28/06/2025
When one partner breastfeeds, it’s common for the other to feel unsure about how to help, but the truth is, breastfeeding (especially in those early, hazy weeks) works best as a team effort. Whether it’s emotional support, practical help, or simply being present, there are plenty of ways to be involved in the feeding journey.
Here are some meaningful ways to contribute to the process:
» Be there, literally. Sit with them during feeds, especially the lonely night ones. Bring calm company, share stories, or just enjoy the quiet together.
» Take a breastfeeding class or watch videos together. Understanding how breastfeeding works helps you both feel more confident and informed. It also means you can help troubleshoot and encourage without guessing.
» Keep snacks and water within reach. Breastfeeding uses a lot of energy and requires constant hydration. Offer one-handed, easy-to-eat snacks and make sure their water bottle is always full.
» Handle the post-feed routine. Take over after the feed: burp the baby, change their nappy, and settle them back to sleep. This gives your partner a moment to rest and keeps you involved.
» Offer words of encouragement. Breastfeeding isn’t always easy. Celebrate the small wins, acknowledge the hard moments, and offer emotional support without trying to fix everything.
» Manage visitors and boundaries. Help protect your partner’s space by handling guests, setting boundaries, and keeping the atmosphere at home calm and supportive.
» Take over other care tasks. Whether it’s bathing the baby, changing nappies, or taking the baby out for a walk, every little thing helps your partner rest and recharge.
» Help track feeds and nappies (if needed). In the early days, keeping track can be useful for routines and health checks. Be the one to jot things down or update the app.
» Make the environment cosy. Arrange pillows, adjust lighting, and create a space where feeding can happen more comfortably, whether it’s on the couch or in a dedicated chair.
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