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18/05/2025

I've been married for six months, and I'm finding it very hard to adjust to marriage. I love my husband. He was a darling when we were dating. He listened to me and made me a priority, which I also did in return. Nothing has changed since we got married. The only thing is that he doesn't understand my need for space.

I'm not a touchy person. I didn't know he was such a touchy person until we got married. When we sit on the sofa, he wants his head or legs on me. I'm okay with it sometimes, and when I'm in the mood, I'll run my fingers through his hair, massage his head, and play with his ears. I'll massage his feet when he places them on me. The thing is, I want it sometimes but not always and every time.

Sometimes, I want to sit alone and relax or think about something, but my husband will bump in and throw himself on me as if he were a cloth I forgot to pick up. When I don't touch him, he'll request it. When I say I'm not in the mood, he interprets it as there being a fight between us.

At night, he wants me in his embrace until we fall asleep. Every night. It's tight and suffocating in there, but I have to offer myself for his embrace until he sleeps so I can wiggle my way out and fall asleep too. As I said, I have a mood for that. I want it sometimes but not every day. He'll tell me he needs it to feel connected and also to be assured that we're on good terms.

So it's become a struggle for me. Some mornings, I need alone time. I want to wake up, put the back of my head on the pillow, fold my arms on my chest, and look at the ceiling while I think through life and the morning ahead. I would wake up first and be doing that, but immediately when he wakes up, he pushes his head through my arms and lets it rest there while he breathes on my face.

He spoils my morning, interrupts my day, and breaks my night in two. I didn't catch this when we were dating. I had a say in when to visit him and when not to. I didn't notice, but maybe I might have chosen the days I was in the mood for those things to visit him, so when he did them, I didn't see anything wrong or suffocating about them. That aside, I always went back home, to my bed and to my sofa, so I had many days to spend time with myself.

And then there's cooking. I'm adjusting to the fact that I have to wake up every day thînking about what to cook for my husband. That aside, it looks like I have to find myself in the kitchen every day. I didn't do that—not even when I was living with my parents. We would cook in bulk so the rest of the days were about heating and eating. Here, at 9 p.m., he would tell me, "Some fried eggs and tea wouldn't be bad at all, ooo."

It comes out of nowhere, so random, but I have to get up and do it for him. That's how he measures the depth of love. If I suggest anything different or try to put it off for another time, there would be questions ãsked. To avoid that vetting, I have to get up and do it. So I find myself frying popcorn at 10 p.m. because someone wants popcorn and Coke.

When they said marriage was hard, I didn't think it was this physically hard too. I thought about the troubles that may come and go, I thought about the fights, and I thought about the probability of a husband cheating and bringing a child or a disease home. Those were the hard things I envisaged. I didn't thînk of encroachment of space as part of the difficulty or the loss of me-time as part of it.

So a week ago, on a Friday after work, I went back home to my parents and slept in my bed all weekend—back of my head on the pi||ow, arms folded on my chest like the pope's dead body—looked at the swirling fan, and had all the morning to myself. He called, but I looked at the phône from the corner of my eye and continued having my me-time. I don't know how this is going to continue, and I don't know how I'm going to adjust to this. Everyone says, "Communicate. Te|| him how you feel."

Communication isn't just about talking. It's also about how the other person receives and interprets what you say. I've said it. I've acted it, I've made it obvious, and even sang it in a song, but he would |isten and then ask, "Why are you singing a sad song?" So the communication ends up not communicating. Maybe I'll adjust along the way, but this marriage thing is hard 😂😂😂

10/05/2025

You live with your wife and the maid. One Saturday morning, your wife goes to the market. A while later, you go to take a bath to go out. The maid also takes the opportunity to go and bathe in her own bathroom.

Whilst you two were in your bathrooms, Madam came back home to pick the phone she forgot. Then the doorbell rings. Remember, you are bathing, but didn’t know the maid was also taking her bath, so you continued with no worries, and your wife was all along on the bell.

Not understanding why the maid is yet to get the door, you tie your towel, your curved tool making a bulge in the towel, you rush out of the bath and head to the door.

Getting to the living room, you find the maid already opening the door with wrapper tied to her chest, sumptuous bossom popping through the lightly wet wrapper tied to her chest, curvaceous buttocks seeming bare in the very light ankara.

Madam enters and sees the maid wet with wrapper tied around her chest, and you, oga, also wet with towel tied around your loins...

Madam looks at both of you weirdly and asks what was going on and why it took so long for both of you to show up, in that state, and together.
Now, your wife doesn’t know what we know...

With the aid of scientific calculator, explain in 70 words the theory that can save your marriage.

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08/05/2025

WHY MOST WOMEN LOSE INTEREST AFTER WEDDING

Men, Listen up!

Most Women Lose Interest After Wedding. It’s not because you changed. It’s because the fantasy expired.

Let’s kill the illusion.

You didn’t fall off.
You didn’t stop being attractive.
You didn’t “switch up.”

She just realized the wedding is over—
and reality doesn’t come with filters.

Because most women weren’t in love with you.

They were in love with how you made them feel while you were chasing them.

Once you got her?
She started asking—“Where’s the thrill?”

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1. Her Love Was Never Rooted in Duty—It Was Rooted in Dopamine

She loved the pursuit.
The attention.
The feeling of being wanted.

But dopamine fades.
And once the likes, the engagement buzz, the proposal ring glow die down—
so does her interest.

She was chasing butterflies.
You were chasing legacy.
That’s where you both missed each other.

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2. She Got What She Wanted—Now She’s Bored

You saw marriage as the beginning.
She saw it as the peak.

You wanted to build.
She wanted to enjoy.

So when the selfies stopped trending,
when the vacations turned into school runs,
when you started focusing on the grind—
she started checking out.

Not because you failed.
But because the fantasy was fulfilled.

Now she’s waiting for the next fairytale chapter.

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3. She Was Trained to Secure—Not Sustain

Modern women are experts at getting a man.
Slay. Smile. Submit on demand.
Strategically soft until the ring lands.

But no one taught her how to keep a man.
How to serve without ego.
How to show up when it’s no longer fun.
How to be consistent when life gets real.

Now every conversation feels like criticism.
Every correction feels like control.
Every leadership move feels like domination.

She’s not “losing interest.”
She’s just out of her depth.

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4. She Still Thinks It’s Day One—You Know It’s Day 3,000

You’ve had two kids.
You’ve got bills, school fees, a job that’s draining your soul.

But she’s still quoting relationship gurus:
“Date her like it’s the first day.”
“Keep courting her forever.”
“Be spontaneous.”

I’m sorry, today is not day one.
It’s Tuesday.
Your rent is due.
Your toddler just spilled pap on your shirt.
And the car battery is dead.

Disney lied to her.
Every romance movie ends with “happily ever after.”
No one shows the chaos after the credits.

You thought marriage meant you could be yourself now.
Drop the bad boy act.
Be mature.
Be present.

But she still wants the man who made her tingle on day one.
Not the man who pays the light bill.

You left the game.
She’s still watching the replay.

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5. There’s No Romance Without Finance

If you haven’t figured out your numbers,
you’re setting yourself up to fail.

Most women won’t suffer with a man.
And the few who try?
They’ve got an internal countdown.

She’ll stay while it’s “cute.”
But when the pressure gets real,
and her lifestyle starts shrinking,
she’s gone—faster than the money disappeared.

Love doesn’t pay rent.
Cuddles don’t fuel generators.
And “we’ll figure it out” doesn’t pay school fees.

If you’re broke—prepare to lose both her and your peace.

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6. Her Friends Are the Whisperers of Greener Grass

Once your wife surrounds herself with single mothers, bitter exes, and run-girls?
Brace yourself.

Because girls’ night is no longer about small chops and gist.
It’s about planting seeds of dissatisfaction.

“You’re still cooking for him?”
“Girl, you deserve soft life!”
“You’re too loyal. He’s not even romantic.”

She starts comparing.
She starts doubting.
She starts wondering what she’s missing.

Bad company corrupts good morals.
But bad company with a weak woman?
That’s a guaranteed relationship death sentence.

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7. You Didn’t Do a Background Check—Now You’re Paying Generational Debt

Her mother cycled through four men before settling for one.
Or none.

Now that same mother is her advisor.
Teaching her how to “never let a man control you.”
How to “always have a backup plan.”
How to “never suffer like she did.”

You thought you married your dream girl.
You actually married her mother’s unfinished trauma.

Without strong, virtuous foundations—
a woman becomes a product of pain, not principles.

No present father to model restraint.
No wise pastor to call her to order.
No structure. No self-discipline.

So when things get hard,
she doesn’t dig deeper.
She downloads divorce papers.

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8. When Love Becomes Labor, Most Women Clock Out

She doesn’t want struggle.
She doesn’t want pressure.
She doesn’t want anything that looks like patience.

And the moment love feels like work—
she files for emotional leave.

That’s why 80% of divorces are initiated by women.
They don’t stay through storms.
They cancel subscriptions at the first inconvenience.

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So What’s the Real Reason She Lost Interest?

Because reality showed up—
and it wasn’t as exciting as the fantasy she created in her head.

You were a project.
She was the architect of a fairytale.
The day you stopped playing the role—
she started deleting the story.

It’s not about “you changed.”
It’s about “her dream died.”

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Final Warning to Men:

Don’t marry a vibe.
Marry values.

Don’t chase butterflies.
Plant roots.

Don’t assume a ring means forever.
It only means “for now” until tested.

Because once the illusion fades,
only the real ones stay.

And if you’re unlucky?

You’ll be the husband…
she uses as a stepping stone to her second phase.

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05/05/2025

COMPATIBILITY IN MARRIAGE: WHAT WORKS FOR THEM MAY NOT WORK FOR YOU!

Dear Friends,

In marriage, one of the biggest mistakes couples make is comparing their relationship to others. You might see a couple whose dynamic seems strange—maybe the wife makes all the decisions, or the husband is the one who stays home with the kids. Yet, despite your opinions, it works for them!

The danger comes when you take what works for them and try to force it into your own marriage, even when it clearly doesn’t fit.

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WHY COMPARISON IS DANGEROUS

✅ 1. Every Marriage Is Unique

Just because Mr. A and his wife have a certain way of doing things doesn’t mean it will work for you.

Your personalities, backgrounds, and expectations are completely different from theirs.

✅ 2. Compatibility Is Not Universal

What one couple calls harmony, another might call frustration.

If your spouse struggles with something, don’t dismiss it just because someone else’s spouse accepts it.

✅ 3. Comparison Leads to Unnecessary Conflict

Telling your spouse, "But Mr. A’s wife is okay with it!" is a recipe for disaster.

Instead of pressuring your spouse to conform, focus on what makes your marriage thrive.

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BUILD A MARRIAGE THAT WORKS FOR YOU

✅ 1. Find Your Own Compatibility

Some couples thrive on structure, while others embrace spontaneity.

Some marriages require shared responsibilities, while others function best with clear role divisions.

The key is figuring out what works for YOU, not imitating others.

✅ 2. Communicate and Adapt

If your spouse is uncomfortable with something, respect their feelings instead of comparing them to others.

Healthy marriages are built on mutual understanding, not societal expectations.

✅ 3. Focus on God's Plan for YOUR Marriage

Instead of looking at others, ask: “God, what is YOUR vision for our home?”

Proverbs 24:3 says, "Through wisdom a house is built, and by understanding it is established."

Let wisdom and understanding guide you—not the patterns of others.

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FINAL THOUGHTS: EMBRACE WHAT WORKS FOR YOU

Dear friends, never question the compatibility of a couple just because it seems odd to you—if it works for them, let them be. But don’t use their choices to define your own marriage. What works for them may be incompatibility for you and your spouse.

💡 Marriage thrives when couples build on their unique strengths, not when they copy others!

💬 What are your thoughts? Have you ever struggled with comparison in marriage? Let’s discuss! 👇

05/05/2025

My husband is selfish, I complained of having a headache and all he could think is s*x.

The day had taken more from me than I had to give.

From the moment my feet hit the ground, it was nonstop. Our children needing two different kinds of attention. Dishes piling up. Laundry undone. Crumbs reappearing in places I’d just cleaned. My mind was foggy from hunger I didn’t even notice until the ache set in. My body was begging me to stop, but there was no room for rest.

By the time evening came, I was done. Not the kind of “done” that a nap or a meal could fix but the kind that sits in your bones and makes your whole being feel heavy. I skipped dinner. Didn’t bother with the shower. I went straight to bed and curled up, hoping sleep would silence the pounding in my head.

Then the door opened.

My husband walked in clean, relaxed, humming something under his breath. He smelled good like aftershave and eucalyptus and he came over, leaning in with a familiar hand on my hip.

“Babe… I’ve missed you.”

I didn’t move. “I have a headache,” I said quietly, not out of annoyance, but from pure depletion.

There was a pause.

Then came the sigh. The disappointed kind. “So, you’re saying no?”

And in that moment, something in me went quiet. Not out of anger. But out of realization.

I had hoped foolishly that he’d pause. Ask how I was feeling. Offer a glass of water. Sit beside me. Show concern. But instead, the moment I set a boundary, it became about what he wasn’t getting.

“You always have a reason,” he added, as if my exhaustion was a personal offense.

He walked away, picked up his phone and earbuds, and that was it. No apology. No follow-up. No conversation.

I lay there in the dark, the ache in my head now competing with something deeper - a quiet grief.

I wasn’t angry because he wanted me. I was heartbroken because he didn’t see me. Not in that moment. Not in my pain. Not as his partner, but as a person.

I remembered how, once upon a time, he would call me just to hear my voice. How he would bring soup when I had a cold. How he used to care before he expected.

And I realized… I wasn’t asking for anything grand. I just wanted to matter.

The next morning, he left for work with little more than a grunt. I stood in the kitchen staring at nothing, holding back tears, and messaged a friend - an older woman who’d walked longer roads in marriage.

“Can I come over?”

She said yes without asking why.

Later, in her calm, lived-in home, I poured it all out. She truly listened. And when I finished, she said something I’ll never forget:

“Sweetheart, a good partner doesn’t take ‘no’ as rejection. He takes it as a signal to lean in with care.”

She wasn’t trying to turn me against him. She was simply naming what I couldn’t.

“He’s not a bad man,” she added. “But he’s grown comfortable. And comfort without awareness breeds neglect.”

That night, I sat beside him and spoke not from bitterness, but from clarity.

“When I told you I had a headache, I wasn’t trying to avoid you. I was hoping you’d care enough to notice I wasn’t okay.”

He looked up, surprised. “I didn’t mean to upset you.”

“I know,” I said. “But intention doesn’t erase impact. Marriage can’t survive if I have to choose between honesty and being punished with silence.”

He didn’t defend himself that night. And for once, I didn’t need him to. I needed him to understand.

And slowly over the following days, I saw something change.
He started checking in more.
He started responding with presence, not pressure.
And I started letting my guard down.

One evening, I came home drained again. My back ached. My shoulders were tight. I sat down, and before I could speak, he brought me a cup of tea and said, “You’ve done enough today. Just rest.”

It wasn’t flowers. It wasn’t poetry. But it was exactly what I needed: awareness.

That night, I reached for him. Not out of obligation. But out of peace.

Because when a woman feels seen, loved without performance… she doesn’t shut down - she blooms.

No, everything didn’t magically fix itself. But something vital returned: mutuality.
He didn’t become perfect. He became present.
And in a world where women carry so much, that shift is sacred.

Now, when I say I’m tired, he doesn’t make it about him.
When I say no, he doesn’t leave the room; he leans into the relationship.
When I speak, he listens.

Not because I demanded it. But because I finally named what I needed and he chose to grow.

Because real love doesn’t always arrive with romance.
Sometimes, it shows up quietly… in listening, in patience, in tea offered without expectation.

And that is where we found our way back to each other.

©️Thanks for reading “ Familiar Strain” by Joy Chinonyerem

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27/04/2025

THEY'RE STILL TOGETHER… BUT THEY’RE NOT REALLY TOGETHER

You see them at church, weddings, or school events.
They smile, sit side by side, and even hold hands sometimes.
But behind closed doors… they’re just coexisting.

This is the reality for many couples in their 40s and 50s.
Still married, still in the same house, but emotionally disconnected.

They don’t fight.
But they don’t really talk either.
Conversations are reduced to bills, kids, and logistics.
No depth. No laughter. No “How are you, really?”

This didn’t happen overnight.
It started with little disappointments… unmet needs.
and a quiet decision to stop trying.

And now?
One or both partners are carrying silent resentment.
Unspoken hurts that were never healed.
Moments where they felt unseen, unheard, or unloved.

This is how love fades, not with a bang, but with silence.

But here's the good news:
You can find your way back.
It starts with one honest conversation:
“Do you feel close to me?”
“What changed?”
“How can we reconnect?”

Love in your 40s and 50s requires intentional effort.
Don't let years of life together turn into years of growing apart.

You still have time to heal.
You still have time to love each other better.

24/04/2025

Stop Marrying Strangers—Date With a Blueprint, Not Sparks

Let’s stop pretending chemistry is compatibility.

You don’t build a legacy off vibes.

You need a blueprint. A structure. A background check.

Because too many men—and women—are marrying strangers and calling it love.

Until the mask falls. And the cost hits.

Let’s talk about the real red flags you ignore in the name of romance.

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1. No Due Diligence? No Peace.

Big cities come with big secrets.

Marriage used to be a fusion of families—a public alliance backed by reputation and history.

Now it’s two people who swiped right, laughed twice, shared playlists, and boom—“soulmates.”

You marry her in Lagos, and three kids later discover she’s your half-sister from the same hometown.

Modern love has no brakes.

And no background check.

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2. Long-Distance Is a Love Illusion

When love is managed through screens, you’re dating a highlight reel.

Long-distance relationships can be noble—but they’re also perfect hiding places.

You don’t see the mood swings. The lifestyle. The community. The chaos.

You see edited angles and curated emotions.

Until wedding day becomes judgement day.

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3. Culture Still Matters

Chinese don’t gift watches. It’s considered bad luck.

In Igbo land, some grooms get financially ambushed on their wedding night—welcome to the “customary expectations” package.

Every culture has its rhythm. If you don’t learn the beat, you’ll be dancing off-time till the divorce papers land.

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4. Missing Father Figures = Missing Foundations

A home without structure starts from a marriage without mentors.

People are renting uncles and pastors to stand in as fathers at weddings.

That’s not romance—that’s red alert.

A man who fears his father-in-law behaves differently.

A woman who knows her father’s eyes are watching walks with more respect.

Authority isn’t oppression. It’s order.

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5. When Intentions Are Fuzzy—So Is the Outcome

You’re in love, but is she?

Some people don’t want a partner—they want papers.

Nationalization. Relocation. Citizenship.

Others don’t want a home—they want a target.

The plan was never “happily ever after.” It was “hold out until the asset splits.”

Love isn’t blind. It just refuses to wear glasses.

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6. Accidental Step-Parenting is Real

You thought she was the one.

You didn’t know she had three children across two states—and one still breastfeeding.

You’re a man. Not a rehabilitation center.

Likewise, for women: not every charming man is childless or divorced. Some are “still married” with an opening.

A wedding is not the time to find out who’s really in the picture.

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7. Health Histories Are Not Private in Marriage

You want kids. She had a hysterectomy.

He had a vasectomy two years ago.

But you didn’t ask—because you were too in love to read the fine print.

It’s not rude to ask. It’s responsible.

Marriage is not just spiritual—it’s biological.

Love is blind. But your future deserves clarity.

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8. Don’t Marry Off Chemistry Alone

Real marriages aren’t made of sparks. They’re made of systems.

Ask the hard questions.

Meet the family.

Verify the story.

Love is a house. But due diligence is the foundation.

No structure?

Expect a collapse.

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9. No Financial Transparency = Future Ambush

Too many people walk into marriage not knowing their partner’s debt history, credit habits, or money mindset.

She’s living on loans. He’s dodging tax. But both are planning destination weddings.

You can’t build generational wealth if you’re marrying financial chaos.

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10. Spiritual & Ideological Misalignment

He’s spiritual.

She’s spiritual too—until you realize it’s incense, sage, and “the universe.”

Marriage without shared core beliefs is slow death.

Even the most compatible people will clash if their worldviews are oil and water.

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11. Unchecked Mental Health History

Love won’t heal undiagnosed trauma.
Don’t skip questions like:

“Have you ever been in therapy?”

“Do you struggle with anxiety, rage, or addiction?”

Unhealed people don’t build homes. They burn them.

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12. Social Circle = Spoiler Alert

Her best friend hates men. His best man cheats on his wife.

Birds of a feather don’t just flock—they infect.

Vet the community before you vet the vows.

People become their tribe.

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13. Test Them Under Pressure

Long vacations, sick days, financial stress, and family drama reveal more than Instagram captions.

Before you say “forever,” see how they act when life goes off-script.

That’s not being paranoid—it’s being prepared.

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14. Know Their Relationship Resume

Who have they dated?

Why did it end?

What did they learn?

Patterns matter. Past behavior is data.

And if they call every ex “crazy”—they’re probably the common denominator.

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15. Clarify Vision, Not Just Vibes

Do they want children?

Where do they want to live? What does “success” mean to them?

If they say, “I’ll know when I get there”—they’re not building. They’re floating.

And floating people sink marriages.

Final Word: Stop Choosing Spontaneity Over Stability

It’s easy to fall in love.

But falling is not the same as building.

Slow down. Investigate. Ask real questions. Meet real people. Study the blueprint.

Because once the wedding bells stop ringing?

All that’s left is the reality check.

I leave the rest to my accurate time keepers and co-debaters. 😂

16/02/2025

Celebrating my 11th year on Facebook. Thank you for your continuing support. I could never have made it without you. 🙏🤗🎉

24/08/2024

Every year, younger, prettier girls are coming of age. That is why you, as a single woman, can rely on looks alone.

It is a quickly diminishing asset. You have got to bring something else to the table other than what you think are your vital statistics.

No matter how vital your statistics are, I guarantee you that someone more youthful and cuter than you will have even more vital measurements.

Bring encouragement, support, financial contribution, connections, and other non-physical assets to the table, or your relevance to your significant other may gradually lose its significance.

Been a while here

09/07/2024

Don't make life changing decisions when you are in a bad mood or vulnerable mindset.

For example, marriage. Too many people make bad marital choices because they think age is catching up with them.

You will rage if you marry due to age. Don't settle for anybody just to say you have somebody. Marriage is important. Vital even. But you should at least have minimum standards. You can exceed them, but never go below them.

A bad marriage is worse than loneliness. Because you can easily cure loneliness by having companionship.

But how do you cure a bad marriage?

13/04/2024

The Naira is now the world’s best performing currency, bar none, according to global investment bank, Goldman Sachs.

In the Northwest, bandits are now being kidnapped themselves by our military and are being tried and imprisoned. (Buhari never sent any bandit to prison).

Every weekday is now a working day in the Southeast. Sit at home has turned to sit in the office!

Boko Haram is now reduced as a threat in the Northeast.

The coastal highway is becoming a reality, and the Abuja metro is now ready for commissioning.

Fuel importation has reduced by more than 50%.

The Dangote and Port Harcourt Refineries are crashing the price of diesel and by May, Premium Motor Spirit will follow.

The Federal Government has negotiated direct Lagos-London flights for Air Peace.

Our GDP is now growing at 3.4%

And passport shortages are now a thing of the past, as Nigerians now get their passports quickly and easily.

Say what you will about Tinubu, but you cannot deny that the President is gradually making us feel proud to be Nigerians again.

08/04/2024

8 Cures For A Boring Marriage

About 2 months ago, I read a story a guy shared about his friend that just got married. This his friend confided in him that he's tired of his marriage and wife.

This is just a six months old marriage that they are supposed to be on fire, still consummating their marriage to maximum satisfaction but he's already tired. I'm sure the wife too is tired.

This is the point in marriage where people begin to think that they've made a mistake, that they've married the wrong person, or that their once upon a time guy who used to be fun to be with is no longer fun etc.

This is also the point in marriage where the possibility of cheating can set in if the couple is not careful. The husband will begin to look for a new experience in the bosom of another lady. The wife too will begin to give in to some of shameless guys that have been disturbing her even though they knew she's married. And this is how they will continue until their marriage fails.

This is the point where loving becomes hard, more of a decision than feelings. I often define love as strong feeling for someone and also a decision to stick with the person. Usually, at the beginning the feeling is there but it will get to a point where it seems to vanish into the thin air. This is the point where decision to stick with the person in spite of lack of feeling comes to play.

What are the causes of this tiredness in marriage?

1. See Finish

This is a situation where the value, love, satisfaction, attraction, and excitement you used to have for or derive from your partner tends to reduce over time because there's nothing more to it, there's nothing new again.

You've seen and done almost everything. You've seen your partner's nakedness, curves, contours, shape and size, spots and wrinkles etc., and have even done almost everything with your partner, you've s*xed, kissed, hugged, romanced etc. So, nothing eye never see and hand never touch, that kind of feeling.

2. The Law Of Diminishing Marginal Utility

This is an economic term and it it states that the more and more you consume a particular product, the satisfaction you get from consuming that product will increase at first, but it will get to a point that, as you continue to consume more and more of that product, the level of satisfaction you get, will reduce.

When people newly get married, they're on fire, they can't get enough of each other, they look forward to a great s*x time but a year or more down the line, the fire begins to go down. This is the law that's at work.

Maybe you are at this point in your marriage or relationship, just like the guy above, there's hope for you. Here's things to to do to rekindle that fire again..

1. Give Each Other Space

For your partner not to so get used to you that your presence doesn't make any much difference to him or her again, for you not choke him or her up with your presence you must learn to give each other space. Take time to be alone as often as possible.

You have a personal goals you want to achieve, take time at times to give them attention. Hang out with your friends, spend the weekend at times in your respective families. Just give each other space, a breathing space.

2. Miss Each Other

It's not all the time you should call, visit, text, or chat Sometimes, make your partner to miss you. Scarcity creates value. Surplus brings down the value of goods.

3. Cover up

As a wife, learn to cover up at times. Leave some things for your husband to imagine. Let him imagine what the size and shape of your body are like. Don't walk around naked all the time. Get varieties of hot stay at home clothes that will drive him nuts. Don't be the type that wears wrapper up and down. You and who is doing that one? This also applies to the husband.

4. Start All Over Again

After you guys have settled down to start marriage proper, start all over again. Date each other again. Court each other again. Woo and toast your wife again. Play hard to get again. Do the stuff you guys use to do while unmarried. Eat out. Hang out. Attend functions together. Go to cinema, beach etc.

5. Spice Up Your S*x Life

S*x doesn't have to be in one location, bedroom nor one position, missionary. Spice it up. Different locations, sitting room, bathroom, passage, dining table, kitchen and different position, doddy, catty, horssy, etc. You know what I'm talking about.

6. Make A Decision To Stick With Your Partner

Like I said before, love is not all about having great feelings, but a decision too. When the feelings are no longer there, that's when you need to make a decision to keep loving. Marriage is an act of the will for any meaningful to happen in it, you must intentional about it.

7. Go On A Vacation If You Can.

Go and experience something new together with your partner. It helps. Vacation doesn't have to be outside the country, it can be in another state within the country. Visit some recreational centers to unwind with your partner.

8. Pray For Fresh Wine In Your Marriage.

People cheats mostly because they're tired of their marriages and partners. Nothing is new again. Nothing excites them. No love, attraction, excitement for their partner again.

In time like this, you need to pray for a new wine in your marriage. Father, let the love, attraction, excitement be rekindled again in my marriage! Pray!

Let me stop here, in whatever you do, don't over do and don't under do. Too much of everything is not good. In all you do, make your marriage work!

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