07/07/2025
My 5 years wedding anniversary !
It was my 5 year wedding anniversary 3 days ago and I was just in awe of how far I have come as a lady, a wife, a mother and above all "a woman". All I could say that day was "thank you Jesus" I couldn't even post like I normally did, I just woke up, wished my hubby, thanked God for his blessings, sat down and reminisced over these past years. Where I started and where I am at(still thriving though) because I haven't even achieved half of all I wanted/needed.
As women, it is so to say we lost out alot in life once we are married, especially if by the precious grace of God, He blesses you with kids immediately after your wedding. It is like the world is moving without you in it. You tend to feel as if your dreams, goals and aspirations are paused especially when you married at a very young age. Even with a very supportive partner who wants to see you more successful than he is, you still can't get away with so many things because, taking care of your children and running the affairs of your home, would make you (I can't even find the right words) feel so so busy and drained (I wanted to use the word "trapped"😄) but as they grow and you see the beauty of your hard work in their lives, oh my God, that is height of all self satisfaction and fulfillment. You will be so proud of yourself.
I have learn, learned, learnt, unlearned so many things as a wife and a mother. My tolerance spirit is above 💯, should I talk about my prayer life?😄😄😄😄
Haa! Don't pray na, make the devil help you arrange your marriage and reset your kids.
Sometimes, you will feel like packing your bags and going back to your father's house, abandoning everything😆😆😆, just to get pampered again by your parents, at least to answer Diebube nwa or Adaebube😆😆😆😆 but las las, you go nowhere.
Training your children? *always screaming* because those ones no dey hear word😆, attending to their every needs, especially when they are always super glued to you. Doing school assignments😁 (that one is a whole episode on its own), early morning wake ups just to get them ready for school and church, teaching them how to be better and great men in the society. Fighting their every battles especially spiritually. Looking haggard just to make sure they look so great😆. E no dey easy, that is why, most times, I look at myself at my bathroom mirror, saying "Chidiebube, you are a great wife and a mother" infact, I am the best😆( argue with your keyboard 😁)
There are so many things to be said my people.....
In all, when you have a praying, great husband(always looking and noticing your moods😆 and asking why you are happy or unhappy), great father to your children (always making sure they are comfortable), not so perfect but always tries to be perfect, he always tries to remind you of what you are yet to achieve and promises to support you all the way, pushes you to become a greater version of yourself even when you feel your life is paused. Provides security, peace, satisfaction and above all, spiritual backing to your home. Aunty, you have won as a woman, forget his other imperfections, after all, you sef no dey perfect😆. I love you so much my forever Okechukwu Emmanuel Offornagoro we never even start sef, na 100 years with you by the grace of God.
Whoever tells you marriage is sweet and no hardwork needs to be put, that person is a very fat liar. You have to work hard to achieve that sweetness in that marriage. What works for mr. A does not work for mr.B oooo, so be careful of advice from people.
My fellow women, its not easy but let's try not to forget ourselves in marriage and if you have a good husband, please pray for him at all times, those men bottle up alot just to see their home stable especially financially. They fight unseen battles as the head of the home. Over familiarity destroys marriage. In as much he is your best friend, he is your husband first and you ought to respect him, put him first before that your man of God(yes, I said it). He is your god after the God almighty so deal with it (maka ndi your husband never chop and you dey run out to go for vigil because your man of God says so, you and that your prayer will never reach God's ears). Your pastor is "daddy" while your husband is "papa Emeka"
Chineke merekwa gi ebere.
Happy anniversary to myself again ooo, e no dey easy mana with God, we are not relenting.
I don join ndi marriage counselors😆😆 incase if you need one.
