AndBloom

AndBloom Founder of AndBloom, photographer and writer of the book AndBloom - The art of aging unapologetically I am Denise (45), friends call me Dee.

I am a photographer fueled by compassion, curiosity, and a drive to change the current view of society on aging. In my younger days, I worked as a fashion model. Living in Milano, Paris, and London, I traveled the world to work for many clients. When I was 25 I moved back to the Netherlands to become a photographer. After finishing art school at 29 I started working as a photographer and loved eve

ry minute of it, I loved fashion, beauty, and taking pictures of beautiful people. I worked all over the world from Tokyo to New York, from Capetown to Seoul. The years passed by and while approaching the ‘BIG 40’ I began to notice a certain dissatisfaction about aging, especially amongst women. Exploring this dissatisfaction in my work and private life, made me realize that it occurs not only in women over 40 but also in many younger women. Young women that worry about getting older, middle-aged women who think they no longer count after a certain age. Women, young and old(-er), that follow (the often) unrealistic example of the (social) media. The anti-aging campaigns using models barely over the age of 20, or Hollywood women that have everything ‘done’ to look younger. It can be, of course, a bit confusing, looking at celebrities your age that look at least 15 years younger than you do because of great light, filters, Botox, fillers, or other (radical) facial treatments. Giving birth to my son at 40 changed my perspective. An awareness came over me, I call it ‘motherhood’. Everything that was once important to me was suddenly less important. If someone had told me 5 years ago that I would be a mother one day … I would have declared them crazy. During early motherhood, I was given time to think about my work. I decided to give it a new, more meaningful direction. On an empty Thai beach, during endless walks with my 2-year-old son, I decided to start this new project. An awareness came over me, I call it ‘motherhood’ and growing up. On an empty Thai beach, during endless walks with my 2-year-old son, I decided to start this new project called AndBloom. It was also on that beach I realized I was having a kind of identity crisis. I no longer felt very young but also not old, yet I didn’t belong to the youth in my early forties, but I didn’t feel middle-aged either. I felt I was at a turning point in my life, physically and mentally. Talking with women around me made me realize I wasn’t the only one feeling like this. Many women feel a turning point around their 40’s and it’s not at all negative. 40-Something is a great age, you are old enough to know what you want and you still have time enough to do whatever you want. I know women that started new companies, women who started a new education, made a career switch, had another baby (or 2), changed husbands or left for a solo trip around the world. AndBloom is an age-positive community, I photograph women of all ages over 40, beautiful, real women, to capture the beautiful journey of aging.

A few months ago, I shared my story here about the complicated relationship I have with my father. What struck me most w...
21/09/2025

A few months ago, I shared my story here about the complicated relationship I have with my father. What struck me most was how many women are going through similar experiences, yet because it’s not something we often talk about (and honestly, when does this topic just “randomly” come up in conversation?), it can feel incredibly isolating.

You might even start to believe you’re one of the few dealing with it. So I was both shocked and deeply moved by the number of women who responded, saying they too carry similar struggles with a parent–child bond.

After writing that post, and as I turned 50, I decided to reach out to my father one more time, to see if anything remained of that father–daughter connection. What I found was simply a blood tie—and sadly, nothing more. That’s not surprising, of course, after years of distance, unspoken pain, and unresolved feelings.

But here’s the beautiful part: I am so grateful to be at a stage in life where I can choose me. Where I know what nourishes me and what doesn’t. Yes, it can still hurt. Yes, it can still be hard to accept that something you longed for just isn’t there. But sometimes I ask myself: if it was never truly there to begin with, what is it that I’m really missing? Often, it’s just the illusion, the picture-perfect father–daughter story we see in movies or imagine in our minds. And while for some that picture is real (lucky you ❤️), I also know it’s not always as flawless as it seems.

What I do have is something just as precious: people in my life who are deeply meaningful—some I was given, others I’ve chosen—and all of them dear to me. I often tell Finn, “Your grandpa is a chosen grandpa, and you couldn’t wish for a kinder one.” And in that, I hope to teach him this truth: love is something we can choose, but it can never be forced.

You are never alone. ❤️

Can we take a moment to talk about this dress, please? ✨Yesterday, over lunch in Paris, I had the honor of connecting wi...
21/09/2025

Can we take a moment to talk about this dress, please? ✨

Yesterday, over lunch in Paris, I had the honor of connecting with yet another incredible group of women — some from France, but also from Belgium, the USA, Scotland, and Poland. 💫

Once again, it reminded me that no matter where we come from, likeminded women always share the same language — the language of the heart. ❤️

I’m so thankful for the laughter, the stories, and the genuine bonds we created. Moments like these make me feel both humbled and inspired.

Sharing a few snapshots from this beautiful day with my mom and my sister from another mister — two women who make my heart so full. 💕

Dress
Thank you Daniella for your beautiful inspiration and many thanks to the for having us, it was wonderful. 🌱

PARIS DROP ✨ Spending time with two of my favorite humans.For one day, Mom got to have two daughters — one biological an...
20/09/2025

PARIS DROP ✨ Spending time with two of my favorite humans.

For one day, Mom got to have two daughters — one biological and one bonus daughter.

If only we could pause time every now and then… just in those moments we wish could last a little longer.

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AndBloom | Denise Boomkens

AndBloom originated from my love for photography, fashion, lifestyle and consciousness. After I turned 40 I started to miss inspiring websites with a coolness and authenticity towards natural aging. #ANDBLOOM

“&BLOOM is a beautiful journey into aging. Photographer Denise Boomkens is (SELF-)portraiting fierce women over 40. A digital place for inspiration and recognition. The focus of &Bloom is on positive, beautiful and (here and there with a little help) natural aging.”

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Love, Dee