22/01/2025
NO FREE FAVORS FOR RELATIVES OR WANTOKS.
I experienced the struggles of both studying and working, I've learned a valuable lesson. I feel it is only necessary to share it with those who maybe facing the same. As you all know, nothing in life comes for free. Yet, there are always people, especially relatives and wantoks, who never contribute when you need help but will be the first to beg for favors or in most cases money, for free when you're working and earning.
I want to make this clear. No free favors. If you couldn't help me when I am struggling with my parents to pay my school fees, meet any expenses related to my studies, or even offer a word of encouragement, don't expect handouts from me when I'm working.
I have informed most of my Relatives and Wantoks that I'm going back to school now. They are aware. Some have offered to assist while some have given me negative feedbacks with usual reasonings of Haus Cry, Marriage and Compensation obligations. That's fine but I've promised myself that I will stand firm by my principle. Those who are genuinely helping me along the way will always have my respect and gratitude, but to those who are waiting on the sidelines just to benefit from my hard work, I'm sorry but the answer will always be a simple NO.
To my fellow students and professionals who've faced this, let's not feel bad for prioritizing fairness. Don't let cultural guilt or obligations force you into giving where it's not deserved. Let people learn the value of contributing before they come asking for a share of the rewards.
Support is earned, not begged. Let's stop the cycle of entitlement and build a future where hard work and fairness are respected.
Take it or leave it. Actions are actions and words are words.
Peace!
Christopher Leo 🙏