23/11/2024
A MUST READ : Why did you change your mind about a lady you once proposed to or thought of proposing marriage to?
Chi Boy commented:
It was her intelligence that first drew me in. The way she could dissect any topic, from politics to the price of *abacha* in the market, was captivating.
We met at a mutual friend’s traditional wedding in Enugu, and from the first conversation, I was hooked. She was smart, beautiful, and confident—everything I thought I wanted in a partner.
We started dating, and for months, I felt like the luckiest man alive. She could hold her own in any room, and her passion for success was infectious. I often joked that I was dating the future CEO of Nigeria’s biggest company.
But then, cracks began to show—small at first, like hairline fractures on a clay pot. It was during a regular Saturday outing.
We were at a local spot eating *isi ewu* when I noticed her snapping at the waiter for bringing her drink late. I thought it was just a bad day, so I let it slide.
Then there was the day we went to visit my grandmother in the village. My lovely grandma, a sweet woman who had practically raised me, offered her a plate of jollof rice with fried fish. She turned it down, her tone sharp: “I don’t eat local fish.
Do you have chicken or something better?” The room went silent. My grandma chuckled awkwardly, but I could feel the tension.
Later, I tried to talk to her about it. Her response was nonchalant: “Chiboy, it’s just who I am. I can’t pretend to be something I’m not.” That’s when it hit me—our worlds were different.
I didn’t need someone perfect, but I needed someone who could embrace the simplicity of life, someone who understood that respect and kindness weren’t optional, even in small things.
It wasn’t one big fight or a dramatic breakup. It was the realization, over time, that as much as I admired her drive and ambition, our values didn’t align.
So, I let her go, quietly and respectfully. She was an amazing woman, but not the woman for me. And from that experience, I learned that love isn’t just about admiration; it’s about compatibility, understanding, and the little things that make life feel full.
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