13/02/2023
How DO WE GET HERE?
Episode one
Hey,
it's Monday today and it is far from being bright.
At times, There are some weird situations you meet yourself and you are forced to ask yourself how did I get here? Sometimes, it results in great mistakes, Mistakes t you will look at and sigh regretting what you have done.
So My own "How do we get here?" happened recently. So I had this close friend who was there for me when I was passing through some challenges. Yes, he was there for me and with that, I cherished and respect him a lot. We were so close that if you don't see me in my room I am either in his room or we are together somewhere. I know what you are thinking right? It's not that 'jor' I have my dignity and pride as a woman to keep. As I was saying, the comforter used to warn me anytime I am with him but all I would say is that he is just a friend jor'.
Note: We played a lot and whenever we are playing, I would always want to show that I am way stronger than he is.
It happens most time and the holy spirit would always say; 'Iretioluwakinti', the play is rough, minimize it but stubborn me, I would just wave it off and mumble nothing will happen.
So it happened, after a rough play one fateful evening, and trust me, it ended with a fight then I left for my room and the comforter just said these words as calmly as he can be. He said Iretioluwakinti', how did we get here? I replied, what do you mean? Then he said.
See, it's not about you now, it's about the other party, do you know how he feels?
Iretioluwakinti', He called. The other party is not a block of wood and it is not anointing oil that is running through his veins oo, He is already developing feelings for you and you of all people should know that he is not my will for you.
Hearing this made me cry, I cried and there was no one to console me. People from the other rooms thought I was crying because of the incident but I knew better, what the comforter was saying is true, and there are times he comes for me the way I don't like but I thought it was just a play nothing more nothing less.
See, some people are sent to you whenever you are down or in need, they are just meant for that particular phase and they are not to be held as someone or something important. They were for that particular purpose and you must not even think of making them some figure, figures like besties, best friends, close pals, and brothers and sisters from another mother, etc they are just meant to be who they are.
Also, learn to define your relationship with these people and don't let emotions make you do what you are not meant to do. So, to avoid the question How did we get here? define your relationship and never allow your emotions to rule you, mine had little or no regret while yours might be so bad.
*Epilogue*
My friend and I are cool now and as predicted by the comforter, he wants me to be his girlfriend, you of all people should know what my answer will be.
Wait what is my answer gan?
©El- ammah