14/10/2025
Nobody told me that the hardest part of love isn’t distance or che@ting, it’s the quiet competition that starts after comfort sets in.
At the beginning, love feels easy. You both agree on almost everything, you talk for hours, you laugh over the smallest things and you can’t even imagine fighting.
Then, slowly something shifts.
You start noticing who’s right more often.
Who gives in first after a disagreement, who talks more and who stays silent longer.
You start protecting your space.
You start saying things like, I’m not a fool, I also have feelings. Before you know it, it’s no longer us vs the problem, it’s me vs you.
That’s when you unknowingly enter the power struggle phase, and every couple meets it at some point. It’s not the end of love but it’s the phase that tests it the most, the part of the relationship where love quietly starts competing with ego.
It’s not that you don’t love each other anymore.
It’s that both of you are now trying to be heard, seen, and respected at the same time.
And sometimes, the need to be right starts sounding louder than the need to understand.
This is the phase no one really prepares you for.
You’ll argue over small things and wonder, Why is it suddenly so hard?
You’ll feel misunderstood, unseen, or even controlled.
And many couples get stuck here. They stop growing together and start walking around each other, still together, but emotionally apart.
If you’re in that phase right now, don’t panic.
It doesn’t mean love is dying, it means your relationship is asking for maturity.
Learn to listen without defending, to express without attacking and to love without trying to win.
Because when love becomes a game of who’s right and who’s wrong, no one wins, the relationship just quietly loses. 💔
Be honest, have you ever been in this silent competition with someone you love?
Let’s talk about this in the comments 👇👇
✍🏾 Amab.
Restoring love. Rebuilding connection.
