11/05/2026
I don't want to get married or have kids because women tend to lose themselves, identity, dreams and freedom afterwards…, even the version of themselves they once knew.
She said.
And honestly, that statement opened up a serious conversation in my mind.
Because the truth is, women have lost themselves trying to build homes, raise children, and keep marriages afloat.
Some gave so much of themselves away that they no longer recognize who they are outside wife and mother.
But at the same time, marriage and motherhood are not prisons for every woman.
Some women have found purpose, love, and a better version of themselves through it.
At the end of the day, may we live through our choices till the very end without looking back in regret. Because we are the architects of our own lives and decisions.
And if a woman chooses to stay single or child-free, I truly hope it comes from a place of deep conviction and self-awareness… not fear, pain, societal pressure, or misconception.
Likewise, if another woman chooses marriage and motherhood, may it also come from understanding, readiness, and intentionality.
No path is easy.
Every choice comes with its own sacrifices and rewards.
The real question is,
Are you choosing the life you truly want… or the one fear has pushed you into choosing?
Are there still women here who genuinely want to stay single because of the uncertainties surrounding marriage today?
And for married women, do you think marriage made you lose yourself or helped you discover yourself more?