10/10/2025
A Confession and a Realization
Hi everyone. I'm 26. Moving from Engineering To Finance Career. You can call me old or too young; I've heard both.
First, I want to say I'm sorry. To everyone I've flirted with, dated, had s*x with, or s*xted... I'm sorry. I've come to realize that a lot of that wasn't the real "me" talking—it was my impulses, my hormones, chasing a feeling. I've faced rejection, and I've also been the one to reject others.
Through all of this, I've learned one fundamental thing: human beings are never truly satisfied. It's our psychology.
When a relationship is toxic, we call it out and want to leave. But when it's too good, too stable, we call it boring and crave excitement. We're always looking for the next thing, the next thrill.
Does this sound familiar? Keep reading.
I see this same pattern everywhere, even in nature and the animal kingdom. This restless desire isn't necessarily our "purpose"—it's just our nature. And the key to a good life is to control it, not let it control you.
This brings me to my main point: Everything worthwhile comes with responsibility. Love, marriage, jobs… they aren't just about feelings. Feelings fade and change. Commitment is what builds a life.
Some of my past experiences are funny to look back on, others are traumatic. But I've learned to take responsibility for all of it. You can laugh at my journey if you want, I don't mind.
I believe our purpose is to build and add to society, not to destroy it or ourselves in the process. Before you step into love or marriage, look at your past. This goes for both men and women, but I have to say, I think women, by nature, are often more emotionally driven. This can sometimes lead to seeking validation elsewhere, an emotional greediness that comes from feeling unsatisfied. But men, we have our own battles.
When you find someone, you have to take it as a responsibility, not for granted. People will leave if you can't control your base nature. You have to make your mind strong.
And to the men: if you're still crying over every little thing, you need to toughen up. I believe men are born, by nature, to protect and provide—for women and children. And women are born to nurture, to raise, and to support their husbands. That is the core dynamic. Learn to say "no" to things that don't align with your responsibilities.
And for the women: stop looking for the perfect, wildly successful man to be your partner. A man often reaches his success at your father's age. If you wait for a man who is perfect and fully established by 30, you might end up alone. I see it all the time—a 23-year-old girl getting approached by a 43-year-old man. Why? Because that's often the age when a man has built something. Accept that nothing and no one is perfect. Not me, not you.
We all have flaws. Nature itself is flawed—it destroys and it creates.
So, be responsible. Never, ever take anything for granted. Not your parents, your love, your marriage, your job, your health, or your time. Nothing.
