01/10/2025
Never beg a man to be a father to his own child...‼️
Don’t plead for him to call, chase him to show up, or remind him of the moments that should matter. If he can walk away from his own flesh and blood—if he can close his eyes at night knowing his child is growing up without his love, guidance, or presence—that’s his failure, not yours.
You didn’t make that child alone, yet here you are, doing what mothers have always done: stepping up, showing up, and holding everything together with love and strength.
Yes, it hurts. It hurts when your child asks questions you shouldn’t have to answer. It hurts to pretend they don’t feel the absence of someone who should’ve been there. But forcing a man to care won’t make him a father—it’ll only drain you and leave your child with more questions than answers.
A real father isn’t defined by DNA. He’s defined by his actions—by showing up when it’s hard, choosing his child every single day, and loving without conditions. If he can’t do that, let him go. Life has a way of revealing the truth. One day, your child will see it too. They’ll know who stayed and who walked away. Who loved them through effort, and who only offered empty words.
And when that day comes, you won’t need to explain a thing. His absence will have already told the whole story. Karma may move slowly, but it never forgets. And there’s no regret deeper than a child realizing they weren’t worth the effort to the one person who should’ve given them everything.
📌 So don’t force what isn’t there.
Stand firm in the love you’re already giving.
Because your child doesn’t need a man who had to be dragged into their life...They need the mother who chose to stay. And that’s exactly who you are. 🥰🫶
