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25/07/2025

Before you get into marriage, know these:

1. Know Yourself First

Before joining your life with someone else, understand your values, goals, and emotional needs. A strong sense of self prevents losing your identity in marriage.

2. Marry for the Right Reasons

Don’t marry because of pressure, age, or wealth. Marry because of love, shared values, and a willingness to grow together.

3. Build Emotional Maturity

Marriage requires patience, forgiveness, and understanding. Emotional maturity helps you handle conflicts without anger or ego.

4. Learn Effective Communication

Communication is the heartbeat of marriage. Learn to express your feelings with respect and also listen without judgment.

5. Be Financially Responsible

Money problems destroy marriages quickly. Learn financial discipline and discuss financial plans with your partner.

6. Choose Character Over Beauty or Wealth

Physical attraction fades, but character, values, and respect last. Marry someone who treats you with dignity and kindness.

7. Understand Marriage is Work

Love alone is not enough. Marriage needs effort, sacrifice, and intentional time to keep the bond alive.

8. Don’t Expect Perfection

No partner will be perfect. Focus on growth together rather than expecting a flawless spouse.

9. Build Friendship First

Marry someone you can laugh with, share secrets with, and enjoy life with—friendship makes love deeper.

10. Keep God and Prayer in Your Relationship

A marriage built on faith and spiritual connection is stronger when challenges come.

25/07/2025

Things to Expect in Early Marriage

1. Adjustment Phase – Living together as one can feel strange at first. You’ll both need time to blend habits, routines, and preferences.

2. Financial Reality – After the wedding, real bills and responsibilities begin. Expect to budget, plan, and make financial decisions together.

3. Unveiling Real Personalities – Early marriage reveals habits you never noticed before. Some may annoy you, but love and patience will help you adjust.

4. Frequent Little Arguments – You may argue about minor things like chores, spending, or even toothpaste caps! It’s normal, but learning conflict resolution is key.

5. Pressure From Family or Friends – Some couples face pressure from in-laws or outsiders, but unity and setting boundaries are crucial.

6. Balancing Romance and Responsibilities – Passion may take a backseat as life gets busy. Intentionally plan romantic moments to keep love alive.

7. Building a Team Mentality – Early marriage teaches you that “we” is stronger than “I.” You’ll grow when you learn to face challenges together.

8. The Power of Forgiveness – Early days test your patience, but quick forgiveness will keep your home peaceful and happy.

25/07/2025

Men Are Still Doing Chores and Are Still Happy

A strong marriage is built on partnership, not outdated gender roles.
Today, wise men understand that helping at home is not a sign of weakness but of love and teamwork.

A man who helps with chores is not “less of a man” he is a leader who values peace, unity, and respect.
Happy homes are not about who does what, but about working together to create an environment of love and comfort.

A husband who washes the dishes, helps with laundry, or takes care of the children is not doing it because he is forced, but because he understands that marriage is a teamwork of hearts.

Men are still doing chores and they are still happy, because true strength is in service, and true love is in giving.

SEAD Forever
Promoting Healthy Marriages

25/07/2025

How learning, relearning, and unlearning can help partners grow in a healthy, evolving relationships

❤️ 1. Learning Each Other Anew

No matter how long you've known your partner, people change.

Learn their new triggers, dreams, fears, love languages, and desires.

Stay curious: “How can I love you better today?”

🔄 2. Relearning What Matters

Life can distract us from what’s important—respect, patience, kindness, and laughter.

Revisit what made you fall in love. Relearn to appreciate the small things.

Recommit to the values that first brought you together.

🚫 3. Unlearning Harmful Habits and Beliefs

Let go of:

Unrealistic expectations shaped by movies or social media.

Toxic communication styles (e.g., silent treatment, shouting).

Gender stereotypes that harm partnership (e.g., “a man shouldn’t cook” or “a woman must tolerate everything”).

Unlearn pride, ego, and score-keeping. Marriage is not a competition.

🧠 Why This Matters:

When partners embrace learning, relearning, and unlearning, they grow together instead of growing apart. It makes the marriage dynamic, forgiving, and deeply rooted in understanding.

Have a great day ahead 🙏

25/07/2025

Questions people asks often:

CAN I GET INVOLVED IN MY HUSBAND'S PROBLEMS WITH HIS FAMILY?

✅ When It’s Okay to Get Involved:

1. When He Invites You:

If your husband shares and asks for your thoughts, respond gently and with love.

Be a support, not a judge.

2. When It Affects You Directly:

If the issue spills into your peace, your home, or your children, you have a right to speak wisely and set boundaries.

3. If There's Injustice or Abuse:

If his siblings are treating him unfairly or constantly disrespecting him, it’s okay to help protect his dignity, with wisdom and respect.

4. Privately, Not Publicly:

You can advise and comfort him in private, never in front of others.

Be his peace, not another fight.

❌ When to Stay Out of It:

1. If He Hasn’t Asked for Help:

Don’t jump into a sibling issue unless he opens the door.

Your silence can be support, too.

2. If It’s a Long-standing Family History:

Some family dynamics are deep. Your husband may need to work through it his own way.

3. To Avoid Being Blamed Later:

If things settle, your involvement might be remembered the wrong way.

Let him lead when it’s his family.

✅ What You CAN Do Always:

Pray with him and for him.

Listen without judgment.

Offer wisdom, not pressure.

Remind him of his value.

Be his home and comfort, not another battleground.

NOTE: These applies to both partners 🙏

25/07/2025

Calming conflicts at home requires a mix of emotional intelligence, practical steps, and consistent effort from everyone involved.

Here’s a simple and effective guide to help:

1. Stay Calm and Breathe

Don’t add fuel to the fire.

Take deep breaths before reacting.

If emotions are too high, walk away briefly and return when calmer.

2. Listen More, Speak Less

Let the other person finish talking.

Show you're listening with body language (nods, calm tone).

Avoid interrupting or defending immediately.

3. Use “I” Statements Instead of “You” Accusations

Instead of “You never listen!”, say:
“I feel ignored when I’m not heard.”

This reduces blame and opens the door for dialogue.

4. Acknowledge the Other Person’s Feelings

Even if you disagree, show empathy: “I understand that you're hurt, and I don’t want that.”

5. Find a Safe Time to Talk

Don’t try to resolve deep issues in the heat of anger.

Pick a moment when both sides are relaxed and open to talk.

6. Set Clear Boundaries

No shouting, name-calling, or silent treatment.

Everyone should agree to respectful communication.

7. Focus on Solutions, Not Winning

Ask: “How can we fix this together?”

Work as a team, not opponents.

8. Involve Faith or Spiritual Practices (If Relevant)

Praying together, reading a verse, or quiet reflection can ease tension and bring peace.

9. Apologize When Necessary

A sincere “I’m sorry” can melt tension quickly.

It shows maturity and willingness to grow.

10. Know When to Seek Help

If conflicts are constant or harmful, consider:

Family counseling

Speaking with a trusted elder or mentor

28/04/2025

HAPPY Sunday 🥰.

"Good morning, everyone!

Today is not just another Sunday — it's a blank page, waiting for us to write something incredible on it.
Sundays often feel like a day of rest,
a reset button.
But what if today, we also used it as a launchpad?
What if today we asked ourselves: What am I excited to create this week?
Who can I inspire?
How can I move one step closer to my dreams?

The world doesn’t need us to be perfect.
It needs us to be real,
to show up with courage,
and to be bold enough to begin.
So I’ll ask you:
What’s one thing you're ready to start today that your future self will thank you for?
Let’s talk about it — let’s dream out loud together."

I generated this photo on Ai (Chatgpt)

28/04/2025

Today is Sunday.
What's remaining in your weekly challenge guys,
Complete all of it in the comment section.
Let's go!

28/04/2025

"The Power in Your Pen"

Every great story, every powerful speech, every idea that has changed the world, it all began the same way: with a blank page and a writer who dared to fill it.

Writing isn't about waiting for inspiration to strike like lightning.
It's about showing up.
It's about trusting that even on days when the words feel heavy, even when doubt whispers louder than your confidence, something incredible can still be created if you just keep moving forward.

When you write:
you’re doing more than putting words together. You are carving your voice into history.
You are creating something that didn’t exist before you sat down.
Your words can heal, challenge, inspire, and connect people across time and distance.

Don't fear the blank page.
It’s not empty, it’s full of possibilities.
Every sentence you write is a step closer to finding the story only you can tell. And the world needs your story, even if you don’t see it yet.

Write boldly.
Write badly if you must.
But write because every word you put down is a victory, and every page you finish is proof that you are stronger than your fear.

The only way to fail at writing is to quit. And you? You’re just getting started.

A beautiful New week to you 😊

28/04/2025

"Breathe, You're Stronger Than You Think"

Stress can feel overwhelming,
like you're standing in a storm with no shelter. But remember: storms pass and you have already survived so many.

Take a deep breath.
Right now, you don’t have to fix everything at once. You don’t have to have all the answers. You only have to take one small step forward, then another.
Progress isn’t about speed, it’s about persistence.

Trust yourself. You’ve handled hard days before. You’ve faced uncertainty, pressure, and doubt and you’re still here, still fighting.
That’s strength.

Give yourself permission to pause, to rest, to gather your energy. Resting is not quitting. It's preparing. And when you rise again and you will, you’ll be even stronger, even wiser, and even more unstoppable.

One moment, one breath, one step at a time. You’re doing better than you realize.

This photo was generated by Ai📌

28/04/2025

"All Hands In"

The Desmond family had always lived by one rule: no one struggles alone.

When Grandma Veronica fell and needed help around the house, everyone jumped in.
Desmond the dad, organized a rotating schedule. Every evening after work, he'd mow her lawn or fix anything she needed. Mom, Denise, cooked enough food every Sunday to fill Grandma’s freezer with her favorites vegetables, baked chicken, and sweet potato pie.

Their teenage daughter, Brianna, taught Grandma how to use a tablet so they could video call every morning.
Even little Jordan, only six years old, drew new pictures every week to decorate her fridge.

It wasn’t always easy. Some days they were tired. Some days they argued about whose turn it was. But every night they reminded each other, “We’re a team.”

One Saturday, as they gathered at Grandma’s for her birthday, she looked at them all and said through happy tears,
“You didn’t just help me heal. You made me stronger.”

In the Desmond family, helping wasn’t just about chores, it was about love, stitched together in everyday acts, making them unbreakable.

28/04/2025

"The Power of Showing Up"

Success isn’t built in grand gestures;
It’s shaped by the quiet,
stubborn act of showing up,
even when you’re tired,
even when you’re uncertain,
even when no one is watching.
Showing up is courage in its simplest form.
It means standing in the arena of life, willing to try, to fail, to begin again.
You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to have all the answers.
You just have to keep arriving, fully present, heart open, ready to give your best for the day.

Over time, these small acts of showing up, build trust with yourself.
They create momentum.
They open doors.
They turn dreams into reality.
Because when you show up, you’re already halfway there.

Keep showing up. Your future is waiting.

We will all get there when we show up

This photo was generated by Ai📌

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