16/02/2026
For the first time, I sat down to watch the videos of the American woman involved in the whole Ekene Umenwa and Deacon Famous saga.
Before now, I was just following updates and people’s analysis. But today, after someone advised me to watch the videos before judging, I did. And honestly, even though it’s good to hear every side, the videos alone already revealed a lot.
The first thing that strüçk me felt very personal.
I have a relative I have cvțt off for years now because anytime we had issues, she would go around ruiñinġ my image before anyone who loves me. She will say I do things I never dreamt of doing, turning people against me. At one point, strangers came to tell me what they heard about me from her. Outsiders were protecting me from my own person!!! Some people stopped talking to me without asking questions. People who diströy people’s reputations whenever they fall out are the wořşt kind of humans you will ever meet.
The second obvious thing is betrayál and ingratitude.
I struggle with letting go because I always remember the good things people have done for me and I use it to excuse the bad. So when I see serially ungrateful people, it really huřtș me, like, why can't you hold on to the times these people did you good?
A stranger opened her home to you. A stranger. Do you know what it means to accommodate someone, not for days, but for months? Shelter is not a small favor at all…. Sighs!! Someone brought you to a country you had never been to and gave you access to herself and many other people and the best thing you could do is to form ally against her? Omo, people get mind.
Living with anyone is not easy, even siblings and parents sometimes clașh as we become adults. If there were issues, wouldn't it have been best if she talked to the woman? Why choose to move in with the friend of the person who brought you to a place?
Why resort to sowing seeds of discord, turning friends against each other? How far can you go? Even if she told you things about them, why will you go and spįll? Ahh!!!
As for the American woman, I think she is the kind of person who overshares, and it is something many sociable and kind-hearted people do when they’re comfortable with someone. I know this because I’m guiltÿ. But I hope she learns.
To those who are still asking what the päïñ of Deacon Famous is, have you ever been huřt and you turn around to realize that it is the same person you've sacrificed so much for who is behind it? At that point, it is not huřt that k!lłz you but realizing who is behind it. It’s not the stäbbb that húrtș most times, it’s realizing the person holding the knífé.
As usual, I've taken my lesson, and it is to begin to pay attention to my mother’s favorite advice to me which I've been failing to adhere to:
Be careful with access.
Be careful with friendships.
Not everyone who smiles with you means well.
Na human being make life hard, so relate with people but with wisdom. That people share with you is not an automatic licence to overshare. You might keep their information safe while they ruïñ you with what you share with them at the slightest opportunity. Study patterns in people before you bring them close. Kindness can still come with boundaries. Access should be expensive. This is what my mother has been telling me. — Eshi Ayo
