19/03/2025
"I was just a primary school teacher earning about N60,000 when I decided to marry my wife.
A few months before our wedding, she got a job in another state, a very good and well-paying job.
This created a dilemma for us.
Which one of us would have to quit their job so we could live in the same state?
We didn’t want a long-distance marriage.
After the wedding, I decided to quit my job as a primary school teacher and follow my wife to the state where she was working.
It wasn’t an easy decision because of the cultural belief that women should be the ones to follow their husbands.
So why was I, as a man, doing the opposite?
Well, I didn’t let culture or my ego stop me, I followed her.
I became the house husband 😆
I woke up to clean the house, cook the food, and do all the house chores while my wife went to work. I made sure she never felt the stress of working because I was always there to help.
At the end of the month, when she received her salary, she gave me the ATM card to her account. As the husband, I handled our finances even though she was the one earning.
From that money, I gave her an allowance for her upkeep and took care of everything she needed.
She never complained or made me feel bad for not working or earning money.
A few months later, through her connections, she helped me secure a well-paying job, one that even paid more than hers. From there, I was able to start a business, and that was how our lives changed.
Today, I don’t just lead as a husband, I also lead financially 😆
But all of this happened because I didn’t let my ego get in the way.
I didn’t allow the cultural belief that "the wife must follow the husband" to stop me from making the best decision for our future.
I didn’t allow pride to take over, I helped at home since I had the time.
And, indeed, I married a good wife who never disrespected me just because she earned more.
