through a process together (see: https://tinyurl.com/asaaap )
A process that will have you becoming the best version of yourself.
(Best believe! The best version of you is not poor!)
The best version of you is happy. Fulfilled in life, with little or no worries about many things, especially finances.
ARE YOU THAT VERSION THOUGH?
Like the best things in life, you can't rush it. If you try to, you become a twisted version of yourself.
Wealthy? Maybe yes. But happy and fulfilled? No.
The first step to doing this is, (you got it!)
Loving yourself.
This is not a strange thing to say, it is even quite cheesy. But the truth is, LOVING YOURSELF IS HARD WORK.
Unlike loving others, you can't fake it.
Why? Because you are the one DOING the loving, the one RECEIVING the loving, and the one JUDGING the loving.
You can try, but you can't deceive yourself. When the doors are shut and you are alone, you realize how much you hate yourself. Or just the bland feeling of indifference about yourself.
I believe that by default, as humans, we love ourselves. That’s why we feed, shelter and protect ourselves from hurt or death. It is our natural instinct to survive. But something happens along the way with our experiences in life,
We start to distrust ourselves and even feel disappointed in ourselves. Our confidence takes a good beating. Our self-worth became measured with the ever-fluctuating trends of society. We are constantly looking for who to blame. And whenever we do blame ourselves, we are quite the unjust judge.
How do you love yourself?
Just like a child that is trying to get you to like them. Apply Good Effort.
Everyone, even yourself, appreciates good effort. And not just any effort, but effort to do better.
First of all,
• Identify the things you don’t like about yourself
• Find out why you don’t like those things, be sincere.
• Can you do anything about it now?
• If Yes, then what? If No, then no problem, let it slide (focus on what you can control)
Write down what you want to do about the things you dislike about yourself.
Then break it down. To the smallest tasks.
As small as “Wash my face”, “Apply lotion”, “Go outside”. And tick on it when done.
You might laugh at yourself about it, but you will feel good and a little proud about it.
Sometimes, it takes the ballsy moves, like “pay for the gym class”.
Of course, a little voice might counter with a
“What if I don’t go or take it serious? I don’t have money to waste!”
Well, tell that little voice to Shut up! If it had been so wise, why are you in such predicament then? DO IT.
Little actions you take like this makes you fall in love slowly with yourself.
As like in those romantic movies you watch, that little effort to do better, makes the ‘love receiver’ part of you be swept off its feet… and the ‘love Judge’ part of you be like, “Hmm… not bad, not at all”.
Do that course.
Get on that program.
Get that Job done.
Quit that Habit by learning a better habit.
Get in shape (I easily help people with that at: https://fitandfeline.com )
Loving yourself is a process. And sometimes, you can’t love yourself because you actually have good taste; Who you are now is not who you wish to be. So, why SETTLE instead of BECOME?
Does this make sense?
