13/06/2026
This is an important topic I really want us to reflect on.
It is very important for both men and women to build themselves before rushing into marriage or depending fully on another person for life stability. Marriage is a partnership, not a rescue plan.
When you take time to develop yourself, whether through education, skills, career, or business, you are creating a solid foundation for your future. It gives you confidence, independence, and the ability to stand strong even when life becomes challenging.
No one can guarantee how life or relationships will turn out. That is why it is wise to prepare yourself so that you are not completely dependent on another person for your survival or happiness.
At the same time, there are good and supportive partners out there, and many people do enjoy loving and stable marriages. But even in such relationships, both sides should bring something valuable to the table, not just emotions, but also responsibility, growth, and contribution.
A strong relationship is built on two complete individuals coming together, not two incomplete people trying to survive through each other.
That is why I believe both men and women should focus on building themselves first, develop skills, earn income, grow mentally and emotionally, and create a stable life before making lifelong commitments.
It is about balance, preparation, and self-respect.
Saheed Pressi.