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31/07/2025

💬 Is Your Courtship God-Honoring or Just Trend-Following?

In a world where "talking stage" has replaced intentional commitment, many are dating without direction. But courtship that honors God is more than feelings and photos — it's about purpose, accountability, and spiritual growth.

God's design for relationships isn't outdated. It's foundational.
💡 Are you setting healthy boundaries?
💡 Do you invite God into your relationship decisions?
💡 Is your courtship preparing you both for a godly marriage?

You don’t have to figure it out alone. We’ve just shared a fresh blog post on Rehoboth Shalom that dives deep into what it really means to honor God in courtship, build accountability, and invite trusted community into your journey.

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Let’s raise a generation that doesn’t just date for fun but courts with faith, vision, and purpose.

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27/07/2025

🕊 Why Your Faith Foundation Matters in Christ-Centered Courtship 💍

Let’s talk real for a moment.

We all desire meaningful relationships—ones that are rooted in love, respect, and purpose. But here's the truth: without a solid foundation in Christ, courtship can easily drift into confusion, compromise, and heartbreak.

Your faith foundation isn’t just about quoting scripture or attending church services together. It’s about:

✅ Understanding God’s design for relationships
✅ Learning to love selflessly, like Christ
✅ Having spiritual clarity in your values and boundaries
✅ Walking in alignment, not just in attraction
✅ Letting God lead, rather than your emotions or pressure

💬 Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where your faith felt like the last thing holding it together—or not present at all?

That’s why your foundation matters before the feelings grow deep.

🎯 A courtship grounded in Christ allows both partners to grow spiritually, emotionally, and intentionally—preparing not just for marriage, but for a life that honors God together.

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21/07/2025

🛑 Emotional Boundaries in Godly Relationships – Why They Matter & How to Set Them 🙏💬

In a world where emotions run deep and fast, especially in romantic relationships, it’s easy to cross lines we never intended to. But if you're committed to honoring God in your relationships, emotional boundaries are not just helpful they're essential.

Let’s be real Godly relationships are not immune to emotional entanglements, heartbreak, or confusion. The difference is that we approach them with intentionality, wisdom, and obedience to God’s Word.

So what exactly are emotional boundaries?
Why do they matter so much in Christian courtship and dating?
And how do you set them without feeling like you're putting up walls?

Let’s dig into it.

💡 What Are Emotional Boundaries?

Emotional boundaries are limits you set in your heart and mind to protect your emotional well-being and spiritual integrity. They help you manage how much of your inner life your thoughts, dreams, fears, and feelings you share with another person, especially someone you’re romantically interested in but not yet married to.

They’re not about being cold or distant. They’re about guarding your heart.

Proverbs 4:23 says,

> “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”

If everything flows from the heart, then protecting it isn’t optional—it’s obedience.

❤️ Why Emotional Boundaries Matter in a Godly Relationship

1. They keep Christ at the center.
When emotions take over, it’s easy to idolize a person or the relationship itself. Boundaries remind you that Jesus is your foundation—not the thrill of being loved by someone.

2. They prevent premature emotional attachment.
Getting emotionally entangled before commitment can blur judgment. Emotional boundaries keep you sober and prayerful.

3. They help avoid spiritual compromise.
Emotional intimacy often leads to physical intimacy. The more emotionally tied you are to someone, the harder it becomes to say "no" to temptation.

4. They prepare you for a healthy marriage.
Practicing boundaries now teaches you how to communicate, honor each other, and protect what matters.

🚩Signs You May Be Crossing Emotional Boundaries

Let’s check in. Are you:

Sharing every detail of your past trauma or deepest fears too early?

Having late-night conversations that stir intense emotional connection?

Using the relationship to fill emotional voids or loneliness?

Depending on the person more than God for comfort, identity, or purpose?

These are red flags. And they don’t mean the relationship is doomed. They mean you need to step back and reset.

🛠️ How to Set Emotional Boundaries Practically

Setting boundaries is not unspiritual. It’s wisdom in action. Here are some practical steps you can take:

1. Pray about your relationship often.

Ask God for discernment. Ask Him to show you what to say, when to say it, and when to pull back.

2. Have “the talk” early.

Discuss your desire to honor God emotionally and spiritually. If they’re truly walking with God, they’ll respect that.

3. Limit emotionally charged conversations.

Don’t spend hours talking about the future, especially if you’re not officially courting or engaged. Emotional overexposure can create unrealistic expectations.

4. Guard your alone time.

Spending time alone isn't wrong, but it should be intentional and guarded. Choose public places and avoid long, unstructured hangouts.

5. Involve godly mentors or accountability partners.

Don’t do this alone. Invite spiritual leaders or mature couples to walk with you and check in regularly.

6. Know your emotional triggers.

Be honest about what draws you in emotionally and stay alert. Emotional attraction isn’t sinful, but letting it take control is.

🙌 What Emotional Boundaries Are Not

Let’s clear this up—emotional boundaries are not:

Shutting yourself off emotionally

Being rude or detached

Pretending you don’t care

Avoiding vulnerability forever

They are about timing, depth, and wisdom.

You can share your heart but you must do it wisely, slowly, and in alignment with God’s timing and purpose for the relationship.

🧠 Think About This…

> Are you more emotionally connected to the person you’re dating than to God?

If yes, pause. Re-center. God isn’t against your love story He cares deeply about how it unfolds. And He wants to protect your heart more than anyone else can.

📖 Biblical Examples

Ruth and Boaz practiced patience, honor, and restraint. Their relationship wasn’t rushed, and Boaz was intentional and protective.

Samson and Delilah is a cautionary tale. Emotional manipulation destroyed Samson's destiny. Be wise in who you give emotional access to.

💬 Let’s Talk…

Have you ever felt emotionally drained or spiritually distracted in a relationship?
Have you shared too much, too soon, and regretted it?

You’re not alone. And the good news is God restores. With grace and wisdom, you can build a relationship that honors Him emotionally, spiritually, and eventually, physically and covenantally.

🔥 Final Word

Setting emotional boundaries might feel hard in the moment but the peace, clarity, and confidence you gain is worth it. You protect not just your heart, but the destiny God has for your relationship.

And if you’re still waiting for the right person? Start building those boundaries now. Practice in friendships. Grow your inner strength and discernment.

Your future self will thank yo

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17/07/2025

Emotional Boundaries in a Godly Relationship: Guarding Your Heart Without Shutting It Off

📖 “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” – Proverbs 4:23 (NIV)

In today’s world, where emotions run wild and vulnerability is often exchanged too quickly, emotional boundaries are no longer optional—they are essential. Especially in a God-honoring relationship, learning how to guard your heart without shutting it off is a sign of wisdom, maturity, and spiritual discernment.

So let’s talk.

Let’s talk about why emotional boundaries matter, how to establish them, and how to know when lines are being crossed. Because trust me—it’s possible to be open without being exposed, loving without losing yourself, and intentional without being impulsive.

🚧 What Are Emotional Boundaries?

Emotional boundaries are the invisible lines that protect your heart, mind, and spirit from overexposure and premature intimacy. While physical boundaries deal with your body, emotional boundaries protect your soul.

Think of them like fences—not walls. Fences define property, give space, and allow for healthy interaction. Walls isolate. Boundaries invite respect, not distance.

In a Godly relationship, emotional boundaries help you grow together while still maintaining God as the center, not your emotions.

❤️ Why Do Emotional Boundaries Matter?

1. They protect your heart from premature attachment.
Not everyone who makes you feel good is good for you. When you open up too deeply, too soon, you can form soul ties that cloud discernment.

2. They guard your identity.
You are a child of God first. When emotional lines blur, it’s easy to find your worth in another person rather than in Christ.

3. They promote clarity.
Without boundaries, every conversation becomes “deep,” every gesture feels like a commitment, and every setback feels like heartbreak—even when there's no clarity about the future.

4. They prevent emotional idolatry.
Yes, idolatry. When someone becomes your emotional center instead of God, you start seeking comfort, security, and fulfillment in them more than in Christ.

🛑 Red Flags That Boundaries Are Missing

You talk for hours late into the night about your fears, past trauma, and future dreams—but haven’t prayed together.

You’re emotionally dependent—one text can make or break your day.

You can’t make decisions without their opinion, even when you're not married or engaged.

You already act like a married couple—without commitment or covenant.

If any of these describe you, it’s time to reset.

🧭 How to Establish Emotional Boundaries in a Godly Way

Let’s be practical. Here are 6 clear steps to setting emotional boundaries in your relationship:

1. 💬 Define the Relationship (DTR) Early

Don’t stay in “talking stage” forever. If there’s no clarity about intentions, don’t act like you’re in a committed relationship. Vagueness breeds emotional confusion.

Ask:

Are we pursuing marriage?

Is this courtship or just conversation?

Are we both spiritually mature enough for this?

2. 🙏 Build Spiritual Intimacy, Not Just Emotional Dependency

Before you start sharing deep secrets, share prayers.
Before you go on romantic dates, go to Bible study.

Godly relationships are not fueled by feelings but by faith. Make God your connection point, not emotions or attraction alone.

3. ⏰ Set Communication Limits

Not every text needs a reply at 1:00 AM. Not every emotion needs to be processed immediately. Set healthy rhythms:

Talk during reasonable hours.

Take breaks for personal time with God.

Avoid emotional “dumping” during vulnerable moments.

Boundaries help prevent burnout—and confusion.

4. 📖 Don’t Share Marriage-Level Details at a Dating Stage

Yes, transparency is good. But sharing your deepest secrets, finances, or future plans too early can create false intimacy.

Let depth come with time, prayer, and mutual confirmation—not pressure or premature vulnerability.

5. 👥 Involve Community and Counsel

If your relationship is only happening in secret DMs, it’s not protected.

Bring it into the light:

Talk to mentors.

Attend church events together.

Let trusted people help you discern.

Community adds covering and accountability. Secrecy often signals compromise.

6. 🧎‍♀️ Check Your Heart Often

Ask yourself:

Am I seeking validation from this person or from God?

Is my identity rooted in Christ or in this relationship?

Have I prayed more about this person—or talked more about them?

Guard your heart, don’t hand it out freely.

✨ Emotional Intimacy Belongs in Covenant

Real talk: There’s a level of vulnerability that belongs in marriage, not dating or even engagement. Giving away too much emotionally without a covenant commitment sets you up for heartbreak and spiritual confusion.

That’s why emotional boundaries are not about fear—they’re about wisdom.
They help you walk in love without stumbling in lust.
They help you stay open without being overtaken.
They help you keep God on the throne while letting love grow the right way.

💬 Final Thoughts

If you’re in a relationship right now, take a moment to pause and reflect:

Are we honoring God emotionally, not just physically?

Are we building faith or fueling fantasy?

Are our conversations filled with purpose or just pleasure?

Don’t be afraid to reset. Don’t be afraid to pause. The right person will respect your boundaries—and protect them too.

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16/07/2025

🚩 Red Flags to Watch Out for in a Christian Courtship

💬 “A prudent person foresees danger and takes precautions. The simpleton goes blindly on and suffers the consequences.” – Proverbs 27:12 (NLT)

Entering a courtship as a Christian is a beautiful and sacred journey. It’s a time of discernment, intentionality, and growth—with the ultimate goal of glorifying God and preparing for a godly marriage.

But while love can be exciting, it should never make us blind.

There are certain red flags—warning signs—that every Christian man and woman should watch out for in courtship. Ignoring these signs could lead to emotional pain, spiritual compromise, or even a disastrous marriage.

Let’s talk about the major red flags to prayerfully discern and never ignore.

1. ❌ Lack of Spiritual Accountability

A Christian courtship should be under spiritual covering—whether through mentors, pastors, or trusted godly counsel. If your partner resists godly accountability or dislikes the idea of spiritual oversight, that’s a dangerous sign.

True courtship invites wisdom, correction, and community.

> 🔍 Who do they submit to spiritually? Who is speaking into their life?

2. ❌ Consistent Compromise on Godly Values

If the relationship consistently leads you to sin—emotionally, physically, or spiritually—it’s not from God. A God-ordained courtship should elevate your standards, not lower them.

Compromise may look like:

Pressuring you into sexual activity

Justifying sin

Avoiding prayer or Bible study

Discouraging godly boundaries

When values are compromised, the foundation of trust, purity, and holiness begins to crumble.

> 📖 “Can two walk together unless they agree?” – Amos 3:3

3. ❌ Emotional Manipulation or Control

Beware of relationships where one person constantly:

Plays the victim

Controls every decision

Uses guilt or fear to manipulate you

Demands access to every detail of your life

These are not signs of love—they’re signs of control and potential emotional abuse. A godly partner will honor your free will, respect your boundaries, and walk in humility.

4. ❌ Unwillingness to Grow Spiritually

No one is perfect, but growth is essential. If your partner:

Shows no interest in prayer or God’s Word

Is stagnant in their spiritual walk

Criticizes your desire to grow spiritually

Then that’s a red flag.

Marriage will not change a spiritually lazy person. In fact, it often amplifies what was ignored during courtship.

> 🙏 Look for someone who is hungry for God, even if they’re still learning.

5. ❌ Unresolved Anger and Addictions

Don’t ignore outbursts of rage, dishonesty, or hidden addictions (po*******hy, alcohol, drugs, gambling). These are not “small issues”—they are major spiritual and emotional wounds that can destroy a relationship.

People can change—but true change is proven over time, not promised in words.

Don’t let pity keep you in a dangerous situation. Healing must happen before marriage, not after.

6. ❌ Isolation from Community

If the person constantly isolates you from family, friends, or church, it’s a tactic of control, not love. Love brings people together—manipulation pushes others away.

Red flags include:

“You don’t need anyone else but me.”

“Your friends/family don’t understand us.”

“Why are you always telling your mentor everything?”

Healthy courtship thrives in community, not secrecy.

7. ❌ Disrespect Toward Authority or Church

If they constantly criticize pastors, mock leadership, or refuse to submit to biblical teaching, beware. If they are not accountable to anyone now, they won’t magically become humble in marriage.

> 💬 A person’s attitude toward authority is a glimpse into their attitude toward God.

8. ❌ Inconsistency and Double Life

Are their words consistent with their actions? Do they say one thing in church but live another way in private?

A double life is a red flag that should never be ignored. What you see during courtship is often just the tip of the iceberg.

🛑 A Final Word:

Red flags are not signs to “pray harder.” They’re signs to pause, evaluate, and seek counsel.

God loves you too much to let you walk blindly into heartache. That’s why He gives you His Word, the Holy Spirit, and the wisdom of spiritual mentors.

If you’re already seeing red flags in your courtship, don’t rush into marriage hoping it’ll get better. Instead, run to God for clarity and courage. Obedience today saves you from regret tomorrow.

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16/07/2025

🕊️ Discerning God’s Will in a Relationship: A Journey Worth Taking 💍
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.” – Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)

In a world full of romantic comedies, dating apps, relationship goals, and endless advice from friends, mentors, and social media, one question still echoes in the heart of every sincere believer:

"How do I know if this relationship is God's will?"

It’s a noble and necessary question. As believers, we don’t just want a “good thing”—we want a God thing. We don’t want just compatibility—we want divine alignment. That’s why discerning God’s will in a relationship is not just wise; it’s vital.

Let’s walk through some timeless principles to help you seek God's will in your relationship journey:

1. Start with Surrender, Not Desire

Often, we come to God with our minds made up, asking Him to “bless” what we’ve already chosen. But discerning God’s will begins with surrender—laying down your desires, even your attraction or hopes for a particular person, and asking:
“Lord, not my will, but Yours be done.”

Sometimes our strongest emotions can cloud divine direction. We must be willing to let go of even the best-sounding relationship if God says no. That kind of obedience leads to peace and purpose.

> ✨ Reflection: Have I truly surrendered this relationship to God?

2. Does This Person Draw You Closer to Christ?

God’s will for your life will never contradict His word. If the person you're dating or considering is not helping you grow spiritually, you need to pause.

A God-ordained relationship strengthens your walk with Him. It fosters prayer, purity, patience, and purpose. If you’re slipping spiritually, compromising your values, or constantly uneasy, that’s a red flag, not a wedding bell.

> 📖 “Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.” – 2 Corinthians 6:14

It’s not just about going to church—it’s about walking in the same direction toward Christ.

3. Look for Alignment in Purpose and Calling

God doesn’t just bring people together to fulfill romantic dreams—He brings them together for kingdom purposes. When considering someone, ask:

Do our visions align?

Do they respect and support my calling?

Can we serve God better together than apart?

The will of God is revealed where there is harmony—not just in personality, but in purpose.

4. Peace Is a Powerful Compass

Sometimes we ignore the whispers of the Holy Spirit because we’re afraid of what obedience might cost us. But one of the clearest signs of God’s leading is inner peace.

> 🕊️ “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts.” – Colossians 3:15

Even if a relationship checks all the “boxes” on the outside, if you constantly feel disturbed, confused, or anxious about the future, it might not be God's will.

On the other hand, God’s direction is often marked by a quiet assurance, even when everything doesn’t look perfect externally.

5. Seek Wise, Godly Counsel

Don’t walk this journey alone. Involve mature believers, spiritual mentors, or pastors who can speak into your relationship. God often confirms His will through the voices of those rooted in truth and love.

Avoid people who only tell you what you want to hear. Choose those who love you enough to say the hard things, and are spiritually discerning themselves.

> 📖 “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” – Proverbs 15:22

6. Wait on God’s Timing

Sometimes a relationship can be right, but the timing is wrong. God is not just interested in the “who”—He’s also deeply concerned about the when.

Don’t rush what should be bathed in prayer. Waiting is not wasting when God is involved. Use the waiting season to grow, mature, and prepare for what’s ahead.

> ⏳ “He has made everything beautiful in its time.” – Ecclesiastes 3:11

7. Is the Relationship Bearing Fruit?

God’s will is not only about how something starts—it’s about what it produces. Is the relationship bearing the fruit of the Spirit—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, and self-control?

If the relationship brings constant chaos, confusion, or compromise, it may be time to reevaluate. God’s will brings clarity and growth, not just emotionally but spiritually.

8. Confirmation Comes Through Prayer and the Word

Ultimately, God’s will is not something you guess—it’s something you discern through relationship with Him.

As you pray, fast, read the Word, and journal your impressions, God will confirm His will in multiple ways:

A Bible verse that speaks directly to your situation.

A strong inner witness or conviction.

Repeated confirmations through sermons, dreams, or prophetic insight.

God is not the author of confusion—He delights in revealing His will to His children.

> 🙏 “My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me.” – John 10:27

💡 Final Thoughts: The Blessing of Walking in God’s Will

Discerning God’s will in a relationship isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth it. No one who has followed God’s leading in this area has ever regretted it. His will brings peace, purpose, and joy.

Don’t let culture rush you. Don’t let loneliness mislead you. Don’t let pressure silence your discernment.

Trust the process. Trust the pruning. Trust the prompting.
And above all—trust the Lord.

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14/07/2025

💡 Discerning God’s Will in a Relationship 💍
Because True Love Begins with Divine Direction

In a world filled with choices, emotions, and personal preferences, one of the most crucial and life-altering decisions you’ll ever make is who you choose to marry. Love may feel magical and exciting, but as believers, we know that emotions alone cannot lead us into a godly relationship. Only God can.

The key question every Christian should ask when entering a romantic relationship is:
“Is this God’s will for my life?”

Let’s explore how to truly discern God’s will in a relationship—because a decision this important must be guided by divine wisdom, not just human desire.

📖 Why Discerning God's Will Matters

Marriage is not just a social contract or a romantic idea—it is a covenant before God. That means who you marry directly impacts your spiritual life, your purpose, your peace, and your legacy.

Proverbs 3:5-6 says,
"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths."

God has a path for your life—and that includes your love life. So if you’re in a relationship (or hoping to be), here’s how to make sure you’re following His lead, not just your heart.

🔍 1. Seek God First, Not the Relationship First

Before you even enter a relationship, ask yourself:
Have I involved God from the beginning?

Matthew 6:33 tells us, “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.”

If we flip the order—seeking the “relationship” first and bringing God in later—we risk walking into emotional traps. Make your relationship a result of prayer, not a prayer request after the fact.

🧭 2. Pay Attention to Peace, Not Just Passion

Yes, attraction matters. Yes, chemistry is nice. But one of the most underrated signs of God’s will is peace.

Colossians 3:15 says, “Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts...”

If you feel constant anxiety, confusion, or inner turmoil about a person—even if everything “looks” right—pause. God’s will is often accompanied by peace, not pressure. Passion fades. Peace lasts.

📜 3. Align the Relationship with God's Word

God will never lead you into a relationship that contradicts His Word. Ask yourself:

Is this relationship drawing me closer to God or away from Him?

Are we walking in purity, or compromising morally?

Is the other person bearing spiritual fruit (Galatians 5:22-23)?

Are we equally yoked in our faith and life direction (2 Corinthians 6:14)?

A relationship may “feel right,” but if it violates Scripture, it is not from God.

🙏 4. Pray for Discernment, Not Just Desires

Prayer is not a magic formula to get what we want. It is the space where we surrender our desires to God and listen for His direction.

James 1:5 encourages us:
"If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God... and it will be given to him."

Pray daily. Ask for signs, clarity, and conviction. And when you pray, listen. Sometimes God speaks through closed doors, wise counsel, or a subtle “check” in your spirit.

🧑🏾‍🤝‍🧑🏼 5. Involve Mentors and Godly Counsel

No one is an island. When you’re in love, it’s easy to overlook red flags or rush ahead. This is why spiritual mentors and godly community are so important.

Proverbs 15:22 says, “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.”

Involve trusted spiritual mentors, pastors, or married Christian couples who can offer you insight, ask tough questions, and hold you accountable. If the relationship is God’s will, it will withstand counsel and grow in community—not in secrecy.

🚩 6. Don’t Ignore Red Flags

God often reveals His will by exposing what doesn’t align with it. If you see consistent signs of:

Emotional manipulation

Disrespect or pride

Spiritual laziness

Addictive or abusive behavior

Dishonesty

…don’t call it a “phase.” Call it what it is—a warning.
God speaks through what you see and sense. Don’t wait for Him to write it in the sky when He’s already showing you in plain sight.

💒 7. Test the Relationship Against Your God-Given Purpose

Every believer has a unique calling. If the relationship is God’s will, it will align with and support your purpose, not distract from it.

Ask yourself:

Do we have a shared vision for life and faith?

Can we support each other’s ministries, callings, and dreams?

Is our union going to reflect Christ and His Church?

If the relationship is pushing you off course, it’s time to re-evaluate.

🕊 8. Be Willing to Let Go if God Says No

This is the hardest part. Sometimes, God answers our prayers not with a “Yes,” but with a “No”—or “Not yet.”

And yet, His “No” is not punishment—it’s protection.

When you surrender your relationship to God, you must also surrender the outcome. The God who loves you enough to save you also loves you enough to redirect you when necessary.

✨ Summary: How to Know It’s God’s Will

Here’s a simple checklist to help you discern:

✅ You have peace, not pressure
✅ The relationship aligns with Scripture
✅ You both are spiritually growing
✅ Godly mentors are supportive
✅ The relationship promotes purpose, not distraction
✅ There’s transparency, not secrecy
✅ You’re both committed to honoring God

If these boxes are checked, you may be walking in God’s will. Keep praying, keep testing, and stay anchored in His Word.

❤️ Final Words: Don’t Just Fall in Love—Walk in Wisdom

The world says, “Follow your heart.” But Scripture says, “Guard your heart” (Proverbs 4:23).
The world says, “Love is blind.” But God’s love opens our eyes.

Your relationship doesn’t need to be perfect. But it must be purposeful, prayerful, and planted in God’s truth. Whether you’re currently dating, hoping to date, or advising others in their relationships, remember this:

God’s will is not a mystery to be feared—it’s a path to be followed. And when you walk in His will, you walk in blessing.

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