How To Have Sex Podcast

15/05/2026

What would you do if you caught your kid red handed? 👀

These are the moments that can shape their relationship to their body, pleasure and s*xual self for years to come.

Touching your own body, being curious, and enjoying good feelings are normal human desires at any age.

There have even been studies observing babies in utero touching their ge****ls.... Our curiousity for pleasurable feelings and sensations in the body are innate from the very beginning.

So if your child/teenager is exploring their body, please don’t shame or punish them. In an age-appropriate way, normalise it, teach them it’s something you do in private and it’s ok.

Instead of: “Stop that, it’s naughty.”

Try: “I know that can feel nice sweetie, but that’s something we do in private.” or “Sorry love, all good just letting you know dinner’s ready”

Our kids not only remember what was said, but remember how they felt when that moment happened.

And so many adults are now trying to untangle shame around their bodies because of moments where they were made to feel dirty, embarrassed or wrong for being human.

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15/05/2026

Things you can say in a board meeting that you can say in the bedroom 😜😏😉

14/05/2026

Jay-Jay unlocks the real reason self-pleasure feels so excruciating to talk about… and she won’t be the only one carrying this story.

As women we are taught that s*x is something for men to enjoy and that we are there to service their needs.

And soon as the time and attention is placed on us, it can bring up a buffet of old conditioning, worthiness stuff, people pleasing tenancies and the old “don’t worry about me let’s just focus on you tonight” 😔

Self-pleasure is truly such a wonderful way to work through these old stories and beliefs and rewrite new and empowering ones that support you to lay back and receive pleasure like a damn Queen.

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13/05/2026

We’re celebrating M*sturbation May 😜

Touching yourself is one of the most intelligent things you can do for your partnered s*x life ❤️‍🔥🌋

The more you understand about what turns you on, what opens your body s*xually, what supports you to relax….the better s*x with another person will be.

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12/05/2026

Ep 8: How To M*sturbate And Why It Will Change Your Partnered S*x Life..... we’re unravelling shame conditioning, why it feels so gross for some and how to get better at it.😉

For a lot of women, m*sturbation was never ever framed as healthy, helpful, or incredibly important. It was framed as shameful, unnecessary, or something you just don’t do if you’re in a relationship which is why this conversation matters!

In this week’s episode you’ll learn:
💋 Why solo play helps you understand your body, your turn-on, and what actually feels good to you - like it’s genius!

💋 How m*sturbation can help you feel MORE pleasure during partnered s*x

💋 How to explore your body in a way that feels slower, more connected, and less “I need to get to the org*sm”

💋 Why your solo s*x life can make partnered s*x waaaaaaay better and a whole lot less guessy

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10/05/2026

Follow this sequence to give your lover the ultimate butt play experience. Or send this to them with an emoji 😉🍑

Haven’t listened to this weeks episode on butt play yet? 🎙️

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09/05/2026

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08/05/2026

An🍑l play is one of those things soooo many people are curious about… but nobody wants to be the first to admit it 🙃🤫

Why?
Because of conditioning, our homophobic society, shame, judgement and because it’s still very taboo.

But curiosity is what supports you to have a fun, fulfilling and exciting sxx life.

An🍑l pleasure is wrapped in so much taboo and awkwardness that people end up secretly Googling it instead of having honest conversations about what they actually want to explore.

So allow us to educate you 😉 Grab ya pods 🎧 and butt plug 🔌 and comment HTHS and we’ll send you the link.

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08/05/2026

So many men have no idea how much pleasure their body is capable of… because butt stuff is still (unfortunately) wrapped up in taboo, shame and old-school ideas of masculinity. Borrrrring!

But the prostate?
That little pleasure button that lives in your booty.....is very, very pleasurable.

And once a man has experienced how good it can feel when he feels safe, relaxed and open to exploring… yes, yes it can feel like an insane pleasure high 😅

Pleasure in your butt doesn’t make you less masculine.
It makes you more connected to your body.
It awakens your pleasure potentail even more.

This episode has something for everyone, so if you’re in a relationship with a dude, listen to this episode with him.

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07/05/2026

Hi lovelies!
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Lots of love
Jay-Jay & Mel xx

A podcast getting you in the right position for s*xual success. Hosts: Jay-Jay Feeney - trusted Kiwi radio voice and Melissa Vranjes - Certified S*x & Relationship Coach.

07/05/2026

3 Beginner-friendly butt play techniques 🍑

⭕️ Circles
Tracing the rim with your finger pad (use l**e) going clockwise then anti-clockwise. Explore with pressure and speed.

🪪 Credit Card
Using either your index finger or the outside of your palm or tongue 😉 and slowly “swiping” up and down over the 🍑 hole.

🔔 The Doorbell
Using your thumb or tongue and pressing in and out around the 🍑. Explore with intensity - you’re not trying to go inside, just activate the rim.

All of these can be done whilst stimulating another part of the body because blended pleasure is top tier 🤌🏼🤤

Enjoy x