15/01/2024
THE TEN GUIDELINES OF MAKING A HOME..
1. Know that a house only becomes a home when people living in it have a good relationship with each other. The warmth of a home is built from love for each other.
2. Don't turn your house into a lodge where you only visit to sleep and leave the next day. Be present at home physically and also emotionally.
3. The home should be home for everyone; the husband, wife and the children. It should be comfortable for all, accommodating the personalities of all. None feeling like an outsider.
4. Refrain from using "My"... "My house, my TV"... use "Our" to communicate to your spouse you are a team. You're a family and partners in growth and success.
5. Try as much as possible not to go to bed angry with each other. Nothing communicates home best like a good night's sleep. Overcome your egos and emotions.
6. Serve each other as a couple at home. Serving means helping, meeting each other's needs, lending a hand. The husband should feel as a King, the wife too should feel as a Queen.
7. Be courteous to each other. Use the words "Please", "Thank you", "I am sorry". Kindness makes people feel at home. Be kind to avoid rudeness to your partner.
8. Be consistent in how you treat each other. Don't treat each other well only when there are visitors. And when visitors are to come (be it family or friends), inform each other so that you prepare to host well.
9. Always make sure how you leave each when you part to go outside and how you greet each other when you return home is warm. The start and ending of a conversation, determines its flow. Kiss bye when leaving the house and hug welcomes when returning.
10. Put away the phone and gadgets at an agreed time so that you focus on the family through conversations, family games, eating together, doing a hobby together. Devices are stealing a lot of family time.
