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Love Gem, Port Harcourt (2025)

30/08/2025

Trust is the oxygen of love; without it, the relationship suffocates. Choose to communicate openly about your fears, seek healing for past wounds, and extend trust unless you have genuine reasons not to. True love thrives in the freedom that trust provides.

30/08/2025

One of the greatest blessings of a relationship is having someone to share life’s challenges with. When you hide your struggles whether financial, emotional, or spiritual you create unnecessary distance. Vulnerability is not weakness; Two are better than one. If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” Inviting your partner into your struggles strengthens your bond and reminds them they are valued and needed.

30/08/2025

Give your relationship room to grow in private. Meet each other’s family, define your commitment, and build stability before making things public. Protecting your relationship in its early stages gives it the chance to mature without external distractions.

29/08/2025

Wrong Parenting Styles That Create Broken Adults

Marriage is beautiful, but parenting is one of its greatest assignments. Unfortunately, many adults today are damaged not by demons or destiny but by the parenting style they were exposed to. As a marriage counsellor, I’ve seen husbands and wives still bleeding from childhood, raising their own kids with inherited pain.
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‎Dear parents, parenting is a ministry. We must be careful not to produce well fed children with empty souls. Below are 10 parenting styles that may look normal today, yet they produce broken adults tomorrow.

‎1. The Shouting and Beating Style
‎Some parents believe the only language children understand is shouting and slapping. Every little mistake is met with verbal abuse. These kids grow up afraid, insecure, and emotionally crippled. They may obey you out of fear, but they will resent you deep inside.

2. The Over Pampering Style
‎This looks like love, but it destroys. Children who are never corrected become adults who can not take responsibility. They grow up thinking the world owes them everything. Tomorrow, their spouse suffers it. Overpampered boys become lazy husbands; overpampered girls become entitled wives.
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‎3. The Too Busy Parenting Style
‎Both parents are pursuing money, ministry, or fame. The children are raised by house-helps, gadgets, and cartoons. These kids grow up emotionally detached. They know their parents pay school fees, but they don’t feel loved. Tomorrow, they struggle to love or trust anyone deeply.
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‎4. The Comparison Style
‎“What’s wrong with you? See your brother!” These words break something inside a child. Comparison breeds jealousy, hatred, and low self esteem. Such children become adults who feel insignificant, who compete instead of connect, all because home trained them to feel inferior.
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‎5. The Military Parenting Style
‎Rigid rules, no affection, no smile, no praise. Only “Yes sir, No ma.” The children grow up like soldiers, not sons. They find it hard to receive love or show emotion later in life, even in marriage. They obey you, but their hearts are lonely.
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‎6. The Public Shaming Style
‎Parents who insult their children in public, calling them names, embarrassing them in front of others. Such children grow up feeling worthless. They become adults who hide, avoid people, or over perform just to prove they are not useless.
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‎7. The Neglect Style
‎Some parents are physically present but emotionally absent. They never listen, never notice sorrow in their child’s face, never ask “How are you really doing?” These children feel unseen. They grow up emotionally dehydrated, always looking for attention from the wrong hands.
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‎8. The Hypocritical Style
‎Parents who teach the Bible at home but live another life outside. Or parents who praise God in church but fight like enemies at home. Children see everything! Hypocrisy confuses them. They grow up hating religion, distrusting people, and repeating the same double life.
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‎9. The Over-Control Style
‎Parents who decide everything: school, course, career, who to marry. They suffocate their child’s destiny. That child grows up either rebellious or totally weak. Such adults can not make decisions, and they blame everybody for how their life turned out.
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‎10. The Conditional Love Style
‎Parents who only show affection when a child performs well. “You got A’s? I love you. You misbehave? I withdraw love.” This creates adults who are performance driven. They never feel enough. They end up trying to earn love from friends, spouses, and even from God because home taught them that you are only loved when you are perfect.
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‎Dear parents, children don’t just grow; they are trained. Some of us are still healing from childhood wounds, yet God is counting on us to break this evil cycle. Let us raise emotionally whole children. Let us correct with love, discipline with wisdom, listen with our heart, and guide them with prayer.
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‎A healthy child today becomes a healthy spouse tomorrow.
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‎Let us not raise broken adults in the name of “I am the parent.”
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‎If this blessed you, share it with another parent. Let’s heal homes.

29/08/2025

IF A MAN TRULY LOVES YOU, HE WILL DO THESE THINGS WITHOUT BEING TOLD

Love is not about sweet words or empty promises. I really discovered that a man’s real feelings are revealed through his actions. If he truly loves you, you won’t have to beg for anything. These 4 things will come naturally:

1. He puts you first: Your happiness and opinion matter in his decisions. He respects your feelings and makes sacrifices to keep you secure.

2. He protects you: Not just physically, but emotionally. He defends you, makes you feel safe, and never tears you down.

3. He gives freely: Time, energy, support, and even surprises. Real love is generous, not selfish.

4. He plans a future with you: He talks about “we,” introduces you to important people, and includes you in his future vision

You don’t need to fight for love or force a man to care. If he truly loves you, his actions will speak louder than words, without you asking.

29/08/2025

Silence Is Sometimes The Loudest Heartbreak Of All.

You know the funny thing about life?
Most times, the people we love the loudest are the same people who hurt us the deepest.
You give your all. You pour your time, your heart, your energy… thinking that loyalty will be enough to keep someone. But then one day, they wake up and act like you never mattered. No explanation, no closure, just silence. And you’re left replaying every memory, trying to figure out what you did wrong.
But here’s the truth; you didn’t fail. They did.
Because real ones don’t walk away without a word. Real ones don’t make you question your worth.
We live in a world where people want your loyalty but don’t want to give you honesty. They want you to be patient with their flaws, but they’re not willing to stay when you stumble.
And that’s why so many of us are carrying invisible wounds. Smiling on the outside, but fighting silent battles inside. Acting “okay” in public, but crying ourselves to sleep at night.
But let me tell you something, you are not the broken pieces someone left behind.
You are not unworthy. You are not replaceable.
If they left, it’s because they weren’t strong enough to stay where love required effort.
So stop blaming yourself. Stop replaying the “what ifs.” Stop shrinking just to be loved. The right people don’t make you beg for space in their lives. The right people stay, they explain, they fight for you.

28/08/2025

Love isn’t about finding someone flawless.
It’s about finding someone who’s willing to grow, to fight for you, and to walk beside you through every version of life.

28/08/2025

DON’T RUIN YOUR FIRST DATE, AVOID THESE THINGS

First dates are not marriage proposals. They’re simply an opportunity to get to know someone better in a relaxed, respectful setting. But too often, ladies unknowingly send the wrong signals or make preventable mistakes.

1. Don’t Offload Your Financial Problems
When he says, “Tell me about yourself,” he doesn’t mean, “List your debts.” A first date is not a fundraising dinner. Keep personal burdens private until real trust is established.

2. Don’t Eat Like You’re on a Hunger Mission
If you're extremely hungry, eat something light at home. Ordering food for five people (plus takeaway) just because he said “Order what you want” shows poor discretion. You’re here to connect, not consume.

3. Don’t Over share Too Soon
Guard your personal information. You don’t owe anyone your trauma history, family secrets, or ex drama on day one. Reveal who you are with wisdom and balance.

4. Don’t Overspend His Wallet with Entitlement
Yes, it’s okay for him to pay but don’t go out trying to exploit his generosity. Class is in how little you demand, not how much you can collect. Let your modesty speak louder than your appetite.

5. Don’t Be Glued to Your Phone
Be present. Scrolling through Instagram or picking up calls every two minutes shows disrespect. Put your phone aside. The most attractive women are fully engaged and attentive.

Dear sister, a first date is not an opportunity to prove your worth,it’s a moment to be graceful, observant, and wise. Carry yourself with dignity, enjoy the conversation, listen well, smile often, and let your value speak without shouting.

28/08/2025

BE MINDFUL OF WOMEN WHO DEMAND MONEY AT FIRST MEET

Stop entertaining women who, upon meeting them, immediately make financial requests or cleverly reminds you that it is their birthday in a bid to get money or gifts.

Such behaviour is a clear indication that the woman in question is not genuinely seeking a boyfriend or husband but is instead searching for a financial provider.

Men should be wise and avoid falling into such traps that could drain them emotionally and financially.

A girl you meet and express interest in who immediately makes financial demands or tells you it is her birthday is not looking for a boyfriend or husband. She is looking for a parent. And except you are ready to be one, look elsewhere. What she has on her body is not scarce. It is your money that is scarce. Control your libido and don't let it push you to settle for such women. You deserve much better.

True relationships should be built on mutual respect, love, and companionship rather than financial exploitation.

A woman who values a man solely for his money is not an ideal partner for a long-term commitment.

27/08/2025

REASON WHY A MAN MAY LEAVE YOU FOR ANOTHER WOMAN

One of the most painful questions women ask after a breakup is:
"Why did he leave me?"
Sometimes, there was no fight, no argument, no warning,just silence and distance.

Real reasons why the man you loved may have walked away, and how you can learn from it:

1. You Became a Liability
If you constantly depend on him for everything, even your basic needs, he begins to feel like he’s carrying the full weight of your life. Men respect women who can handle themselves, even if it’s with the little they have.

👉 Build your own capacity. Learn to stand on your feet. Don’t make a relationship a poverty-alleviation scheme.

2. You Gave Him Everything Too Soon
When you hand over your body, your heart, and even your womb through repeated abortions, you reduce the value he places on you. Lo******ng doesn’t guarantee commitment.
👉 Keep yourself. Build yourself. Let a man see your worth beyond your body.

3. You Lacked Good Character
Beauty may attract him, but a bad attitude will chase him away. Constant nagging, pride, disrespect, or lack of self-control can turn love into regret.
👉 Work on humility, patience, respect, and kindness—these are treasures no man forgets.

4. You Added Nothing to His Life
Relationships are about mutual value. If all he gains is stress and loss while you gain everything, he will pull away.
👉 Ask yourself: “Am I bringing peace, growth, and joy into his life or just demands?”

5. It Wasn’t Meant to Be
Not every relationship leads to marriage, even if both of you love God and mean well. Sometimes, God simply closes a door because He sees what you can not see.
👉 Don’t fight it. Trust His wisdom.

6. You Offered Nothing Beyond Beauty & $£x
A man may enjoy your looks, but if there’s no substance,no vision, no intelligence, no emotional depth—he gets bored.
👉 Develop your mind, dreams, and personality. Let your beauty have depth.

7. You Escaped a Wrong Marriage
Some breakups are hidden blessings. That “heartbreak” may actually be God’s way of saving your life from pain and abuse
👉 Don’t only cry over who left—thank God for who He removed.

8. You Were Too Desperate
If you start calling him “my husband” after one week or acting as if marriage must happen by force, you create pressure that drives him away.
👉 Relax. Let love grow naturally. Desperation is never attractive.

9. You Were Too Cheap
Scarcity creates value. Anything too easy loses worth quickly. Men love women who respect themselves and maintain healthy standards.
👉 Don’t be difficult, but don’t be cheaply available either. Respect yourself.

10. You Didn’t Support His Dreams
Men don’t only want beauty,,they want a partner. If you show zero interest in his purpose, career, or vision, he will feel alone even while with you.
👉 Be his encourager, not his critic. Help him grow, and he’ll never forget you.

11. You Never Grew Spiritually or Mentally
If you remain the same year after year, while he keeps advancing, he may outgrow you. A man wants a woman he can journey with,not someone stuck in one spot.
👉 Keep improving yourself spiritually, mentally, financially, emotionally. Growth attracts.

12. He Was Never Serious About You
Some men enter relationships just to “while away time.” When they’ve had enough, they vanish.
👉 Don’t ignore red flags. Ask questions early. If he’s not intentional about the future, stop wasting time.

13. You took Him for granted
Constantly ignoring him, disrespecting him, or making him feel unappreciated will eventually push him into the arms of someone who values him.
👉 Appreciation is like fuel in a man’s heart. Don’t withhold it.

14. God Is Preparing Someone Better
Sometimes, the reason is simple,he left because he wasn’t the one. You’re crying over who left, but God is preparing someone who will love, honour, and cherish you for life.the

👉 Don’t lose hope. Let go of what’s gone so you can embrace what’s coming.

A breakup is not always the end,it’s often a lesson, a redirection, and a preparation for something greater. Heal, grow, and position yourself for the right man who will value you.

27/08/2025

WHAT MEN AND WOMEN NEED TO KNOW ABOUT INTIMACY
WHAT MEN NEED TO KNOW
1. Intimacy in your marriage will suffer if you keep coming home late

2. Your wife doesn't find you s*xy because you buy her expensive gifts, she finds you romantic because of how you attend to her emotions

3. Your wife will struggle to give you her body if she suspects you are entertaining another woman/women. Faithfulness makes you romantic and attractive to your partner.
4. Don't avoid your wife the whole day then expect her to be turned on for you at night

5. Women make love with their emotions, for them, the feeling of being loved is important. If you hurt her, she won't desire to make love

6. If she doesn't feel ready to make love tonight, find out if there is an issue and address it. But if she is genuinely tired or not in the mood, it is not the end of the end of the world. How you treat her today, will determine how love making will be tomorrow

7. If you realize you are demanding conjugal rights, know that you are no longer having intimacy but lo******ng perversion and coercion. Intimacy is not demanded, intimacy is invited and mutually celebrated

8. Sometimes, all she needs from you is not your p***s, but your arms to hold and cuddle her

WHAT WOMEN NEED TO KNOW

1. Men find it easier to make love when there is peace. If you are not a peaceful woman, he won't enjoy your body.

2. It hurts a man when he is accused of cheating, yet he is faithful. Such a man will struggle with intimacy with you because he feels hurt. Don't accuse him falsely

3. A stressed man will struggle with his er****on and lo******ng performance because the manhood is controlled by the mind. Attend to the matters disturbing him so that he doesn't feel alone and he will find you attractive

4. Men struggle to kiss the lips of a wife that insults him, belittles him, and orders him around

5. No matter how s*xy your body is or how hot the lingerie you wear, a man is turned on most by your attitude

6. Men also love it when the wife makes lo******ng advances. Don't be passive, letting him do all the work in bed. Take your husband out on dates, seduce him, flirt with him, show him that you find him romantic

7. Ego is important to a man when it comes to intimacy. Tell him how you enjoy making love with him and he will do it more. If you mock his manhood or make him feel you did not enjoy or mock how quickly he climaxed, he will feel bruised and withdraw

8. If issues are what are keeping you from desiring lo******ng with your husband, voice them out, and talk things out without delay. Don't just be indifferent and cold and give him silent treatment. Being cold will push him away, and he might form a negative opinion of you and the delicate fabric of your intimacy be ruined for a very long time

26/08/2025

POVERTY LOVES PEOPLE WHO CAN’T CONTROL THEIR URGES
Those addicted to s*x stay broke, confused, in drama, begging, regretting.
When your lower nature rules you, success avoids you.

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