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April Jean, Mandaue City (2025)

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21/07/2025

HINDI SYA BASTA NAGBAGO LANG.

Unti unti syang nagbago dahil sa paulit ulit nyang pagpapatawad at pagtitiis sa mga maliliit mong kasinungalingan na akala mo wala lang
Inubos mo siya hanggang sa wala nang natirang pagmamahal sa puso niya para sa’yo
Ngayon, kahit anong lapit mo
Wala na siyang nararamdaman

Akala mo ba habangbuhay kang mauunawaan
Akala mo ba lagi kang patatawarin
Akala mo ba hindi siya napapagod kahit paulit-ulit mo siyang sinasaktan

Saan ka humuhugot ng lakas ng loob para magsinungaling… Habang siya humuhugot ng lakas para manatiling totoo sa ‘yo

Hindi mo lang siya niloko
Nilamon mo unti-unti yung tiwala, yung respeto, at yung pagmamahal na ikaw lang sana ang makakakuha

At habang akala mo okay lang lahat, habang pinapatawad ka pa niya
Unti-unti ka na palang nawawala sa puso niya

Dahil ang tao, napapagod

Paulit-ulit niyang pinili ang magpatawad…
Hanggang sa isang araw, piliin na niyang manahimik

Hindi na dahil okay na siya kundi dahil ubos na siya
Wala na
Patay na lahat ng emosyon para sa ’yo

At ang masakit
Hindi mo man lang napansin

CTTO.

21/07/2025

Some men want to be forgiven without doing the work.
They want peace without accountability, healing without effort, and a second chance without changing a single thing.
They expect you to simply forget the pain they caused just because they finally decided to say “sorry,” as if an apology alone is enough to wipe away the damage.
But real forgiveness, the kind that leads to growth and healing, isn’t something you’re entitled to, it’s something you earn through consistent actions, not empty words.
You can’t break someone’s trust, wound their heart, and then expect everything to go back to the way it was without acknowledging the hurt or showing any intention to be better.
It doesn’t work like that. Love doesn’t mean overlooking repeated disrespect. And forgiving someone doesn’t mean erasing the truth of what happened.

You can’t just walk away from the damage you’ve caused and then circle back when it’s convenient for you, hoping to pick up where you left off.

That’s not love, that’s selfishness.

A man who truly regrets what he did will not only apologize, but he’ll take responsibility without excuses.

He will ask what he can do to make things right, and then actually do it. He will show up, even when it’s uncomfortable.

He’ll be patient with your healing, understanding of your hesitation, and committed to earning back the trust he lost.

So no, not every man deserves forgiveness just because he wants it.

Wanting to move on without doing the work isn’t growth; it’s avoidance.

And you deserve more than someone who only shows up when it's easy..
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18/07/2025

A woman will do everything she can to make her relationship work. She will stretch herself thin, bend in ways she shouldn’t have to, pour from an empty cup, and keep trying long after she’s run out of reasons...because when she loves, she loves hard. She gives with her whole heart, not halfway. She’ll fight for the relationship, even when she’s the only one swinging. She’ll carry the emotional weight, communicate, compromise, and forgive... sometimes more than she should.

She’ll try to understand the silence. She’ll make excuses for the distance. She’ll convince herself he’s just "going through something" or "needs time" because she believes in his potential, in what they could be.....if only he’d meet her halfway. She’ll stay up crying into her pillow, then wake up the next day and still try. She’ll love him through every version of himself, even the ones that hurt her. That’s how loyal she is.

But here’s the thing... when a woman finally walks away, she’s done. There’s no drama. No show. No threats. Just silence and distance. Because by the time she leaves, she’s already given every ounce of herself to make it work. She’s already cried the tears. Had the sleepless nights. Overanalyzed every word, every action, every red flag she tried to paint white. She tried. Lord knows she tried.

So when she walks away, she doesn’t regret it. She doesn’t second-guess it. Because she knows she did everything she could. She knows she stayed longer than she should have. She knows she gave chances he didn’t deserve. She knows she lowered her voice, her standards, her needs....all for the sake of love. So no, there’s no regret. Just relief. Freedom. Peace.

And that’s what makes her so powerful. Because when a woman decides she’s done, it’s not out of bitterness....it’s out of clarity. She’s not walking away because she doesn’t love him anymore... she’s walking away because she finally remembered how much she loves herself.

So if you ever lose a woman who gave her all, don’t fool yourself into thinking she’ll come back. She won’t. Because she knows the truth: she didn’t fail the relationship. The relationship failed her.
Ctto

18/07/2025

Giving him a hundred second chances won't make him treat you better.

Loving him with all your heart, or treating him like he's the best thing in the world, won't change him either.

You can't force someone to change.

And threatening to leave only to come back just keeps you stuck.

Sweetheart, you've tried everything-except leaving and staying gone.

If you're reading this, consider it your sign.

Take care of you first.
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17/07/2025

"Kaya kong patawarin ang asawa ko... hindi dahil sa nakalimutan ko ang sakit, kundi dahil may mas mahalaga akong iniisip —ang mga anak ko."

Hindi ko ikakaila, nasaktan ako.

Niloko ako.

Pinagpalit.

Pinagdudahan ang sarili ko.

Gabi-gabi akong umiiyak na tahimik para 'di marinig ng mga bata.

Sa umaga, kailangan ko pa ring ngumiti, magluto, at ayusin ang baon nila na parang walang nangyari.

Tinanggap ko lahat.

Hindi dahil mahina ako.

Hindi dahil martir ako.

Kundi dahil nanay ako.

Alam ko kung gaano kahalaga ang ama sa buhay ng isang bata.

Alam ko kung anong trauma ang pwedeng idulot ng hiwalayan.

At kahit punong-puno ng galit ang puso ko noon, pinili kong itikom ang bibig ko, pinili kong 'wag lasunin ang isipan ng mga anak ko laban sa ama nila.

Hindi madali.

Pero araw-araw akong pinapaalalahanan ng mga anak ko kung bakit ako lumalaban.

Pinapatawad ko sya, hindi dahil, deserve niya agad.

Pinapatawad ko siya para gumaan ang dalahin ko.

Para hindi na lumaki ang sugat na iniwan niya.

Pinapatawad ko siya para sa kapakanan ng mga batang walang kamalay-malay sa gulo ng mundo ng matatanda.

Dahil kahit ilang beses niya akong saktan bilang asawa hindi ko siya kayang alisin sa buhay niya bilang ama.

Hindi ko sinasabing ito ang tama para sa lahat.

Pero ito ang pinili ko-dahil ako ang nanay.

At minsan, ang pagiging magulang, mas malaki pa sa personal na pride, sakit, at galit.

☑️Thoughts & Realization:

• Hindi lahat ng pagpapatawad ay para sa taong nakasakit.

Minsan, para ito sa katahimikan ng puso at kapakanan ng mga anak.

• Ang tunay na lakas ay hindi laging paghihiwalay.

Minsan, ito'y ang pananatili sa kabila ng sugat—pero may hangganan din.

• Ang pagiging ina ay walang kapantay.

At kung may magagawa ka para protektahan ang emosyonal na mundo ng mga anak mo —gagawin mo, kahit pa masaktan ka.

☑️ Moral Lesson:

1. Minsan, kailangan mong lunukin ang pride mo hindi dahil mahina ka, kundi dahil matatag kang magulang.

2. Hindi mo kailangang sirain ang imahe ng ama sa paningin ng anak, kahit pa siya ang sumira ng mundo mo.

3. Ang pagpapatawad ay hindi palaging pagbabalik. Minsan, ito ay pagtanggap sa realidad-para sa kapayapaan ng lahat.

4. Hindi mo kontrolado ang kilos ng partner mo, pero kontrolado mo kung paano mo babangon para sa mga anak mo.
Ctto

16/07/2025

The more bills a woman pays by herself, the less attractive men become to her...not because she’s lost her desire for partnership, but because she’s grown tired of shouldering the weight alone. Every bill paid without help is a reminder that the kind of support and teamwork she hoped for isn’t there. It chips away at her hope for a partnership where burdens are shared, where love means showing up not just in words but in action.

When a woman carries her financial responsibilities solo, she learns to rely on herself in ways she never thought she would. She builds resilience, independence, and a fierce determination to create the life she wants without waiting for anyone to catch up. But with every step she takes alone, the idea of depending on a man loses its appeal. Why invite someone in when you already handle the heavy lifting? Why lower her standards when she knows what it means to be strong on her own?

Men become less attractive because she’s no longer looking for someone to simply be there. She’s looking for someone to stand with her. To meet her effort with effort, to share the load without hesitation, to be a partner in the truest sense of the word. And when she sees a man who can’t even step up to pay a bill or carry his share, it doesn’t just feel disappointing...it feels disrespectful.
Because paying bills isn’t just about money. It’s about showing up, valuing the relationship, and proving that you’re willing to contribute to a shared future. It’s about commitment that goes beyond empty promises.

So the more she pays on her own, the higher her standards rise. Because she knows her worth. Because she’s been the provider, the protector, the planner...sometimes all at once. And she’s realized that the right man won’t just want to be part of her life...he’ll want to lighten her load and build a future where the weight is shared equally.

That’s when men become truly attractive to her again....not when they just talk about partnership, but when they show it through action.
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16/07/2025

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16/07/2025

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16/07/2025

I will unfriend, uncousin, uncoworker, unfollow, unfamily a draining soul real quick.

I don’t care what your title is,
if your presence costs me my peace, you can go.

I’m not keeping people in my life out of guilt, history, or obligation anymore.

If you make everything about you…
If your energy is heavy every time you walk in the room…
If I feel more drained than supported after talking to you…
You’re not my people.

Blood doesn’t equal access.
Friendship doesn’t mean forever.
And loyalty doesn’t mean letting someone disrespect your boundaries repeatedly.

I’ve done enough self abandoning in my life.
Now?
I choose peace.
I choose growth.
I choose me.

And if that means hitting “unfriend” in real life too?
So be it.

You don’t owe anyone permanent access to a version of you they never respected in the first place.

©️Caty Sanders

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