06/06/2025
Telling your partner how you feel should never turn into an argument.
And that’s so true.
Kapag nag-open up ang partner mo about their feelings, it doesn’t mean gusto nila ng away. It means they want to feel understood—na gusto lang nila ng connection, not conflict.
Pero minsan, the sad reality is, may mga relationships na kapag nag-express ka ng hurt or discomfort, people label it as “drama” or “kaartehan.”
Diyan talaga nagkaka-problema.
Healthy love makes room for emotions.
It listens first before reacting.
It doesn’t immediately get defensive.
Kasi kapag every time na mag-express ang isa sa inyo, nauuwi lagi sa conflict, one day, titigil na lang siya kakasabi.
And honestly? Silence can kill a relationship faster than an argument ever will.
Isa sa mga pinaka-importanteng natutunan ko is:
every time my partner shares what she feels, I try to put myself in her shoes.
I always ask myself:
• “What if ako ang naka-experience nun?”
• “Ano kaya ang mafe-feel ko?”
• “Paano kaya ako magre-react?”
• “Ano kayang pwede kong gawin para mapakalma ang situation?”
Kapag ganito ka mag-isip, mas madali mo talagang maintindihan ang partner mo.
Mas nakikita mo kung saan siya nanggagaling, and you don’t just react—you respond with care.
And that’s emotional maturity.
Na kapag may sinabi ang partner mo, hindi mo agad kinukuha ng personal.
Love is supposed to feel safe, especially sa communication.
And real communication isn’t just about talking—it’s about listening, too.
Because in real love, feelings are not threats… they’re bridges.
