28/08/2023
THE BLAME GAME
You've become acustomed to it. All you do is complain to your friends and family about your partner. Everything is wrong with them. You're the perfect one. Worst still you're inspired by their feedback and comments. They become the third party in your relationship. When you constantly complain about your partner and solely focus on their faults, it suggests that you might have a negative outlook on your relationship. By always blaming them, it indicates a lack of personal responsibility and a tendency to avoid acknowledging your own contribution to the issues.
Recognizing this pattern is key, and choosing to change your behavior can lead to a transformation in yourself and consequently influence change in your partner. The idea here is that personal growth and self-reflection can positively impact your relationship dynamics. The alternative is a downward slope to disintegration of the relationship, and in a marraige - divorce!
Sometimes, the problem may not lie entirely with your partner, but rather with your consistent complaints to third parties. Venting to others without actively addressing the issues with your partner prevents effective communication and resolution. It also implies a reluctance to recognize and work on your own flaws, which can hinder personal growth.
By shifting your focus and taking responsibility for your own actions and reactions, you can initiate the change within yourself. This self-improvement can also inspire your partner to follow suit and create a catalyst for overall change within the relationship.
By diminishing blame and criticism toward your partner, and instead focusing on your own faults and working on personal growth, a positive shift can occur both in yourself and in your relationship. Recognizing the need to change within yourself is crucial, as it is only through personal change that you can have a significant influence on your partner and the dynamics of your relationship.
