14/07/2026
What can she do in this situation?
I got married to a family where my sister in-laws are yet to be married.
I got married in June 2024 and I must say it is my biggest mistake. While we were dating I never knew that my husband had no roof over his head until we got married. While we were dating, anytime I called him and told him I was coming, he will always give me one excuse of the order while I can't come that he will be the one to come because I had my own apartment where I stay alone. I didn't call it anything because I am that kind of person that doesn't like to travel. We are both in the same state but it would take me 2 hours to get to his place, so I kind of preferred that he comes over to my place instead of the order way round.
We dated for two years before he decided to take me to his parents to introduce me as his wife to be. When we got there, after all the questions and advice the parents gave, the mother kept asking me if I knew her son very well and I said yes and each time I answered her she ended up smiling. In my head,I thought she loved me. Fast-forward to the marriage period, I think 3 days to the marriage,my husband called me that he had lost his job and that the company asked him to pack out of his apartment since he was no longer one of them. I was like, lets cancel the marriage for now but he insisted that the marriage will hold that he still has a little money we can use to start up after the marriage. That was how this man convinced me. We got married, after the 3 days honeymoon in a hotel it was time to face the reality of life. I asked him where we were going from there ,he said we are going to his parents place first to pick up something before heading to our new home. Mind you,my own apartment where I stayed I have already packed out because my rent had expired and I didn't renew since I will be moving into my husband's house. When we got to their family compound, he told me that this is my new home that hence fort this is where we will be living as a couple. It was then I realized I had entered one chance. Could you believe that my husband never worked with any company n neither does he have a roof over his head. He has been living in his father's house and never stayed on his own. My family and friends warned me but I guess love blinded my eyes 😭😭😭. I became their slave in that house because I have 3 sister in-laws and none of them is married. These ladies will leave me to cook,go to the market, wash the dishes and sometimes sweep the compound while they press their phones. My husband is a carpenter and doesn't really earn that much. In all of this,I have lost two pregnancies because of stress. My family has asked me to come back home because I am not a slave to anybody but I don't want people to laugh at me, my marriage is just 2 years. I am so confused and tired. My mother-in-law is stressing me, her daughters too are stressing me and my husband doesn't see anything wrong in it. My greatest pain in all of this is the fact that my husband lied to me from the beginning. His family keeps insulting me that I am weak and my womb can't keep a baby. Am not allowed to work or even practice my skills, am just kept in the house to do all the house chores. I still love my husband but this is not the kind of life I want..... 😭😭😭😭😭.
