29/07/2025
THE BEST ADVICE A MOTHER GAVE TO HER SON A DAY BEFORE HIS WEDDING : A MUST READY, MUST SHARE WETHER YOU ARE SINGLE OR MARRIED
You see mummy's boy, tomorrow is your wedding day, the day you will become a man, a man of your own and no longer a boy.
Also from tomorrow you will be having a new mother, a new cook, and a new person with whom you will share your innermost secrets. It will no longer be me but her.
Love your new mum even more than me. Before you walk into her arms forever, let me give you some words that will guide to a successful, healthy marriage.
You see, there was a day an argument ensued between your father and I, we were both screaming, tempers were high at both sides. Then I called him idiot and he was shocked.
He looked at me in amazement, asking how dare I called him idiot. But then I flared up the more calling him fool, stupid, crazy and all sorts of abusive words.
Can you guess what he did, he didn't raise his hands to hit me, rather he walked away, banging the door as he left.
My son, if he had hit and defaced my eyes, how will you feel sitting with a blind mother today? How would you regard him as your father. Would you have been proud of him?
Thereafter be a man enough not to hit your wife no matter the provocation, just walk away and things will be normalized.
What your father did here is called MATURUTY in marriage.
After your father left, I was full of guilt, yet we slept on the same bed that night and I went to him the next day, did all that was necessary that genuinely I was sorry and he forgave me.
That day, with my money I cooked his favorite food :POUNDED YAM WITH VEGETABLE SOUL.
From that day, I never called him names and my respect for him became ten(10) times stronger.
For a healthy marriage, there are a number of important things to which you must pay attention and do to your wife.
π³οΈAlways defend her in public even in cases
you will have to correct her in private.
π³οΈSupport her mentally, spiritually, physically,
and emotionally.
π³οΈBuild mutual TRUST by being honest,
transparent and accountable
π³οΈForgive of her faults and imperfections
π³οΈAlso be faithful to each other (temptations
shortcuts and so on)
For you to know how this issues of DEFENDING, SUPPORTING AND TRUSTING work in marriage, again listen to what your father did one day.
That day, your father was going to host the owner of his company and his friends. I was in the kitchen cooking for them and your father went to buy drinks and when the table was set, everyone started eating. Then I remembered I did not add salt to the food, this became embarrassing.
Your father tasted the food, looked at me and immediately came up with a strategy to both defend me and correct the situation by telling his guests that "I instructed my wife last month not to add salt whenever she is cooking, a prescription from my doctor" and before you know, everybody laughed it off.
All of the guests understood and he asked me to bring salt, everyone added according to their taste. Only your father managed to eat the food without salt.
After all the guests left, your father went down on his knees and asked for God's forgiveness for telling the lie.
Learn here how your father had used maturity in marriage to defend my shortcoming instead of openly criticizing me. Sometimes your wife will behave like a baby, not knowing what to say or do, learn to stand up and speak for her, defend her, support her.
ABOUT S*X IN MARRIAGE, It is a wonderful thing. Do not be surprised if your wife likes and need s*x more than you do.
There were days I needed it more than your father just like there were other occasions, it was the other way round. The important thing is for you both to satisfy each other when you need s*x. DON'T ALWAYS THINK OF SATISFYING YOURSELF ALONE.
There was a time things became tough I had to take up two jobs to support your father and one night, he was in the mood, I was tired. He tried to make love to me and I didn't refuse him. When he tried to undress me, he saw my look and stopped, asking what was wrong and I said nothing. But he understood me better. He stopped and started telling me stories until I fell asleep.
My son, s*x is best enjoyed when both parties are physically, mentally and emotionally ready for it. Sometimes read your wife's mood and understand her, she will reciprocate.
Make it a habit to go anywhere except your place of work with your wife. If you are invited and told not to come with your wife, then be wary. Use wisdom.
Unlike before now, if you have any problem, let your wife, not me be the first to know. When you have issue in the marriage, don't run to me immediately.
Wait for a day or two to pass, then discuss the issue with her. Pray about it also.
Report your wife to no one but always discuss issues with her.
You may when appropriate consider the use of a qualified, professional MARRIAGE/FAMILY COUNSELOR just like you have your family medical doctor. They are trained to listen to and proffer solutions to many of the marriage problems.
My dear son, I know you will have a happy home. You will always be the mummy's boy.
In everything you do in your new home, don't forget to invite God, pray and always seek His assistance.
DEAR READERS, MY FANS
Wether you are married or single, this piece is one of the best advice you can use to BUILD AND NURTURE HEALTHY BOND IN RELATIONSHIP AND MARRIAGE. READ CAREFULLY, FULLY. SHARE TO EVERY LOVED ONE AND DROP YOUR COMMENT.
IT IS BROUGHT TO BENEFIT THE HUMANITY AS A WHOLE.
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COUNSELOR durosinmi is a relationship coach, a marriage counselor Marriage Academy TMA
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