14/05/2026
The 3 biggest lessons I’ve learnt as someone who has spent 20+ years of their life battling the taniwha (monster) of addictions.
Tuatahi - There is whakapapa (genealogical ties) to everything we do. Although I thought I was doing things for “fun”. There were soo many layers of pain I was avoiding and suppressing.
Tuarua - Blaming others and “societal norms” is not justification for my actions. Just because the consumption of alcohol and substances was perceived as normal, that did not make it okay.
Tuawha - In order to heal it, I need to feel it. All of my addictions were just a means to fill the internal void within me .
But, once I started revealing the whakapapa of my addictions, sitting and feeling all the things I had been suppressing. I was able to transmute the pain into power and free myself of the shackles of this taniwha.
At the end of the day, only I had the power to make that change and only I was choosing to remain a slave to the taniwha of addictions.