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We’ve created a culture that is obsessed with the spotlight - obsessed with views, likes, and quick wins.But here’s the ...
31/07/2025

We’ve created a culture that is obsessed with the spotlight - obsessed with views, likes, and quick wins.

But here’s the thing: the spotlight will always come. The question is, will you be ready when it does?

Too many people chase virality without preparing for what to do with it. I believe that anyone can go viral. You could twerk, go unclad, post something outrageous, and boom! millions of views. But what you do with that attention is what really matters.

We’ve seen it over and over: people blow up for the wrong reasons (do you remember the de*d body go surplus guy?), and just as quickly as they rise, they disappear. Fame without substance doesn’t last. Hype without a foundation will always crumble.

So don’t chase virality.

Build something.
Build substance.
Have an identity.
Develop your strengths.
Grow, fail, and evolve in the dark.

Because the spotlight doesn’t just shine, it reveals.
And if you’re unprepared when it hits, it will expose your flaws and shake your confidence. But if you’ve done the work, when the light comes, you’ll be ready. You’ll stand, not shrink.

If you haven’t already, I highly recommend watching Salem and Adora’s conversation with Tunde Onakoya on YouTube (Cr8torium). So many gems in that episode. You’ll walk away inspired and equipped.

When I moved to Cameroon in 2021, I was very anxious. I was leaving Nigeria, my family and going to live in a new countr...
30/07/2025

When I moved to Cameroon in 2021, I was very anxious. I was leaving Nigeria, my family and going to live in a new country, settling into marriage, and living in a French speaking city.

It was all overwhelming and I was afraid. I didn’t think I fit into the environment, and I was down for the first couple of weeks


But with time, I started to realize that Cameroon was never going to be home for me, if I don’t let go, and let God. If I keep resisting the people, the food, the culture, and feeling bad about my experience, then I’ll mostly spend years in Cameroon without actually living in it.

The first thing I did was to ask God to help me accept Cameroon as my home for as long as He wanted.
I took a second step to make my Cameroon phone number my primary contact across all platforms. It was my first step to finally embracing where I was, and gradually God started to teach me a lesson about blossoming where He has planted me.

I’ve received a few messages from wives who have had to relocate to places they don’t feel they belong, in order to be with their husbands, and I’m writing this to them, and to anyone who currently finds themselves in environments where it seems like they don’t fit in, or a place that doesn’t look like where they envision themselves to be.

First, I want to let you know that I’ve been there for most of my life, never really fitting into the environments I found myself, and I can totally relate to the uncertainty you feel.

But what I’ve learned is that, God has a plan for placing you wherever you currently find yourself. From the family you were born, to where you live. You may not see this yet, but nothing happens in Gods plan by mistake.

Secondly, a place will only begin to look like home when you make it one and it begins with the mind. Personal experience has taught me that you won’t be able to fully enjoy the fruits of a land you constantly criticize. Eventually I enjoyed Cameroon so much that when it was time to leave, we literally had to call on God and the host of angels for confirmation 😃 and I still think back to our time in Cameroon with so much fondness.

Thirdly, pay attention to what God is saying to you for each season. You can be in a place and have experiences and results that don’t look like where you live. This was my case and I believe it can happen to anyone if you can let God.

God has a purpose for placing you where you are, walk with Him and get to know his heart for the season. You can still have abundance where you are. You can grow and make impact where you are.
Don’t discard what you have at the moment because God has equipped you with all you need to blossom from right from where you are if only you’ll see it.

And when/if it’s His will that you move, you’ll move knowing that the land owed you nothing, and that you lived out Gods purpose for this season.

“I didn’t know you moved”“I didn’t know you had a baby”“I didn’t know you switched jobs”“I didn’t know you went on a fit...
29/07/2025

“I didn’t know you moved”
“I didn’t know you had a baby”
“I didn’t know you switched jobs”
“I didn’t know you went on a fitness journey”
“I didn’t know you’ve taken your personal relationship with God so seriously”
“I didn’t know you started prioritizing yourself”

Of course you wouldn’t.

The fact that someone chooses to build in public doesn’t mean that you suddenly know everything about their lives. There’s always more.

At the end of the day, people will only share what they choose to share, and no matter how well you may think you know someone, it’s not all there is to them, so avoid trying to see people finish.

And, dear you, don’t “see yourself finish”. You’re capable of so much more. There’s more territories to take, more feats to achieve no matter how much you’ve accomplished already.
Even if you’re currently having a setback, it’s not the end. No one can write you off if God hasn’t. So get up with renewed hope and confidence. There’s always more.

Being in a “quiet mum” era can be a good thing, but when it lingers for so long, it’s not. By quiet, I do not mean, bein...
02/10/2024

Being in a “quiet mum” era can be a good thing, but when it lingers for so long, it’s not.

By quiet, I do not mean, being away from social media. I mean, pausing life generally to see to the needs of being a mother.

During the time of quietness, some women lose touch with everything else including friends, personal development comes to a halt , hobbies take a back seat and being a mum becomes their whole identity.

They focus on being a mum only to find themselves struggling to adjust when this season is over and their kids are all grown.

This doesn’t just happen to mothers, I’ve seen quite a few people who took some time off for a quiet season, overstay in the quietness and struggle to get back.

It doesn’t have to be so.
God and life’s demands calls us into a quiet season once in a while. It could be for days, weeks, months, or even years. But also understand that being quiet doesn’t mean a season of nothingness. Work can still happen in the quiet that lays the foundation for success.

Your time of quietness can be a time to do unseen work, make internal growth, go through deep self reflections, hone skills through personal development, develop hobbies and build relationships.

A quiet season doesn’t mean that nothing is happening, for it is in those quiet moments that true transformation could occur.

Oh, and this also goes to anyone that takes people’s absence from social media as a sign that nothing good is happening in their lives. Have a rethink.

We have heard it a lot of times to discard friends who are either not as ambitious as we are or as goal-oriented as we a...
18/09/2024

We have heard it a lot of times to discard friends who are either not as ambitious as we are or as goal-oriented as we are, but check again.

There are friends for various categories of purpose. Some friends may not be an accountability partner, or even give a hoot about lofty plans and dreams, but they could be cheerleaders, prayer warriors, supporters and encouragers.

I am one who values the gift of every dimension of friendship.
When I want to discuss strategies for a book launch, I know who I'd call, when I want to rant, I know who to talk to, when I need a prayer buddy, I also know what direction to look. My friends all play important roles in my life, none to be dropped or taken for granted.
Some of them are not on social media, some are, and they all have a place.

Two weeks ago, a friend sent me a brief message that made my day, although she doesn't know it. She said "I'm so proud to be associated with a genius like you babe. God will take you places. I love you". This friend, supports me every single time. She may not be there to strategize with me, but her encouragement keep coming when needed.

I hope you reconsider discarding friends who do not fit perfectly into the friendship mould you've created. Give people a chance to become friends in the manner they know best.

One of the hardest things to do as adults is making decisions. Sometimes, we find ourselves at crossroads, bubbling with...
12/09/2024

One of the hardest things to do as adults is making decisions. Sometimes, we find ourselves at crossroads, bubbling with ideas, fixating with several thoughts, and even worse, romanticizing ideas.

But we all know that daydreaming about an idea won't get you anywhere. It is only when you shift from just thinking to actually doing something that real change happens.

We’re not gifted with supernatural powers to predict the future, so instead of constantly wondering, and bothering, and thinking, paralyzed in a thought loop of indecision, go ahead and make a move no matter how little. No idea comes fully formed.

If you can’t stop thinking about changing careers, go ahead and take a class, volunteer on weekends, do something.
If you can’t stop thinking about launching an initiative, starting a business, writing a book, go ahead with the very first thing needed in that direction. Things will get clearer as you keep exploring.

Also remember that each yes you say to one decision is an indirect No to something else. So think hard before you make a choice, and afterwards, be at peace with your decision and get to work.

I’ve had good years. But 2024? Just wow! đŸ€©Considering that I entered 2024 totally unsure about the new year, and muttere...
10/09/2024

I’ve had good years. But 2024? Just wow! đŸ€©

Considering that I entered 2024 totally unsure about the new year, and muttered “God Help Me” more times than I can count. I remember sharing it on my WhatsApp status about how unsure I was about the new year.

I had a lot of things that made me feel this way - life as a mum, student, wife, and career woman, thousands of miles away from friends and family.
My mum, my toddler’s primary carer from day one, had left for Nigeria at the end of 2023, leaving me perplexed as to how I’d juggle all of my commitments.

We travelled to Nigeria for the Christmas break, and on our return to Yaounde, God gave me the word “PEACE” (and a whole lot of other things He told me).

Peace was such an important word for that season because knowing me and how much I deal with anxiety, it was the best gift really.
You can’t imagine how much peace God gave me, and stayed true to his word.

It’s been 9 months after, and this lady whom God gave peace, is so thankful.
I’m grateful to God for his reassuring love, and peace. I’ve seen all my concerns and worries topple over and become insignificant while God sorted them out, one after the other, brought clarity on some of the decisions we’ve tabled to him as a family, and just continues to wow us.
Thank you father.

"God will keep our hearts in perfect peace if we keep our minds [trust] fixed on him". The starting point of peace is in TRUSTING in who God is, and having faith in the words He has spoken to you. God is good and just. Trust Him.

To you who is currently going through rough times,
“May the Peace of the Lord, go with you,
Peace of the Lord, be with you,
may his spirit rest within you,
to comfort and befriend you,
he’s right beside you,
to constantly remind you,
you’re the child of a king”

Tech is not a get-rich-quick scheme. We preach for people to get into tech because it is one of the career fields, with ...
05/09/2024

Tech is not a get-rich-quick scheme. We preach for people to get into tech because it is one of the career fields, with a very low entry bar, and a massive pool of opportunities.

That being said, if you've made up your mind to get into tech, the first thing you should do

1. Research: There are several niches in the tech industry to choose from, aside from web development, including, Data Science, AI, Machine Learning, DevOps, Blockchain, UI/UX Design, Product Management, Technical Writing, UX Writing, Software Testing, etc. Google and read up on these, and make the decision of which skill to go for. No one should coerce you into coding if you don't want to. You can be in tech, without knowing how to code.

2. Learn the skills: After making your research and deciding on the niche you want, start learning. There are several platforms where you can start learning for free. Solo Learn, Free Code Camp, YouTube. Again, GOOGLE. There are also a couple of free courses on LinkedIn Learn. Scout for them, enroll and learn.

3. Start Building: Build as you learn. Don't get into tutorial hell. Taking 25 courses with no project evidential to your learning is actually useless. In tech, recruiters are more interested in what you build than the number of certificates or boot camps you've passed through. So, as you learn, build, and document your efforts. If you’re going for a no-code role, then the easiest way to practice what you’ve learned is to volunteer your skills.

4. Look into Getting a Mentor: You see the way I added this as step 4 and not step 1? The first thing you need to get into tech isn't a mentor or a coach. You need to be self-driven. In fact, you'd be a lot of burden to your mentor if you've not already done 1-3 before reaching out for mentorship. So, after you've picked a niche, taken some courses, and built out some mini-projects, you'll need someone to hold you accountable. The tech journey is a tough one and could get tiring at some point, even confusing. Here's where a mentor comes in. Don't ask anyone to mentor you, when you've not done your bit. She Code Africa runs a free mentoring program, where ladies in their early tech careers are paired with more experienced people to help them build their skills. You can follow the page and keep an eye out for announcements on next cohort.

5. Start Networking: Making connections is really important when you’re trying to break into the tech industry. Attending meetups and conferences is a great way of getting yourself out there. Join and volunteer for a tech community. There are many tech communities you can join - GDG, She Code Africa, FemCode, OSCA, For Loop, Women Who Code, etc. If Social media is your thing, then you might want to leverage linkedIn and Twitter to share your work, forge meaningful connections with people lower and higher up in your chosen field, and contribute to the tech Community.

Remember, there are a number of careers in tech aside from coding, don't get stuck trying to learn to code, and I hope this short piece gives you a headstart.
Anyone can get into tech, including you.

If you still have some questions, you can ask me.

All the best ❀

Originally written in 2021

I set up my workspace recently, and from the moment I sat on it, my toddler started requesting that I carry him and swin...
02/09/2024

I set up my workspace recently, and from the moment I sat on it, my toddler started requesting that I carry him and swing him around it.

I must confess, I used to swing him on it when we were in Cameroon, but he was way younger then and couldn’t climb the seat by himself.

But I didn’t want this to continue as he’s older now and can comfortably climb the seat, and besides, I wanted him to learn that my chair is for work, and not for playing, and when mummy is sitting on it, it doesn’t signal ‘playtime’.

On Monday morning, I sat for hours in my previous work area (the dining table) too tired to deal with the cries and screams he may resort to if I said No to his requests again.

After some hours, I reminded myself of why I set up my workspace anyway, said a prayer, wore my mum hat and sat down on my work chair.

My toddler didn’t come to bother me. He played with his toys and everything else and only came to play when I left the chair.

This may look like nothing, but if you work from home like I do, you’d understand how important it is for me, for my toddler to keep my workspace sacrosanct, and a simple prayer did it.

When I noticed what happened, I remembered the song “Oh what things we often forfeit, oh what needless pain we bear, all because we do not carry everything to God in prayer.”

Big problems - pray
Small problems - pray
I wonder why my first resort to this was to worry, instead of backing up my initial reprimand with prayers.
Prayer is never unnecessary, and there is never too much of it.
Pray about EVERYTHING!
Your child(ren) is not doing well - pray
If you can worry about it, then you might as well pray about it.

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