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10/08/2023

SMILES OF CONNECTION, ECHOES OF REGRET.

The heavy snowfall created a serene ambiance at one o'clock in the morning. I lounged on my bed, legs propped up, while mindlessly scrolling through Facebook on my phone. Suddenly, my phone rang, and to my surprise, it was Bro Stephen, affectionately known as the praying mantis. 🦗 However, the clock struck me—why was he calling at this hour?

Confusion clouded my mind, torn between answering or dismissing the call. After a few moments, I decided to pick up.

Bro Stephen: "Hello, Sis Ruth. Good morning."
Me: "Good morning, sir. Is everything alright? Calling at this time..."
Bro Stephen: "Yes, dear. All is well. Sleep eludes me, and my thoughts are racing. I noticed you were online, and I thought of having someone to talk to." (I could almost sense his smile)
Me: "Hmm, I see. Same here, honestly. Sleep seems distant, so I'm just scrolling through social media handles." 😂

Thus, our conversation took flight. We shared stories, and thoughts, and laughed along the way. As we continued, I glanced at the time—astonishingly, it was already past five in the morning! 😲 Our late-night chats started to affect me; my midnight prayers were abandoned, and the fire of devotion within me began to dim. A part of me contemplated ending these late talks, recognizing their negative impact. However, another part found solace and enjoyment in our exchanges. Bro Stephen's voice was soothing, captivating, and remarkably inviting.

As our interactions deepened, the boundaries between friendship and something more began to blur. We spent nights engrossed in our conversations, sharing dreams and aspirations. And then, one fateful night, the inevitable happened—our connection evolved into an act of intimacy, an act that left us both grappling with guilt and remorse.

The aftermath was painful. Regret gnawed at our hearts, and the once-cherished friendship was tainted by our lapse in judgment. We had allowed ourselves to succumb to the allure of emotional closeness, which ultimately led us down a path we never intended to tread.

This unfortunate turn of events taught us a profound moral lesson: the importance of maintaining boundaries and exercising caution in forming close relationships with the opposite gender. What initially seemed innocent and comforting turned into a cautionary tale of the consequences of crossing those lines.

In the end, I realized the significance of preserving emotional purity and guarding the sanctity of relationships. Our experience served as a stark reminder that venturing into intimate territory, even emotionally, can have lasting repercussions that tarnish not only our values but also the bonds we hold dear.

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22/05/2023

Achieving together.

Friends Who Dare: Fueling Your Dreams

There is an old saying that goes, "Surround yourself with people who challenge you, inspire you, and push you to become better." The importance of having friends who dare to dream alongside you cannot be overstated. These individuals not only support you but also contribute significantly to your personal growth and the pursuit of your aspirations. Let's dive into how these remarkable friends can help you achieve your dreams!

1️⃣ Unyielding Support: True friends who dare to dream will stand by your side through thick and thin. They provide unwavering support during moments of doubt or setbacks, reminding you of your capabilities and encouraging you to keep going. Their belief in you becomes a powerful force that fuels your determination to reach for the stars.

2️⃣ Shared Aspirations: Having friends who share similar dreams and ambitions creates an environment of collective motivation. Together, you can exchange ideas, bounce off each other's creativity, and find solutions to obstacles. Collaborating with like-minded friends can enhance your chances of success and provide a strong sense of camaraderie along the journey.

3️⃣ Constructive Criticism: Friends who dare to dream are not afraid to challenge you and offer constructive criticism. They will provide honest feedback, highlighting areas for improvement and suggesting alternative approaches. Embracing their insights with an open mind can propel you forward, helping you refine your skills and strategies to reach your goals more effectively.

4️⃣ Inspiration and Role Models: When you surround yourself with friends who have achieved their dreams or are actively pursuing them, their success becomes an inspiration. Their accomplishments serve as a testament to what is possible, igniting a fire within you to strive for greatness. Their stories and experiences can guide you, providing valuable insights and lessons along the way.
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18/05/2023

Life's treasures lie hidden, patiently awaiting discovery. In the ordinary, the extraordinary resides. Let us embark on a quest for inspiration, embracing the simplest of things. For it is within the mundane that magic thrives. Let us unlock the wonders of each day, for therein lies our truest source of inspiration.

It's been a long time fam.. How have you al been?

27/12/2022

My name is Vicky, and this is my story, I wish all reading this will learn from my mistake….
I am 18years old going to 19 by next year February, I am born into a Christian home, My father is the head usher, and my mother is the woman coordinator and assistant prayer leader, I was the sister rep before coming to campus. I was brought up in the fear of the lord, but this is what happened😭😭

My name is Mich, I am 21years old, I am a 300L student. I am born into a Christian home, and was brought up in the fear of the lord, I thought I am strong l, nothing could ever bring me down, Hear our story, and learn from our mistake…

Vicky’s POV

It all started the first day I started school, that was on a Tuesday, I was just moving up and down with my files for clearance, as I knew no body in the school, and the crowd was much, so I was just busy look for who to ask for direction, on how to go about my clearance, from no were a guy tapped me from behind, I turned to see him, I can remember vividly what he said. “Hi I am Mich, are you are a new student? Cause I have been watching you moving up and down for some minutes now, incase if you need help, I am here to help.” At this point I was so happy, cause that was what I just needed that moment, “Eemm yes, please I am confused and lost here, how should I arrange my files, and must I stand I that long line before I can be attended to? Am Vicky by name” That was my reply.

Mich POV

I have always been careful and mindful on how I relate with ladies, especially here in campus, but on that fateful Tuesday, I was passing when I saw this lady with files on her hand moving about like a novices, first I started by appreciating the hand work of God, then I was forced to keep going to were I was going, but I insisted on helping her out, which is not bad, but the truth was I was already building up and idol in my mind, and at this point there was an internal war within my heart, I was lusting after her, but tried justifying it, to be just a normal thing that happens, that it is something I can handle, after fighting against my conscience, I went up to her, to render help to her, and that was how we became friends. (N.B friendship not relationship)

Vicky’s POV

Deep inside of me, I was very innocent, he assisted me, not only that day, but till I was able to complete my clearance, and I was happy when I got to realize that we were from the same church, and truthfully he was dressed in a brotherly manner, in shot holiness was written on his appearance (its funny but that’s how it is) after my clearance, he became a tutor to me, not only tho, he organised a free tutorial in order to help new students like us make first class as he was a first class student from 100L..

Mich’s POV

Talking about tutorial, yes I have been a first class student from my 1st year, and it’s been God, I started the tutoring from my 200L in order to help new students, as she said, make first class.. But I got to realized that while teaching I focus mainly on her, and my conscience the police of my heart, will always convict me of it, but I justified it to be just a special love, maybe because she was from my church, or because of her good behavior, I refused to acknowledge that I was lusting after her.. And I think that was the beginning of what all happened.

Vicky’s POV

Yea I noticed while in class his attention was always on me, but I had nothing in mind, and I didn’t take it serious, because I only saw him as someone who was just trying his best to see me make first class, and I was happy about it, I never knew that he was building or has built an idol in his heart, because holiness was still written on his appearance😁😁 so I didn’t see anything coming.
It continued and continued, he became my mentor, and would always give me advices, godly advice, and I was now always comfortable staying with him, I was still innocent deep down, dresses in a Godly manner, and never allowed any evil thought find it’s way in to my mind.

Mich’s POV

Vicky was very innocent, and what I regret most was allowing the flesh have upper hand, because I refused to accept that I was now lusting after her, when ever we are together, (N.B we where never in any relationship what so ever and we never held hands or sit too close to each other) while advising or counseling her, I spend more time admiring her face only, because she dresses properly and leave’s non of her body uncovered, if it were possible she would have also covered her face😁😁. The flesh is so wicked that even when it’s evident I am lusting after her, it finds a way to say no, it’s just that God is a great designer, that I was just appreciating the hand work of God, and this is the same thing so many brothers out there will be facing, I am not happy sharing this, but I have to tell my story because I want others to learn from it, and also give me advice on what to do, Deking please don’t judge me🙏 or her🙏 she recommended you to me, so please I only need advice.

Vicky’s POV

After much advice, tutoring and counseling, by God’s grace I was among the first class students.
To cut the story short, over the years we have grown too close to each other, and to me I only saw him as a helper and a friend indeed, I goes to visit him, but with my roommate, but on that fateful day my roommate wasn’t around, so I had to go alone, Deking I wouldn’t go deep I will stop it all here.
Now I need help, I need advice, what should I do?? My parents will be greatly disappointed with me, what should I do??
Deking share this story, I need advice right now, and I pray all that reads my story will learn from my mistakes😤😣

Mich’s POV

She is pregnant, I don’t know what to do now, I have learnt my lesson a hard way, what is your suggestion?? She is afraid and don’t want to tell her parents, I myself my parents won’t be happy with me, I may have to drop out of school, I have cried and asked God for forgiveness, but it still isn’t getting better. Deking I am afraid Vicky might attempt su***de.. Please we need help, like right now..🙏 Not judgement please🙏

What is your advice? What should the do?

Please share this as much as possible, for advice and for others to learn from their story…

If you have made any mistake you regret, and wouldn’t want anyone to make the same mistake, feel free to chat me up, with this number, even if you don’t want to be made know, any story at all, 07040973974. Tell the story today, it might save someone, chat me up with that number..



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24/12/2022

True Analysis of Life.

After Secondary School:
All your school and class mates will go in different directions into the world.

CATEGORY 1
Some have completed universities and are now:
Professors,
Doctors,
Engineers,
Teachers,
Pilots,
Lawyers,
Administrators,
Imams,
Pastors,
Ministry overseers,
Church overseers, &
Business tycoons etc.

CATEGORY 2
Some are married,
Some have given birth,
Some are still searching and waiting on the Lord.

CATEGORY 3
Some are dead, don't forget that too.

CATEGORY 4
And others are on the sick bed.

CATEGORY 5
Some are running their higher degrees: Masters, PHD, etc.

CATEGORY 6
Some haven't even gained admission into the tertiary institution and may NEVER be able to.

CATEGORY 7
Some own companies

CATEGORY 8
Some are now Directors and major shareholders in global companies.
Hmmmmmmm!!!
How do you feel when you meet your classmates, and it seems like he/she has accomplished their dreams and you're not yet close to yours?

So many thoughts run through your mind, right?
First, you think God has not been fair to you.

How about the ones you meet on the street wearing dirty cloths and still struggling for survival?

Do you get the same thoughts running through your mind?
I guess, NO.

Don't forget too that some are already dead.
Somehow it feels natural to have that feeling of jealousy for those mates who seem better off, but it is really unnecessary.

There is no room for regrets.
We are all different and our paths to greatness are also not the same in distance.

Some might have arrived earlier before you and some after you, but whatever level you find yourself in life, please keep trying to break limitations and move further.

Celebrate the success of others, it's an indication that yours too shall surely come.

Your friend buys a car now, be happy with him/her.
Remember when you'll buy yours,
theirs might not be the latest again.

There's no permanent champion, but current champion.

Life is not about competition. Do not be in a race with anyone.
Remember, we may seem to be reading the same book but different chapters at different times.

Don't let the passion in you kill the desire in you, keep it burning.

What you're passing through today;
Write it down because one day, the world would be ready to read it, they'll become part of your success story.

There's no height you cannot attain.
Believe in yourself. Define your goals.
Recognize distractions and don't stop striving

Spend time teaching yourself, because those things that mainly take people to the top are the things they devoted their time to develop.

Don't be intimidated by your friend's success.

The sky is wide enough for birds to fly without touching one another.

Value every little thing that God brings into your life.
Love God and obey Him.

For with God, all things are possible.

Now to those who are on top, Never forget to give a helping hand to those who are down. Because Life is full of uncertainties. The one you pull up today, may be the one to hold your hands and prevent you from falling tomorrow

A piece of advice there.
Food for thought for all school and class mates.

Share this to all your mates and let them realize that God has a purpose for everyone

Always be humble and thank God for His Grace in your lives.

May God bless us all.

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30/11/2022

Stay focused

A young guy who was given birth into a poor family, and lost his mother at his early stage of life, had only his father to cater for him, and it wasn’t easy for his dad as a single parent, but his dad tried and did all he could to see that his son feed and dressed well, even though he wasn’t going to school like all other children.
This boy was very intelligent and brave even as he was not going to school, the boy had to start hawking in other to assist his dad. Depression tries to cheap in when he see’s his fellow children going to school, but his dad will always say to him, “my son don’t worry all will be fine”. This continued and continued, to a point he walked up to his dad and said to him, “dad you keep saying to me all will be fine, but nothing at all is getting better, till when will we continue like this? I am not going to school like my fellow children, yet you keep telling me all will be fine, when! When dad??” His father was dumbfounded and speechless for some couple of minutes, and finial said, “my son greatness is not about going to school, it’s all about how you can bring out and develop what is inside you. School helps you find out and develop what you have, but my son trust me you can develop what you have only by being FOCUSED”. The boy thought and thought over what his father said and choose to remain focused, despite what happens.
On his father’s side, he has tried all his possible best, but all to ho avail, and this things gave his father sleepless night and he began to over think, A day came his father was going back home, he was carried away by his thought that he forgot he was about to cross road, as story had it he was hit down in the middle of the road, by a vehicle on high speed, and was rushed to the hospital, but he couldn’t make it, he died.
Life became miserable and very though for the young boy, that if not for God’s intervention he would have taken away his life, but on second thought he remembered the words of his father, “You don’t need anybody to make it in life, all you need is to remain FOCUSED”. When he recalled the words of his father, he accepted his fate and choose to remain focused.
Long story cut short, fast forward to last year, after much suffering, hunger and humiliation he faced, he still was focused, an opportunity came up for those with high IQ and it was to play chess, and decode security codes, and this can only be achieved by a focused individual, he decided to try himself, remembering his father’s word, that he can only be great by bringing out what is hidden inside of him.
After the tests, he was chosen to decode the hardest security codes, he was able to decode the code even to his own amusement, and also played and win the chees competition, and that was the end of his suffering, as he was taking to work with a cyber security company, and was also sent to school to study.
After going through this story, I have chosen to remain FOCUSES despite what comes my way, and all I have to say to you is, do what makes you happy and remain focused.

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20/11/2022

20/11/2022

Happy Sunday friends.

How was your weekend??

Mine wasn't easy I must confess.

I know you might have the same answer as me.

This year entirely has not been fair at all, hunger, hardship, depression e.t.c.
It would not be easy but guess what, it is just a phase.
It will soon be over.

Stand strong. You can do it.
Yes, you can do it my friend.

The stress can not kill you.
Remember the saying
"What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger".

In all of this make sure you take care of yourself, eat well, and have a resting period.
Most importantly........... _PRAY_.
Yes, Pray.

God is our father, he hears us.

Have a blessed week my friend🥰

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13/11/2022

Daily Courage

Courage is the ability to do things that feel difficult, scary, or uncertain.

It reserved for just a chosen few

Courage is our birthright, it is inside every one of us.

And it is waiting for you to discover it.

One moment of courage can change your day. One day can change your life and one life can change the world.

That's the true power of courage; it reveals you, it reveals the greatest version of you.

Discover your courage, and you will be capable of accomplishing and experiencing anything you dream about.

Yes, even changing the world.

Happy new week

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12/11/2022

Good morning, wonderful people. It's a new day again, a new challenge a new day for struggle and hustle, and the only way to make it out of today happily, is by staying positive focused.
Say to yourself no negativity today.
I wish you all a successful day.

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07/11/2022

Stop dwelling in the past.

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