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09/05/2026

How you teach your child that lying is good without knowing

My six years old daughter had come home with the age long assignment on how l spent my last holiday. Just like we were taught that you write composition with imagination even if you were not there, her mother told her to write about where she wants or where she had been before because she didn't step out of the house throughout the holiday. But to our suprise the young girl just queried in a sharp voice " but l didnt go anywhere now". The mother tried explaining that its just a composition. The more she tried, the more she persisted that she didnt go anywhere as if to be asking why do you want me to lie now.

The smart mom, realising that what she has been teaching her that its not good to lie is playing out, she just conceded ans said, " Ok, oya write that you were home throughout and explain all the games you were playing with your siblings and friends"

The lesson here is that these children are too smart these days than our time, when we just swallow everything. I can't imagine how many stories we had told about how we spent our last holidays that never happened. We must be conscious of this little learning moment for them so we dont teach one thing and ask them to do another unknowingly and innocently. They pick these details and it forms their learning. Thank God this one spoke out, some will not, but they process the thought inside and make learning out of it.

Meanwhile, Sigmund Freud and other psychologists have established that most learning actually takes place within ages 1-5yrs and some says 1-7yrs. These learning are stored in the brain to be retrieved as they face similar event or occurrence.

Fagbenro

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09/05/2026

08/05/2026

Kind of Spouse in Marriage (Part A)

Personality differs based on different criteria as established in psychology and biology. This fact also plays out in marriage as l have observed 3 major kind of spouse over my 20 years of interest and learning on the institution of marriage. The middle kind is subdivided into two, depending on which of the two other major kinds they tend towards or that the traits dominate their personality. With this, you have 4 kinds of spouse.
For clarity, l will analyse in terms of four major aspect of marriage- Feeding, s*x, finance and communication.

A. Consumer kind of spouse:

This kind of spouse tends more towards consumption. They are very good at receiving more than giving. Their have a trait that is wired towards taking even when they are capable themselves But the good thing about them is that they can be very calm and loving as long as you're providing for them. Infact they are cool when you ask them not to do anything. They are servant-spouse
A part of them will never agitate. When you give, they take and if you do not, they continue to be hopeful to receive from you, why the other make demands even when they too cant give. They are not necessarily stingy or lazy because they might be generous elsewhere or to their own family, but behave different with their spouse because of mindset

(a) Feeding- - the husband in this category are the type that like good foods but cannot cook.
- find it difficult to assist in the kitchen or even try to cook.
+ Most times,wait for the wives to come and cook before they eat.
+ dropping money for the food is not automatic, you have to ask.
Wives in this category are the type that you will need to be firm and pushy with
+ cooking is a challenge even when they can.
+ they prefer someone else doing it for them.
+ you hardly get variety from them.
+prefers cooking the ones that will be done fast
+ they jump at the offer of eating out even if its 7 times a week.

(b) S*x - Spouses here are mostly available to be served and they put little or no efforts.
+ never initiate s*x or stretch themselves.
+ hardly ask if other spouse is satisfied.
+ just cm and go, less sensitive to spouse's needs
+ both are ok as long as you're available each time

(c) Finance- Spending is not that smooth and easy. They watch out for each other on who to drop money.
+ Easily receive than give out.

(d) Communication - hardly drags anything as long as long as they are taking care of.
-+can easily be mistaken for respect and submissiveness until it goes against them.
+ concede more than dispute

However, this is the ideal kind of spouse everyone craves for but only that you can become irritated by their lackluster traits sometimes. They are easy to deal with as long as you're willing to take the lead, authority and responsibility and be a producer in the marriage Spouses with high ego will better having this kind as wives or husbands especially the men.

Fagbenro
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