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26/06/2025

The damages of relationship expectations

Expectations in relationships and marriages today has made a lot of persons loose out on good persons and powerful relationships that were meant to be ..let's dive in👇👇👇

What Are Relationship Expectations? At its core, an expectation is a belief that someone will act in a certain way or fulfill a specific role in your life. In relationships, these expectations often reflect the love, support, and understanding we hope to receive and when these expectations aren't being received as we hope them to be,it breeds serious issues or damages that may lead to a cheating or divorce...

These days,some person would approach an individual for a relationship, and before the relationship takes its course, You've already pictured how the relationship with this person would look like,maybe due to the looks of that person,their level of experience or educational backgrounds or achievements you'll start idealising this person in certain ways you expect them to behave without even getting to know this person in question...

As humans we've got flaws but expectations will make it look like this person ought to be so so perfect without any flaws that we don't even see ours,that's were problems sets in..each mistake made by Ur partner,ul see yourself saying "I don't expect this from you,I thought you were this,I thought you were that,I expected you to behave this way or that way".Once you notice yourself saying this to Ur partner,pls just stop...yes pause ⏸️...and ask yourself, am I perfect?am I without faults?will my partner say these words to me if I made same mistakes?how does he or she feel when I say this?do they have things too to complain about me?or are they just tolerating me for the marriage or relationship to strive?

We do these things without even knowing the emotional trauma or havoc we cause this person we call partner, expecting him or her to behave in a certain way that should suit us. It hurts cos they've got feelings too, it's damaging their self-esteem slowly,it's damaging them emotionally and they gradually they withdraw from you and this in return breeds resentment,silent treatments and before you know it,there is a BIG RIFT between both hearts....which can bring about cheating because one or each partner will start depending on someone else for emotional support or validation and before one knows it,the relationship goes beyond repair...and the most dreaded incident DIVORCE OR SEPARATION occurs..

Instead of expecting your partner to behave in a certain or certain ways as you've idealised in Ur head.

Do these instead

🌹Accept them the way they came to you.
🌹Have honest and open conversations.
🌹Spend quality time together.
🌹Show affection and appreciation.
🌹Show empathy.
🌹Show friendship
🌹Built trust
🌹Communicate your sexual needs and satisfaction..

And ul see that Ur partner might be that ANGEL or PRINCE CHARMING you prayed to have...

©Vella

06/06/2025

Happy Salah to all my wonderful Muslims❤️❤️❤️

05/06/2025

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04/06/2025

May everything about you,your loved ones and entire household be beautiful in this month of June....may u all experience sound health, financial freedom, motherhood Nd fatherhood(for those waiting on God) beautiful and peaceful marriages,peace that supercedes all understanding,and every other good things life has to offer...ijn...tap into these blessings with an amen...🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

HAPPY JUNE

©Vella

04/06/2025

04/06/2025

What's your take on this guys?was Regina wrong?or Angela was?

29/05/2025

Diaryofakitchenlover

16/05/2025

Never play with a woman who’s comfortable in her solitude.

She’s already mastered the quiet nights without comfort. She’s faced problems with no one to lean on and still found a way to make it through. She’s created her own peace—not by chance, but through resilience and intention.

Inconsistency? Breadcrumbs? She’ll reject them without hesitation—because she’s survived worse. She doesn’t cling to potential, and she’s not held hostage by hope. Your silence won’t rattle her. Your half-hearted love won’t grip her. She’s whole, with or without you.

And games? They only reveal what she already knows—that you’re not worthy of the depth she brings. She doesn’t need to make a scene or plead for attention. The moment she realizes her time is being wasted, she’ll walk away—not with drama, but with quiet, steady resolve. Right back to the serenity she built before you ever showed up.

A woman who isn’t afraid to be alone loves by choice, not desperation. If you cross her, she won’t fight to keep you—she’ll simply replace you with the peace you disturbed.

So take this as a warning: underestimate her independence, and you’ll quickly learn—she doesn’t just survive on her own… she thrives.

29/04/2025

Learn From Billionaires: What They All Have in Common

Billionaires may come from different countries, industries, and backgrounds, but if you study them closely, you’ll find they share a set of powerful traits that helped them rise to the top.

And here’s the good news: these traits are not exclusive. You can develop them too—starting today.

Let’s break down four qualities billionaires have in common, with real-life examples:

1. Discipline

“We don’t have to be smarter than the rest. We have to be more disciplined than the rest.” – Warren Buffett

Discipline is the quiet superpower behind every successful billionaire.

Warren Buffett, one of the richest men in the world, is not known for chasing the latest trends. Instead, he sticks to a clear set of investing principles and rarely strays from them—even when others panic.

He reads for hours every day, thinks long-term, and avoids emotional decisions.

Aliko Dangote, Africa’s richest man, is famously disciplined with his time and investments.

He built an empire by consistently reinvesting profits and staying focused on scalable industries like cement, sugar, and oil.

Discipline means doing the right things daily—even when you don’t feel like it.

It means showing up, saving, investing, and building, even when the results aren’t instant.

2. Focus

“I don’t believe in diversification. I believe in focus.” – Aliko Dangote

While many people scatter their efforts trying to chase every opportunity, billionaires focus deeply on what they do best.

Aliko Dangote focused on manufacturing and infrastructure, even when others doubted the potential in those sectors.

That focus helped him dominate markets across Africa.

Oprah Winfrey built her empire by mastering the art of storytelling and communication.

She didn’t try to be everything at once—she focused on growing her media presence, then strategically expanded into other ventures.

If you want big results, concentrate your time and energy. As Buffett says, "The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything."

3. Lifelong Learning

“The more you learn, the more you earn.” – Warren Buffett

This is not just a quote—it’s Buffett’s lifestyle. He reportedly spends 80% of his day reading. Books, newspapers, reports—you name it.

He believes that knowledge compounds, just like money.

Oprah Winfrey is also a lifelong learner. She credits her success to staying curious, constantly seeking personal growth, and learning from every experience.

Her famous book club wasn’t just for show—it reflected her deep love for learning and sharing knowledge.

No matter how busy they get, billionaires make time to read, study trends, attend seminars, or learn new skills.

That mindset keeps them sharp and adaptable.

You don’t need hours—just commit to reading a few pages daily, listening to educational podcasts, or investing in courses that help you grow.

4. Calculated Risks

“If you don’t find a way to make money while you sleep, you will work until you die.” – Warren Buffett

Billionaires are not reckless. They don’t throw money around hoping for luck.

But they also don’t play it too safe. They take calculated risks—after doing deep research and preparing for different outcomes.

Oprah took a massive risk by starting her own network, OWN. It wasn’t smooth at first, but she stayed committed, learned from failures, and eventually made it a success.

Dangote took bold steps into new industries like petroleum refining and agriculture—sectors that required billions in capital and years of patience.

But he did his homework, hired the right people, and stuck with the vision.

Taking calculated risks is how you grow. Whether it’s starting a side hustle, investing in the stock market, or switching careers—don’t let fear hold you back. Just be sure to prepare wisely.

Conclusion: You Can Learn—and Apply—These Traits

You don’t have to be a billionaire to think like one.
Start with what you have:

Be disciplined with your habits and money.

Focus your energy on what truly matters.

Never stop learning—read, observe, grow.

Be bold enough to take calculated risks.

Small daily steps, over time, will lead to big wins. Billionaire traits are built—not born.

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