13/06/2023
You are not designed to live life alone..!!
You must open your mind to all the necessary relationships and look at what's best for each of them.
Folks who hurt others because they are hurt do so with this, not as the only reason but because they have not yet learned Christ, having the life of Christ in you, is the game-changer of your walk and relationship with others,
Having to forgive people becomes the order of your life, not because you think they deserve it, but because forgiveness is how the world knows we are not of it.
When is it okay for me to be there for you?
Every time possible is when you should, People get offended or even angry when others call them in time of need, they have never considered the fact that people who call them like that know they can depend on them at such times, learning to see men depending on you, changes the feeling of being wanted only when needed.
Does he/she just want to use me?
Hahaha, what's wrong with being used sometimes, of cause God did not create humans so they can be used, but you see, people who may not always call you or text you remember you when they go through tough times, it means you are in their heart, but not as often as you would want to be, but the most important thing is to stop seeing you are being used and see that you are being of help.
Do I trust him/ her?
From a general stand, people believe everyone can change due to one reason or the other, but not so for him, that is saved, our change happen once and that's when we received the life of Christ, everything else that happens after that is growth in acknowledging who we have become at salvation. Yes, the conduct of men may not always measure up, but you see until men start acknowledging that which is in them in Christ Jesus, they will keep acting in your eye's ways unpleasing.
Our trust in men should not come from their emotions or their fickle promises, man has not the capacity to help another if not such as he has received in Christ Jesus, this is where our trust and faith in men are built from, knowing God is in us working through us.
Will he be there for me?
Don't be quick to answer yourself by judging how many times you have been available for others, to see if someone will be there for you when you need them, friendship is not a game that happens only when you are there for me then I will be there for you, as the popular saying "scratch my back so I can scratch yours".
Just because we are friends does not mean we have to be together always.
Funny right? people expect your loyalty in friendship to be that you guys are always together, my question is why should we? If we spend all the time together, when are we going to have time for something else and others, meeting and having a chat is necessary to keep the communication in friendship going, let's be comfortable with what we have.
People want to be genuinely loved!
Which will you prefer? That I call or text you always and don't ever pray for you, or that I do all together, we may have a different expressions of showing love, but you see, there is enough love in the heart of every man who is saved towards others, while the challenge may be showing it, no love from a saved man is not genuine.
The relationship has a lot more we can imagine or have thought when we commit to people, it becomes harder, to stay friends when what drives us is different, or when we have our hearts fixed on different things.
Misunderstanding happens in friendships and relationships most especially times when drives begin to change, the focus is getting narrow, these are not the times to walk away from friends, but times to give them space, so they can figure out what is important to them.
In parting ways with people, you must learn to keep the gate open for some, while for others, you should completely remove the gate, so they know anytime they are willing, it will be safe to return.
Friendship is more,
Friendship is beautiful,
Friendship is not aimless.
Loves
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