10/04/2025
How Some Men Innocently Help Their Wives Lose Emotions or Affections
(To the Extent that Some Women End Up Leaving the Marriage)
I used to be guilty of this:
I had anger issues, more than my wife. Sometimes it wasn't just anger, but arrogance, too.
Each time we had a misunderstanding, I would stay silent for days, even weeks, not talking to her.
Even if I was the one who was wrong, my arrogance wouldn't let me apologize.
Feeling "too big" fueled my anger. I always made sure she became the victim and she was the one who had to say sorry.
I didn't realize I was training my wife to lose affection for me.
I didn't know I was slowly draining her emotions. I was gradually killing her love for me.
Before I realized what I was doing, my wife had reached a point where, like many married women, she would simply lie down on the bed and let me be intimate with her without feeling anything.
Staying silent when someone needs you to say something is damaging.
Staying silent when you should apologize is even worse.
Having this kind of character helps her lose everything emotionally towards you, no matter how well you fulfill your responsibilities.
That's exactly what I was doing: staying distant but still taking care of my responsibilities.
It was as if my wife had nothing to eat before she married me. I totally forgot she came to me for love, not for rescue.
If you have this kind of character, change it before it's too late. You can easily lose a great partner because of this behavior.
Don't let pride steal your marriage. Your silence is a weapon that slowly erodes the emotional connection with your wife.
Apologize when you're wrong. Communicate. Love her with your words as much as you do with your actions.
Your responsibilities provide, but your love sustains. Choose humility over arrogance, and you'll keep the fire burning in your relationship.