05/09/2026
So many people think physical abusee is worsee than emotional abusee.
But that’s not true.
A woman can be physically beatenn once and everyone will immediately say, “Leave that marriage!”
But let that same woman say, “My husband insultss me every day. He calls me uselesss, foolishh, uglyy, senselesss. He threatenss me, humiliatess me, aaccuses me of things I didn't do and makes me feel like I am nothing.”
Suddenly, people will say:
“Maybe you should learn how to handle him.”
“Men talk when they are angryy.”
“Don't take everything he says seriously.”
“Every marriage has problemss.”
But emotional abusee is still abusee.
Imagine waking up every day knowing that one wrong word can bring insultss.
Imagine constantly walking on eggshellss because you don't know what will trigger the next outburstt.
Imagine someone repeatedly telling you that you are worthlesss until you eventually start believing it yourself.
There may be no bruisee on your body, but your mind is bleedingg.
And sometimes, the person who is emotionally abusedd doesn't even realise how much damagee has been done until they finally get away from the situation and begin to feel like themselves again.
Physical abusee is terriblee.
But please don't minimise emotional abusee simply because there are no visible woundss.
Words can destroyy people too.
Threatss can create fearr.😞
Humiliationn can destroyy self-esteem.
Manipulationn can make someone question their own reality.
And constant emotional abusee can change a person's entire life.
However, there is an important difference between someone who abusess you, denies everything and blames you for their behaviour, and someone who genuinely recognises what they have done.
If the person accepts responsibility for their actions, stops making excuses, sincerely apologises, is willing to seek help and consistently works towards changing their behaviour, then there may be room for healingg and rebuilding the relationship.
But saying “I'm sorry” and repeating the same behaviour the next day is not change.
Blaming the victimm is not change.
Saying “You made me do it” is not taking responsibility.
Real change is shown through consistent actions, not just words.
Don't wait until someone hitss you before you take abusee seriously.
And don't confuse forgiveness with allowing someone to continue hurtingg you.
Abusee should never be normalised. But genuine accountability, willingness to change and consistent effort should also be recognised when they are truly present.❤️
Peace and light 🕯️
